Hello everyone here, I bow down before the collective male wisdom of the modern internet age :woo:
I'm wondering if you guys could give me some advise on handling the divorce settlement talk that I'm about to have with the stbxw.
Background:
27yrs old, married for 5 years. No kids. Wife does not work, I'm the official bread winner of the family. The marriage is sexless the past 2 years. I work from home most of time, so I also help out with a bit of housework. W is an amazing hottie, advanced yogi, amateur competitor in ballroom dance, very musically talented. Me, custom interior consultant, pulls in very, very decent money.
2 month ago the W meets a couch surfing jobless traveling musician and gets into a full blown affair. They literally ****ed the day the met. Now she lives in a fog with this man, and refused to stop the affair, citing lack of chemistry between her and me.
She brought the man home and I moved out. When I moved out, I brought the family dog out with me. She treats the dog as baby, and at first throated to call cops on me for stealing the dog, but since I went no contact with her, she claims that she will stop the affair and "try to work out the family" if I bring the dog back.
I talked with my lawyer already and fairly determined to get a D. She wants to talk to me ASAP, but I told her I won't be in town until Sunday so I can get some homework done before meeting her. I need time to prepare the settlement proposal and learning about the female psychology that the stbxw is going through right now.
Guys, I'll admit, I'm not very logically coherent now. Since I found out about the affair I've being in a daze. ****ing up work, running red lights unconsciously, losing about 15lbs in2 weeks. So I'm not even quite sure what's the question I should be asking you guys.
All I know is.. above is my situation. Comments?
I'm wondering if you guys could give me some advise on handling the divorce settlement talk that I'm about to have with the stbxw.
Background:
27yrs old, married for 5 years. No kids. Wife does not work, I'm the official bread winner of the family. The marriage is sexless the past 2 years. I work from home most of time, so I also help out with a bit of housework. W is an amazing hottie, advanced yogi, amateur competitor in ballroom dance, very musically talented. Me, custom interior consultant, pulls in very, very decent money.
2 month ago the W meets a couch surfing jobless traveling musician and gets into a full blown affair. They literally ****ed the day the met. Now she lives in a fog with this man, and refused to stop the affair, citing lack of chemistry between her and me.
She brought the man home and I moved out. When I moved out, I brought the family dog out with me. She treats the dog as baby, and at first throated to call cops on me for stealing the dog, but since I went no contact with her, she claims that she will stop the affair and "try to work out the family" if I bring the dog back.
I talked with my lawyer already and fairly determined to get a D. She wants to talk to me ASAP, but I told her I won't be in town until Sunday so I can get some homework done before meeting her. I need time to prepare the settlement proposal and learning about the female psychology that the stbxw is going through right now.
Guys, I'll admit, I'm not very logically coherent now. Since I found out about the affair I've being in a daze. ****ing up work, running red lights unconsciously, losing about 15lbs in2 weeks. So I'm not even quite sure what's the question I should be asking you guys.
All I know is.. above is my situation. Comments?