SgtSplacker
Master Don Juan
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Friend of over 20 years.
Been on and off with the female in question for over a year.
Made things official about a month ago. Things are getting serious.
Now I have had ups and downs with this girl for sure. I talk to my buddy about her (not any more) and he basically thinks she is crazy and honestly I can't blame him. For the year that we were on and off I really showed her what I am willing to deal with, and what i'm not dealing with. She understands this now and the [s h i t] tests are not happening any more. Things have sincerely changed, she is not the same person she was then. I may ask her in a couple months to move in with me. I have set limits and she has accepted them.
He thinks that she is capable of doing something crazy at his wedding. I don't think she will, and I know her best. He has not even met her so is going off of the things I have confided in him. (lesson learned, in the process of seeking advice and a second opinion I end up talking a bunch of [s h i t] about someone basically.)
What bothers me is that I feel I have this under control (and I do). But he is showing no faith (or respect) in me at all and this really bothers me. Not only this but this dude is something of an [a s s h o l e]. I'm always checking him in some way or another and fairly often. I mean we have been friends for a long time and I don't think this gives him a ticket to be disrespectful. We have had our own falling outs and it's always been him on the offensive. We game together and have many common interests and this has kept us friends. Hes the kinda person that will do something rude to you then get mad at you for responding to it. Or if you do something by mistake to him he will do the same to you on purpose. I spilled a little bit of beer on him once by mistake, he poured some of his beer onto my lap in front of people I worked with. I can't stand that crap.
The way I feel about this is that I am a very passive person, I try to be as cool as I can with my friends. But lately i'm not as forgiving as I once was. You piss me off and i'm not going to maintain communications with you until you do something nice and fix stuff with me. If you act jerky and don't maintain communications with me, i'm not going to contact you to be cool with you for being an [a s s] to me. Those days are over, no more cool SgtSplacker that forgives and forgets and assumes everyone has good intentions. Time to separate the wheat from the chaff and I like this better, i'm a happier person overall. My time is spent with people that really appreciate me, and I enjoy their company more overall.
So my bud expects me to be a groom at his wedding and invest my time and money on things like a suit and gifts and such, while my girl is not invited forcing me to go alone while everyone else is with their women. Which is a little embarrassing. I'm leaning towards not going myself, but i'm kinda torn between being a better man and going or forcing my friends to respect me. Mind you this is a major inconvenience for me because I have to either tell her and brave the [s h i t] storm, or hide the whole thing from her. Forcing me to lie which I really don't appreciate at all.
TL DR - My A-hole friend doesn't want my girl to go to his wedding and i'm considering not going at all. I'm a groom...
I mean after all if we were such good friends he would have a seat ready for my girl right? I know I would do the same for him. I will not tolerate being treated differently than everyone else for any reason.
Been on and off with the female in question for over a year.
Made things official about a month ago. Things are getting serious.
Now I have had ups and downs with this girl for sure. I talk to my buddy about her (not any more) and he basically thinks she is crazy and honestly I can't blame him. For the year that we were on and off I really showed her what I am willing to deal with, and what i'm not dealing with. She understands this now and the [s h i t] tests are not happening any more. Things have sincerely changed, she is not the same person she was then. I may ask her in a couple months to move in with me. I have set limits and she has accepted them.
He thinks that she is capable of doing something crazy at his wedding. I don't think she will, and I know her best. He has not even met her so is going off of the things I have confided in him. (lesson learned, in the process of seeking advice and a second opinion I end up talking a bunch of [s h i t] about someone basically.)
What bothers me is that I feel I have this under control (and I do). But he is showing no faith (or respect) in me at all and this really bothers me. Not only this but this dude is something of an [a s s h o l e]. I'm always checking him in some way or another and fairly often. I mean we have been friends for a long time and I don't think this gives him a ticket to be disrespectful. We have had our own falling outs and it's always been him on the offensive. We game together and have many common interests and this has kept us friends. Hes the kinda person that will do something rude to you then get mad at you for responding to it. Or if you do something by mistake to him he will do the same to you on purpose. I spilled a little bit of beer on him once by mistake, he poured some of his beer onto my lap in front of people I worked with. I can't stand that crap.
The way I feel about this is that I am a very passive person, I try to be as cool as I can with my friends. But lately i'm not as forgiving as I once was. You piss me off and i'm not going to maintain communications with you until you do something nice and fix stuff with me. If you act jerky and don't maintain communications with me, i'm not going to contact you to be cool with you for being an [a s s] to me. Those days are over, no more cool SgtSplacker that forgives and forgets and assumes everyone has good intentions. Time to separate the wheat from the chaff and I like this better, i'm a happier person overall. My time is spent with people that really appreciate me, and I enjoy their company more overall.
So my bud expects me to be a groom at his wedding and invest my time and money on things like a suit and gifts and such, while my girl is not invited forcing me to go alone while everyone else is with their women. Which is a little embarrassing. I'm leaning towards not going myself, but i'm kinda torn between being a better man and going or forcing my friends to respect me. Mind you this is a major inconvenience for me because I have to either tell her and brave the [s h i t] storm, or hide the whole thing from her. Forcing me to lie which I really don't appreciate at all.
TL DR - My A-hole friend doesn't want my girl to go to his wedding and i'm considering not going at all. I'm a groom...
I mean after all if we were such good friends he would have a seat ready for my girl right? I know I would do the same for him. I will not tolerate being treated differently than everyone else for any reason.