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Fingering in the Club (or anywhere)

A. Smith

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I read this post here years ago: Very Random #Close http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=113869

The short version is, the poster in that thread identifies interested girls and then escalates to fingering in private situations in public spaces. This works best if the girl is wearing a skirt or something similar, like a party dress.

I've used this technique quite a bit at the local dance club and I can assure you that many more girls are into getting fingered than they are with making out, at least in my experience. I ask the girl to dance, which in context means grinding. Once you find someone who agrees to dance with you, see how into it she is. Some girls are kind of tepid about it, others will bend over a little and start enthusiastically rubbing her butt against your erection, or soon to be erection.

A lot of times, even if the girl does agree to dance with you, she'll stop after a minute or two. If she's still pretty into you after a good minute or two, consider making a move, or see if she is making a move on you.

I usually put my hands on the front of the girl's thighs. It's just bony leg there. Some girls are less comfortable with that position and will move your hands back to her hips or off of her altogether. Just go with whatever she wants, and maybe she'll warm up as time goes on, or not.

With my hands flat on the front of her legs, sometimes she'll put her hands on mine but not move them away. I usually like to play "handsies" then, just kind of playing with her hands and fingers, playfully. If she takes your hands, puts her legs together, and runs her and your hands down the middle, that is a very good sign. You should definitely try to lightly at first feel her up.

If she seems into grinding, but isn't making any move like that, then put your hands together and hold them around her waist, your hands will be roughly where a belt buckle would be. You can then lightly let your hands drop, just check her reaction and escalate or back down as appropriate.

In my experience, even if she doesn't want to get fingered, she'll usually still keep grinding with you.

I've also used variations of this technique during the day in a hostel, or while waiting in a long line. And as mentioned in the post above, this should also work well in places such as the movies or on public transportation.

Notes:

1) Interest is key, if she's not into it, back off.
2) I'm mostly talking about cl!t, start at her pelvic bone and then bring your hand back (up) a little if you are behind her. Usually a little below her panty line is a good reference.
3) Start on the outside of her dress/ skirt. If it is clear that she's down, you can lift her skirt and go for the outside of her panties. A little cover usually helps, her girlfriend dancing across from you with some other guy is usually best. If she's really into it she may not care who's watching (you will attract attention at this point). If she's really really into it, you can try going under her panties.
 

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remember when your ass is sitting in that cell for the weekend, that your dumbass deserved it and no one will have sympathy for you.
 

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Make sure to use a condom and practice safe sex.

I can just see the look on a girl's face when you pull out a surgical glove and some douche.
 

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Fatal Jay said:
remember when your ass is sitting in that cell for the weekend, that your dumbass deserved it and no one will have sympathy for you.
Agree

but it will probably not be just for the weekend.

I can't advise enough against touching stranger coochie in public places. The wrong person sees that, and "the victim" isn't very enthusiastically enjoying it (what if her BF/WK/AFC/CB fat friend suddenly comes along, think coochie's gonna take your side as opposed to playing the victim?), and you could be in for a world of pain, especially in this day and age. Go outside, in a bathroom, anywhere she had to voluntarily go with you to get to.
 

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This post has nothing to do with anything illegal, unwanted, forced, or anything like that. There really isn't even any nudity. I'm only talking about consent based activities, enthusiastic consent actually. I realize this may not work in all areas, but for the past few months I can definitely say that there have been more girls that I've touched down there (usually through one to two layers of clothing) than there have been girls that I've made out with.

For what it's worth, most if not all of the clubs here have infrared (night vision) video surveillance, and have for a long time. There is always a cop parked out front, presumably mostly for underage drinking, but still. Uniformed cops occasionally walk through the dance floor, presumably to use the bathroom. Even if the cameras and cops weren't there, her girlfriends are. Often her girlfriends are ok with it - they can clearly see that she's into it. Other times they ****block us, even when it was obvious that she was happy to keep going. I've been ****blocked by girls way more than I've ever been ****blocked by guys.

