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Monk Mode in the Hinterland

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[Urban Dictionary]Monk Mode : The state of being completely focused on and only on training. In monk mode, there are no women, no alcohol, no fun, ONLY training.


MONK MODE: STRONGER, SMARTER, MORE REFINED

The Magic of being in Monk Mode


Time to pull focus and get on it. Monk mode is about the only way I can accomplish anything. I forgo all distractions and focus on a goal. For the rest of this year I am pulling monk mode to focus on health, finances and professional success. What else do I have to do?
 

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Warrior74 said:
Monk mode is about the only way I can accomplish anything.

Good luck, man. I've pulled a "Monk Mode" a few years ago: it's amazing how quickly you can accomplish goals when focused at an obsession level.
:rockon:

I am also in the pursuit of less, which was the prompt for book writer dude, too. There is just so much trival crap bombarding us in our modern lives, the spam drowns out the important.

SO, we won't be seeing you posting much for a while, eh?
 

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Implement a concrete modus operandi. Where are your efforts directed: starting a new, or growing an existing, business; training/dieting? What exactly?

Business:
Do you have concrete goals for your marketing campaign? Who are you targeting and where are you securing your leads? Telemarketing, advertising, door-to-door? How many prospects will you be soliciting a day? What infrastructure for follow ups?

Training/Dieting: Concrete goals for number of training sets, specific amount of time each day committing to cardio; how many times weekly? Exact caloric intake a day? Macro nutrient intake percentage: carb, fat, protein %?
 

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guru1000 said:
Implement a concrete modus operandi. Where are your efforts directed: starting a new, or growing an existing, business; training/dieting? What exactly?
I was going to ask what his goals were, too.

Without knowing it, I "monked up" when I "used the nuclear option" on my previous life. I sold my x-box, T.V., and moved my things into storage in order to sleep in my car for 3 years, then two more years afterwards "part time". I had two, then 3 jobs to "slingshot" financial progress. Wow, what a crazy, wild ride! To be sure, it was an eye opening experience.

Best of all? The results. I still don't have a TV, and I live in a wonderland of my own creation. I put myself out in the boonies with my own land: I don't want to leave "monk mode" as it has become my lifestyle.

And I don't see much out in the world that makes me want to re-insert myself into that matrix.

What goals are you focusing on, Warrior74?
 

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This is my journal. It will be filled with the things I have done and learned, not the things I plan to do.

It's been nearly 2 weeks since I bought my last pack of cigarettes. I've switched over to vaping. I have made it a habit to avoid most of the smokers I know and to always have my vap with me at all times. I have been allowing myself to have 1 cigarette per day.

I have had 4 alcoholic beverages in the last two weeks.

I have started doing body weight exercises and daily walks over the last two weeks. I am feeling better physically and mentally.

I am 37lbs from my goal as of last weigh in.

I have secured a partnership on a photography venture to bring in side revenue. I've found a market and secured everything to make it happen. I've shot promo pieces over the last week with two different models.

I've cast the actors for my short film and finished my treatment.

I have been crushing it at the day job by being pleasantly professional, meeting deadlines and providing prompt services for my clients.
 

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I've done this before, had no clue their was a term for it. I referred to it as my "hermitage". As others have said it's pretty amazing how much you can accomplish when you cut out the distractions.

In fact I just decided over the weekend that I need to embark on another hermitage. I've got things to work on but I find myself too distracted.

Monk mode now, beast mode later.
 

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That's great Warrior, and I fully support your efforts.

Keep in mind, without concrete, written goals, you will commit to activities in accordance with how you "feel," as opposed to what you "must" do.
 

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I've done this before, had no clue their was a term for it. I referred to it as my "hermitage". As others have said it's pretty amazing how much you can accomplish when you cut out the distractions.

In fact I just decided over the weekend that I need to embark on another hermitage. I've got things to work on but I find myself too distracted.

