Everyone around me looked so happy with their lives, getting girls, successful in life and all that sh!t, but I felt so left out. I was frustrated because I had never had a girl friend before. I was fed up with my life. There was this girl I had oneitis for. I wanted a change and ended up here. After coming on these forums my life has changed drastically. I'm more confident, my lifestyle and mindset have improved, and life is just more enjoyable. Before I would be that nervous, insecure AFC wreck who was depressed and desperate to get the girl, and I would dwell on failure after failure after failure. Now I could give a hot damn about whether I get the girl or not. I just want to become experienced. I never got the girl who I had oneitis for, but now I know WHY I didn't. I was too busy putting her on a pedestal and was too afraid to act because I thought about the outcome too much. Today, I don't really care that I didn't get her. I'm actually grateful for the experience. In fact, I had a crush on her for about 6-8 months and I only had a few conversations with her. Our relationship didn't really go anywhere. It turned out that it took my best friend about a week to have a sort of relationship with her
(they became friends w/ benefits), yet it took me months to even try to talk to her. I was very jealous and, of course, emotionally hurt. VERY
. I still haven't had any type of relationship yet, but now I know it's not about getting the girl. It's about being happy with life in general. Ever since I've came here, my life has changed. I've gotten way better with girls then I was before and have gotten happier in my life, but I still have a lot of things to learn down the road.