Well, this is quite an old post
Geez...You got that right! This post is over a year old now.
there are girls that do not lock eye contact with me. I just do not know the reason why. Are they shy,uncomfortable,scared of me or they're just simply not interested.??
Good question! Let me see if I can clear some of this up for you.
Here's a couple of scenarios that have happened to me recently.
Scenario # 1
I'm walking through the mall, looking through the window of a store. I turn my eyes back to see where I'm going and lock eyes with this nice looking woman. Simultaneously, we both turned our heads away from each other and kept on walking.
Now it's time to start digging to get the answer of Why Did I Break Eye Contact?
From what I saw, I was definitely somewhat interested. That's just it. I didn't have time to size the woman up. I just got a look at her face. I need to check out the whole package from head to toe before I decide to hold eye contact or not. I think this is true of women also. Maybe one of the girls here can verify this.
I think it was just a natural response to break eye contact. I knew I couldn't get busted checking out her body while she's looking at me, so I just turned away. This is exactly what I think happened to the woman. She didn't have time to check me out either. So to avoid the embarrassment of being busted, we both turned our eyes away from each other.
As mention in the original post. Eye contact creates a highly emotional state similar to fear. This is where the phrase "Fight or Flight" comes from. Since I didn't want to enter a FIGHT without knowing what I was getting into (checking out the whole package), then the human response is to take FLIGHT.
Scenario # 2
I enter a strip club and sit down at a table. Before I knew it, one of the girls is tapping me on the back asking me if I'd like a table dance. I quickly respond with the answer NO.
As she walks away all dejected, I slap myself upside the head, because she's got the perfect look that I like in a girl.
So, again I have to ask myself why I turned down a table dance from a girl that absolutely turns me on.
And again, I come up with the same answer. I didn't have the time to check her whole package out. Since she approached me from behind, I only got a look at her face.
Then there's the girl that I did have time to check out. She also had that look that turns me on. But this time I was prepared to FIGHT.
So now I have to get her attention. What did I do? I locked eyes with her and gave her a smile. Her first response was to turn her head away, but within seconds she turned back and re-established eye contact. Since I was still holding eye contact with her, she knew I was interested. If I would've broke eye contact when she looked back, then she probably would've kept on walking.
Let's move on to the "Shy, Interested Girl."
Scenario # 3
I'm getting my hair cut at a Supercuts store, when in comes the cashier girl. She's too young for me, but still a female to practice on. She was sure cute though, so I wanted to let her know that I was pleased with what I saw.
Since I had time to check her out, I was prepared to hold eye contact with her. So I start watching her. Then we lock eyes and what do you think her response is? Since I caught her by surprise, her response was to look away.
I bet you're thinking she's not interested. If you thought that, then you're WRONG. I kept watching her after she broke eye contact. Within seconds, I watched her slowly but surely take another look through the corner of her eyes. She locks eyes with me again and this time she knows she's been busted trying to check me out. I just smiled at her and she smiled back. This went on for the rest of my haircut.
Now the "Uninterested Girl."
Scenario # 4
Walking through the mall, and I see a girl coming toward me. I had time to check out the package and liked what I saw. She also had the opportunity to check me out.
We're now close enough to make eye contact. We lock eyes and then she breaks eye contact. Still watching her eyes, I say hello and give her a smile. She re-establishes eye contact and gives me a fake smile back. Then she breaks eye contact again and keeps on walking.
I'm picking up some bad vibrations from her, but want to make sure she's not interested. I do this by continuously watching her to see if she looks back after she's already past. She never turned back. An interested woman will look back. Even a shy girl will look back when she thinks the coast is clear.
if eye pupil dilation do show real interest level, how can we rely on it?
Forget about this!! It's just a waste of time. There are many things that can cause the pupils to dilate.
After making eye contact, focus on the reaction of the girl. Her actions will tell the tale. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/wink.gif