Monk mode now, beast mode later.
 

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guru1000 said:
Keep in mind, without concrete, written goals, you will commit to activities in accordance with how you "feel," as opposed to what you "must" do.
Yep. Without an "X" on your map, you'll have no use for a compass. That is, you'll be wandering around aimlessly in the woods with no idea where you're going. You could tell us that "life is a journey, not a destination", but that's silly. You have desires, right?

Well, perhaps part of your "monk mode" introspection will make your ambitions better known to you.

Good luck! :up:
And, congratulations for quitting smoking.
 

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Game Observations.

Last night I had a photo shoot with one of my models. 22 years old, hippy artist chic, bounces from job to job either serving or working with animals. I would put her at 6-7. Mainly she's just young and skinny not terribly pretty or feminine, but cute enough for some practice photos. She can't stand other girls, she has mostly guy friends and one female friend. Lives with two guys.

I make it a point to friend zone myself with them. I do not need the reputation of the leech photographer this early in the game.

So she kept checking her phone during the shoot. I told her to turn it off for the duration. My shoot, my rules. After we finish, we step outside to smoke, her phone blows up with missed texts. Turns out that some guy wants to take her to the movies and wanted to come pick her up and was checking to see if she wanted weed or food. This guy was so deep in the friend zone it's not even funny. She tells me how he always wants to hang out with her, if she posts on FB that she's bored he will text her and take her out to eat or to the movies. When she's posted art supplies or clothes she wants he buys them for her. She says he awkwardly hits on her but she always shuts him down quickly. She doesn't see him that way. Then she tells me how she messed up by saying that she's single and she hopes he doesn't think these are dates. lol. Beta Bux.

I told her 'but you aren't single'. She denies it. So I explain, every halfway decent girl has somebody. Even if it's just someone they are fcuking. She then tells me about 2 guys in two different cities. One in prison and the other who "won't get serious" but will come in town once a month to hit it. lol. Alpha Fux.

I ask her about this beta orbiter guy. He's a nice guy, kinda boring, skinny. No real hobbies just hangs around the art scene not really fitting in. No game. No manhood. No mission.

I ask about the other guys. One a scumbag lowlife junkie thief but he's really a good guy deep down, the other owns a bar in another city and always has girls around. Dark Triad. Game. Mission.

I asked her had she ever hooked up with her male friends. She said a couple, but either they got weird on her or they stopped hanging around after a while. Dat one-itis yo, dat hit it and quit it yo. I asked her had she ever slept with a photogher. She said 2. Then I asked her how many had she worked with. She said I made number 3. LOOOOOL. Dat attention yo.

She asked me if I was single. I explained that I was, my last two plates spun out (I phrased it differently of course). And that I'm working on my screenplay, my hustle and saving up money for my business so I really don't have time for it. I made sure she knew I only saw her as a friend.

We talked further about life careers and the future. She really has no idea what she's doing in life. Just following the flow maaan (girls use man and dude way to much these days, not very feminine).

It's fun to watch the game play out in real life from the side lines. I know it would be even more fun to play, but right now the goal is to stay on mission.
 

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Good to hear from you, Warrior. I was in quasi-monk mode last winter. I didn't set goals as well as I should have but I did enjoy the solitude and silence, and the money it saved me. Anyway you sound like you're doing better, good luck.
 

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Glad to hear you are doing well, Warrior.

I've done this as well, I just called it my "Sabbatical".
I had quite the void between 2011 and 2014 where I just stopped popping up on SoSuave and dating in general and dedicated the year/s to myself. It's worked out well for me. I look forward to reading all about your Monk Mode.
 

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My Sabbatical has not been going well. While I am down 10lbs and I have slowly begun to work on my wardrobe. Everything has come to a screeching halt.