Start with a neutral pickup, I usually go for the waist or shoulder, whichever is easier to reach, and then ask her to dance. Plenty of girls will say 'no' (or I have a boyfriend, and he's here, etc. etc.). Some nights are better than others, and some places this may not work at all, but if there are a few other couples grinding on the dance floor, the chances are good that one will eventually say yes and back herself into you. You establish clear, unambiguous interest first - presumably this interaction would show up on camera. If things are going well, consider escalating, she may be more into it than you'd ever expect.
 

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To reiterate, it's a bad idea to be seen anywhere in public, even in a dark club, with your hand up a strange woman's cooch, get in private before doing stuff like that, then go to town.

I just don't want young, inexperienced men reading/lurking here to go out and start trying to do things like this in public. You need to consider the audience here before giving this kind of risky advice. Don't end up in jail, on a sex offender registry, or beaten half to death by WKs, CBs and bouncers. Kissing is fine in public, not fingering.
 

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If you are a young guy and new to the game this probably appeals to you a lot more. I've seen my wife's ***** 100's of times, when I hit a club the only thing I want to go and do is dance [get my exercise]. Also the kind of woman who is going to let you do this to her in public, isn't really the kind of woman you want to take home to mom. Christ, my wife won't even let me kiss her in a public place but as soon as the 'home' door closes, her clothes are off.

OP, I'm not sure what the dating scene is like in America, maybe you need to do this type of stuff. Just from personal experience though, I've always found that its best to use a nightclub to get a woman you are with all steamy and fired up. Lots of dancing, push-pull hand holding and having fun creates sexual tension between you two... I think touching her on her 'sex spots' would deflate the mounting pressure. The idea is she will explode on you when she gets you alone. Think about when you are horny as fck, being watching porn non stop and then a pretty girl starts teasing and flirting with you in public... all you can think of is 'goddamn woman, what I would do to you, if there was no one around'. The best places/ways to do touching in public, are in a crowded area, quickly grab her boobs or butt and watch her mouth drop, make sure its somewhere this would be very socially unacceptable and only do it for a split second. You want to be the guy who has the 'audacity' to make a smash and grab not the pervert who wants to out her as a slut. Remember, you always want to be the bad guy so she can always play the sweet innocent ignorant 'virgin' for you...especially around her friends... to women social status and face is VERY important.


That's kind of the name of the game, get the woman obsessing and fantasizing about you first, then the sex will be mind blowing for her, make her initiate and touch you. I know, while my wife has two left feet, she loves to sit and watch me dance... I guess cause all the women have their eyes on me, makes her want to 'mate guard'. I used to have a girlfriend who would grab my ass during class (adults) and say "Mine, ok?!". It was really inappropriate but she couldn't stop herself, I did the groundwork... that's the kind of response you should be going for.

I do this simple dance and women lose their ****, wife included.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x6QA3m58DQw

Anyway, that's just my two cents... I don't know how things are in Ameristan, I live in Asia. If you do a bit of dancing in Asia, it'll bring you alot more than a sticky finger afterwards.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rcaCrUMzUHY <-- Illustrated perfectly: Chicks want to pretend they are candy pop in public but when the doors are closed they become 'demonic sluts'. Don't out them before they're ready.
 
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A little background:

The first time I did this, like perhaps all of my "firsts", it was 100% initiated by the girl. Hispanic girl with her friend, just the two of them, I hadn't seen them dancing with anyone else. She had an unusually long dress, down to the knees perhaps, whereas most of the girls wear very short dresses. The floor was mostly empty around us, and the lights were relatively bright. I asked her to dance, she agreed, and I started grinding with her as usual. She was into it, it doesn't always happen that way. Anyway, she kept going low, very low actually, and I couldn't quite figure out why. I had my hands close in, but I wasn't going for it. It took a few minutes and a few hints from her, but eventually my hand got under her and she didn't have any underwear on.

She and her friend kind of giggled and laughed at that point. Good fun. We kept dancing and touched a few more times. That was it. We went our separate ways.

A few weeks later I ended up at a gay club with some friends. I danced with my friends for a bit, and then after a while I started wandering around. I saw a guy and a girl grinding with another girl in front of her (her friend). So, I figured that they were straight or at least open to straight grinding. This club was packed and excited, and the girls were open to face to face grinding with each other. As I recall I just kind of worked my hand in and they were just fine with it. A bit risky perhaps, but I guess I was feeling in a risky mood that night.

Feeling a bit bolder I guess with my newfound knowledge, I tried this back at the regular club with some Asian girls I was grinding with, and they were like no, and just left me. So, I backed off and just went back to regular grinding, which is still pretty fun in itself.

I always keep looking though for girls who might be open to a little more. I think I just got better over time with knowing which signs to read, and which ways to test if the girl is open to this or not.

This past weekend there were two girls facing each other with two guys grinding behind them. I tried to get in between them but there wasn't really any room. So, I stuck my arm in. The one girl had her eyes closed the whole time in a "you can do whatever you want to me as long as it feels good" kind of way, and the other girl had her eyes open and actually moved in closer. I touched both at least a little bit, and then eventually one of the guys pushed my away, so I left.

I'm quite certain that the girls would have let me do a lot more had the guy not pushed me away. And yet, the guys themselves weren't trying anything. I'm pretty sure that those guys could have gotten more action than they actually did.

Long story short: if you're good at grinding, as those guys this past weekend clearly were, consider going a bit further. If you don't want to that's fine, but you may be leaving pvssy on the table that could have been yours.


LifeFreeX: Good points, if I were married or had a girlfriend I'd probably do something similar to what you describe. No point releasing all of your energy at the club if you know that you'll be getting action at home. That said, I've been to clubs many times, and I think that going home with a stranger is a lot rarer than people think, or maybe it just happens at places that I never go. I don't really know, and at this point I don't really care. I think going home with a stranger is risky, and logistically complicated actually, at least in America. I'm usually content with grinding, or perhaps some grinding plus. I have been to Asia and I agree that hookup is significantly easier there, particularly at clubs.
 

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Fingerin chicks in clubs eh? Looks like you'll be driving home with one hand out the car window! Sort of like opening a tuna fish can while off-roading.
 

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I've done this to my GF in public but would never, ever do it in public with a strange chick. No way. :nono:
 

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I programmed my hologram to fingerbang chicks on the dance floor.

...it's got warts all over it's fingers, now.
 

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I got fingered in a club by a stranger for the first time a couple days ago, it was hot and it was amazing. This guy, who's name I don't even know now, came over to me and my friends and put his hand on my hips and started dancing and grinding up against me. So of course I gave him a kiss and that quickly turned into a heavy make out session, we barely separated for air. His hands roamed up and down my ass and he cheekily slipped his hand under my dress a few times giving me a poke over my thong. Then he took my hand and led me over to a seat where I straddled him and we continued our insanely good make out, the his hand wandered and he started rubbing me and then he expertly slipped his finger in and out and in and out, while I moaned with pleasure into our kisses. Unfortunately the whole experience got cut short because unknown to me in my drunken state, my dress had ridden up and it turns out I was flashing the whole club and the manager got mad at us so we had to stop. I saw the guy again later that evening but nothing more than some deep kissing happened. So needless to say I was left entirely unsatisfied with the whole night, and much to my misfortune my friends caught the whole thing on snapchat, so I'm never living this one down. (Side note: this is not uncommon in clubs where I'm from, but I do regret the experience no matter how good it was as I woke up the next morning feeling utterly embarrassed because I don't know how many people saw me doing it, I would definitely do it again, just as long ass my clothes cover my body)
 
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