Moonlounger
Don Juan
Hey guys, are you automatically placed in the friend zone by the girlfriends of your friends?
A few of my good friends are currently in exclusive relationships, one for about a year and another for a few months.
The girl who's been with my friend for a year initially showed interest in me. I go shooting with her dad every once in a while, just never met her until about a year ago - I wasn't interested at the time, but clear interest was there on her part. Long story short, my friend who's dating her now also met her through her dad. The dynamic between me and her obviously changed when they started dating, and now she treats me like any other guy friend and I the same to her.
This got me thinking the other day, once that relationship dynamic changes, and a woman starts treating you like the friend of her boyfriend and you only really hang out in a group setting, are you pretty much in the friend zone forever?
My other buddy has been dating this other chick for a few months, I've been at two social gatherings with him and her, and there was some blatant interest on her part the first time. However, the second time it was there, but maybe not as strong.
To be honest, I'd definitely go after her if she was still single, but have no intention of messing up a good thing for her boyfriend/my friend. It was somewhat annoying hanging out with them - I was probably checking her out a little too obviously and flirting a bit even. Dude talks about banging her and how awesome she looks naked, how she comes from such a good family, is such a kind person etc, etc. He's pretty unaware of game, but has the body of a Greek god. She made a comment on how good my beard looks last time, and now my buddy is growing one. She said she wants to introduce me to her younger sister.
I got invited to a board game night with both friends and their girlfriends, and declined because I was busy, but also didn't want to be in that 3rd wheel social environment.
Alright, long story short, to increase any chance I have of ever getting with this chick, should I stop hanging out with him and her together and just attend "guys nights" instead? If I'm around in a friendly social setting, psychologically I think this paints me as a friend, even if it's subconscious.
They could eventually get married for all I know, and good for my buddy if that were to happen, but if she's ever single again, I'm going after that. Just trying to think long term here and maximize any odds in my favor. She's gotten to me a bit, though I'm still out there dating other women.
A few of my good friends are currently in exclusive relationships, one for about a year and another for a few months.
The girl who's been with my friend for a year initially showed interest in me. I go shooting with her dad every once in a while, just never met her until about a year ago - I wasn't interested at the time, but clear interest was there on her part. Long story short, my friend who's dating her now also met her through her dad. The dynamic between me and her obviously changed when they started dating, and now she treats me like any other guy friend and I the same to her.
This got me thinking the other day, once that relationship dynamic changes, and a woman starts treating you like the friend of her boyfriend and you only really hang out in a group setting, are you pretty much in the friend zone forever?
My other buddy has been dating this other chick for a few months, I've been at two social gatherings with him and her, and there was some blatant interest on her part the first time. However, the second time it was there, but maybe not as strong.
To be honest, I'd definitely go after her if she was still single, but have no intention of messing up a good thing for her boyfriend/my friend. It was somewhat annoying hanging out with them - I was probably checking her out a little too obviously and flirting a bit even. Dude talks about banging her and how awesome she looks naked, how she comes from such a good family, is such a kind person etc, etc. He's pretty unaware of game, but has the body of a Greek god. She made a comment on how good my beard looks last time, and now my buddy is growing one. She said she wants to introduce me to her younger sister.
I got invited to a board game night with both friends and their girlfriends, and declined because I was busy, but also didn't want to be in that 3rd wheel social environment.
Alright, long story short, to increase any chance I have of ever getting with this chick, should I stop hanging out with him and her together and just attend "guys nights" instead? If I'm around in a friendly social setting, psychologically I think this paints me as a friend, even if it's subconscious.
They could eventually get married for all I know, and good for my buddy if that were to happen, but if she's ever single again, I'm going after that. Just trying to think long term here and maximize any odds in my favor. She's gotten to me a bit, though I'm still out there dating other women.
I saw the same women on a dating site and was going to email her but she disappeared. A month later my friend and her are exclusive. Snooze you lose. :crackup:
