LuckyStrike88
Don Juan
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This is really good stuff. And exactly what happened in my last relationship. What i am trying to figure out now is why i shifted... In the beginning she was all over me, when we were in the car i literately had to tell her to keep it down with the kissing and the touching because it got annoying and sometimes remotely dangerous. We watched a lot of movies but i still have no idea what they were about because she was constantly all over me. I had to always be the one to push her away from me. And i felt very in control, there was always that tension that she was putting in more than me and it seemed that's what made her feel good. And it made me feel good as well, it was the hottest girl i had.Peaks&Valleys said:Here's how I take it.
Girl breaks up with you. Where did it go wrong?
At the beginning of the relationship her attraction was sky high....right? No? Oh, that's where it went wrong. YOU should have never made her your girlfriend in the first place. LESSON LEARNED.
At the beginning of the relationship her attraction was sky high....right? Yes! Great, what happened? Oh, YOU started pandering to her every want and desire. YOU dropped all your friends. YOU started cooking whatever meal she wanted every night. YOU did everything you could to make her feel good. Well.....that is why she lost attraction for you. YOU lost all track of yourself and turned into a beta b1tch boy. That's not her fault, it's yours. LESSON LEARNED.
When you are in this dynamic it is so easy to pull back from her, and go do your own things. And just spent time with her when you want it the most. Instead we were together too much, she drew me to her and i passively accepted. And i accepted things i shouldn't have, got too available. And she lost attraction gradually, possibly felt like she had no more challenge or anything to work for. And she changed on me, got annoyed by little things, started testing me more. I lost had my power, and she ended it with a lame excuse. And stopped talking to me.
I'm thinking now, maybe i was rewarding her for her interest in me. But with "niceness" ? It seems like a trap i fell into, got careless. Anyone recognizing something like this? And elaborate on why i, or maybe more men do this? And how to prevent this from happening?