My second job and base of operations for my side business shut down shortly after I started this thread. A long time friend of mine allowed me to operate out of his offices as I had absolutely nothing after two years unemployment. I gave him substantial marketing advice which he admits kept him in business longer than he would have been on his own. He made some bad choices after I left for a full time job and trusted the wrong people and they tanked his business. So now my secondary income is gone and my access to equipment and meeting spaces for my clients is gone.

I have nothing but a 9-5 Just Over Broke (JOB). I literally have 40-50 bucks left at the end of the month. Back to square one. The goal now is to get my own office equipment at home and start earning. In haven't figured out how to do that yet as I have zero resources. I'll figure something out even if it's just getting a second job and putting all of my plans on hold for another 3 months.

See you guys in a couple of months with another update.

*Edit* As for women. Not even on my radar. Seriously they are just a financial responsiblity I can't have at the moment. I don't even want to spend gas to go see one. My female friends on the other hand have come in handy. I have one who cooks and buys me food and another who is trying to find me a few things I need to make some money. Both are married so there is no sexual issue besides their husbands wondering why they are doing all of this for me.
 

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Warrior I hear you on that my friend, I’ve been there. I personally feel that a man needs to have his house in order before he should be worrying about women. When I was flat broke I hated the idea of feeling like I would be counting pennies while on a date, almost like the cab fare meter is rolling. The anxiety is terrible, it puts you in a weak position. Take care of your business and once you’re on better footing you’ll be able to paint the town red!!
 

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What a great bunch of folks thanks for letting me learn from you all. Warrior74 you will get their love yourself with a fierceness that leaves no trace of confusion.
 

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Down 12lbs now.
It's been 75 hours since my last cigarette. I feel alot better, the cravings are subsiding.
Completed a freelance job to pay off my tickets.
I've read 2 books on marketing and 1 on building sales funnels.
Implementing these techniques into my online business.
Perusing my photography and film hobby by working on local small projects for fun.
Stopped giving a **** about my entry level corporate job, this is just a check. I do my job, ignore the drama and collect the check. I will never climb the ladder here. My exit strategy is in place.
No lifting until I can get these debts paid and then go to a rehab specialist to look at my shoulder.
I either make women useful or I ignore them. Won't lie, I've been raring to go lately, but I don't have the time to put into chasing women.
 

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I've switched over to vaping. I have made it a habit to avoid most of the smokers I know and to always have my vap with me at all times. I have been allowing myself to have 1 cigarette per day.
Here's how I quit:

http://www.google.ca/url?url=http:/...QQFjAC&usg=AFQjCNE8tlqLK48sAOGQDOE3_6phB1AWtw

Book cost me two packs of cigarettes. Best investment I ever made. I've been smoke-free for 8 years. The first day smoke-free is awful, but that book helped me become determined to quit. After the first day, it kept getting easier. If you develop another "non-addictive" habit while quitting smoking, don't worry about it. It's not hard to quit that one afterwards (mine was eating breathmints)
 

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Desdinova said:
Here's how I quit:

http://www.google.ca/url?url=http:/...QQFjAC&usg=AFQjCNE8tlqLK48sAOGQDOE3_6phB1AWtw

Book cost me two packs of cigarettes. Best investment I ever made. I've been smoke-free for 8 years. The first day smoke-free is awful, but that book helped me become determined to quit. After the first day, it kept getting easier. If you develop another "non-addictive" habit while quitting smoking, don't worry about it. It's not hard to quit that one afterwards (mine was eating breathmints)

Thanks. I've read it, unfortunately that book seems to only work once. I did quit for a year after reading it but I relapsed. I've given up the vaping as it was too much like smoking and going with gumand mints. :up:
 

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I made it through my first week as a non-smoker.
I'm down another pound on this weeks weigh in.

This weeks goal is to continue to be a non-smoker, start cardio, earn some quick money, practice dominate body language and eye contact and finish my details on my product launch. I've already started with a walk/jog this morning at 6am and I've found several tools to help with my product launch.

Back to silent mode for a while.
 
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