Johnny Soporno
Senior Don Juan
"JUST BE YOURSELF!"
When any normal woman is asked what men should do to be able to hook up with her, she'll answer
"Just be yourself!" -
What the HELL does she mean by that?
She means: PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE! DON'T PRETEND YOU'RE SOMETHING YOU'RE NOT!
You see, most every AFC and aPUA "puts on a show" when he's trying to get into a girl's pants - he postures and puffs himself up, trying to be 'impressive' and present himself in the most attractive ways he can - FROM HIS PERSPECTIVE - by demonstrating that he's just the way HE IMAGINES any girl would want him to be.
But women can TELL when you're blowing smoke up their asses - and they don't appreciate it at all.
Oh, they'll humor you indulgently, out of politeness, (at least 'til the end of the date) and then say 'Let's just be friends!'
OR WORSE YET they might actually BUY what you're selling, and after they realize you're NOT fundamentally the way you portrayed yourself, THEY WILL PUNISH YOU - if not through publicly outting you as the liar you are, then through ceaseless passive-aggressive manipulation, throughout an agonizing long-term relationship...
So at the end of your multi-year relationship, when she tells you "You're not the man I fell in love with!" and you reply with "How can you say that after you've spent our entire relationship trying to change me!" - that's when you'll have to face the fact that you were NEVER the man she fell in love with - and it's ALL YOUR FAULT.
The trouble is, for most guys, 'just being themselves' leaves them as weak, low-self-esteem/low-self-confidence schlubbs with very little chance of success. Most guys don't love themselves, and they aren't happy in their OWN company - why would any woman select to hook up with them?
Question: How can you BOTH "Just be yourself" AND be attractive to women?!
Answer: YOU MUST RECRAFT YOURSELF AS AN ATTRACTIVE PERSON!
Sounds like a huge challenge, right? It isn't.
SO the answer is very simple, and "the Community" is just waking up to this notion, after years of hypnotricks and false-disqualifications, bullsh!t DHVs and basically lying to get laid...
It's practically the easiest thing in the world, but it requires recognizing and accepting that THE PROBLEM IS ALWAYS YOU!
So concentrating on your Inner Game is absolutely VITAL to becoming an attractive, compelling, and worthwhile person - the sort whom women AND men will opt to invest their time and energies on... someone people are PROUD is their friend, someone they can rely upon...
Someone who will DESERVE their appreciation and respect, and therefore won't need to misrepresent themselves at all, nor have to work at keeping their interest!
You see, being WORTHY of their appreciation, respect, friendship, and admiration doesn't require much at all - You need merely to ACTUALLY BE A GOOD GUY, continually self-improving, appreciating and valuing others, and by demonstrating LOYALTY TO YOURSELF FIRST - so that others will see that you have integrity!
Being WORTHY means you never have to worry that you're getting more than you deserve - and therefore never having to worry that YOUR LUCK WILL RUN OUT!
If you happen to 'GET LUCKY' with some uberhottie who's ideal for you in every way, and YOU KNOW she's with you for the wrong reasons, you'll also KNOW that she won't be around long. That'd suck!
As you develop yourself into an interesting, amusing, entertaining, and enlightened man, you'll find value and interest in most every person of quality - and that will make you VERY ATTRACTIVE to them...
Mark my words: Being truly interested in someone MAKES YOU COMPELLINGLY ATTRACTIVE TO THEM! Male OR female - in 'pick up' and in every part of life.
Please take a look at my Inner Game Definition, and read it over a couple of times, until every aspect of it makes sense to you;
I am confident that you'll live much better, and enjoy life much more, once it all resonates and harmonizes within you.
Johnny Soporno
Lifestyle Guru
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