Originally Posted by Howiestern
I was in a 15year relationship where there was never any drama. Yes it was nice not having to deal with the drama, but a little drama is healthy for a relationship. Its helps two people feel connected once the dust settles. It lets each other feel there is passion. A woman has got to have this because when she doesn't, she'll think she doesn't have "feelings" for you any more and go looking elsewhere! Trust me on that one.
I totally agree with this. "Drama free" can be really dangerous. In my experience, in an LTR, if there is NO drama, then that girl will likely look at wandering or breaking up etc.
Why? Because there is no drama, that is the very thing that will split you apart.Boredom, mundane, too safe - these can all be thoughts that go through a woman's head.
Women really do have to have those 'feelings' reaffirmed. And one of the ways to do this is what I call "constructive drama."
For instance, here are two brief scenarios:
1. You are in an LTR. No drama. At all. Woman thinks things are too predictable. Too boring. She starts to 'wonder' if she has feelings for you. That seed is planted. It will grow, and at some stage, the relationship may fail. If things are too easy, too cruisy and too mundane, this will translate to a woman as non appealing, or passionless.
2. You are in an LTR. Little drama. However you make sure that there is enough friction - in certain situations - that lead to some type of -
disagreement-discussion-conflict resolution-make up
scenario between you both. Not a full blown argument. Not over a trivial matter. But over something that your woman has to think about, discuss, and go away knowing that you will call her on certain types of behaviour/emotion/scenarios.
I've been through this and I know it to be true. You still keep your DJ principles of course, but orchestrate or guide the odd bit of friction within your relationship.
Hope this touches base with someone.