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How To Make Love - For Beginners

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So some of you have gotten enough game to the point where it's easy to get girls numbers. Maybe some of you are comfortable enough to talk to girls you've never talked to before.

Excellent! I am very proud of you indeed!

However, one thing girls and guys will always judge you on (as you get older) is sex.

You gotta be good... you gotta be GREAT.

So, allow me to help you grow into a man. I'm going to teach you how to have sex.

FIRST: A little background information.

Condoms
Condoms are your best friend. For first timers, use "Trojan - Maximum Strength"; its in dark pink packaging. For those of you who aren't worried about busting too quick, try the light purple colored Trojans, the "For Her Pleasure", the ladies really like that one better than regular.

Those are all lubricated (which is desired)... some girls may be allergic to Latex, so you might have difficulty finding the right kind. Try to get "Spermicidal lubricant" if you're really worried about pregnancy.

Diseases and Pregnancy
STDs are easily transferrable, but you won't get one unless the condom breaks. Also, remember, if the girl has had sex before, assume she has STDs and make sure she's all checked. Also remember that girls LIE, so don't trust them. You're having sex at your own risk... if the girl is a "ho", then chances are she DOES have something, even if there are no symptoms.

If a girl says she is on The Pill, don't believe her unless you see her take it. Girls lie, so be cautious.

Pre-Sex: What to do before.

If you've never had sex before, READ THIS FIRST. You better be comfortable with your penis size, because if you aren't, it shows. With that said, purchase your condoms based on whichever you like.

Practicing sex beforehand. Take your pants off. Put your twanger on your toilet seat or something up to your crotch level. Make sure its lying on something comfortable that you can move your peepee around on without worrying about friction. Try a small towel with some soap on it. Put your strong hand on top of your peepee, and make sure it's lubed up with soap, lube, or whatever you're using to give that watery, warm feeling.

So with your hand on top, you've made a little hole. Now start slowly thrusting in and out. GET A RHYTHM FOR IT. Play some slow songs and thrust to the beat. Speed up the tempo, and control your breathing. Get used to the electricity that accompanies your whole pelvic region moving back and forth, as opposed to jacking off.

This develops your muscles in your abs, buttocks, and hips, so do this often.

Also, when you don't have a hard-on and its late at night and you have no female company, kneel in front of a wall. Make sure your knees are comfortable. Put your hands out in front of you on the wall, and lean on them. Then, practice your pelvic thrusts, first slowly, then increasing speed. Keep your rhythm, and your breathing under control.

When you don't gasp loudly, and feel you can "hit it" both hard/fast and softly/slowly, then you're ready to have sex.

Having your first sexual experience.

First, make sure you have a place to do it. Second, make sure you have a CD full of romantic slow jams to get her in the mood. If you feel she will like it, get a little candle in there too.

Be making out with her, and slowly remove her clothing. Shirt first, pants second, bra third, panties/thong last. Give 3-5 min before each, and kiss aggressively.

When you get her pants off (your shirt should be off already when hers is), take yours off, and put on your condom. Make out with her for a minute or two, then stick it in. If you dono how, have her do it (blame it on the darkness or something :D).

Start with her on her back, and you on your knees (missionary position). Start pumping slowly, gently. Make sure she is COMFORTABLE, and it DOESN'T HURT HER. It might be difficult getting it all the way in, but keep trying until you do. If your piece is exceptionally big, stick in as much as you're able to without hurting her. The do it harder, speed up. Put her legs up on your shoulders if she desires (it feels better for them). Then pump faster and harder. In about 7-8 min you should be going full speed ahead.

If you feel like you're either:
A) going to bust really soon
B)losing rhythm

then STOP PUMPING. Make out with her for a minute, get your mind off the sex, and then resumed with newfound vigor. Screw till you bust... congratulations! Wasn't that bad, was it?

After sex: How to wrap it up

If she wasn't pleased very much, you can either wait a few minutes and try again, OR if you feel you really sucked somehow, you can eat her out. If you really don't care about her, ignore the last two sentences, cuz you're all done!

Don't flush the condom down the toilet... trash it if you can.

If you make the girl feel special, even if you didn't think the sex was as great as it could be, it will be special for you as well.

Good luck guys, and POST BACK... I want to know if there's anything else you'd like me to write about.

Any questions/comments are welcome either on here or on AIM.

Happy hunting!
Sebastian
 

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good post, the 15 year olds will really enjoy it.

I just think that you can get away with having good sex if youve watched a couple of pornos and youre completly relaxed. There was a big buidup to the first time i had sex, I asked myself what the hell am i going to do? what if i dont last 1 mins? all that ****....when the time came somehow i just went with the flow of everything and was completly relaxed. I ****ed her for like 25 mins, didnt blow and then she sucked my ****.
 

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Isn't 15 a little early to be having sex?
I'm 15 and I still haven't had my first kiss.
 

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Originally posted by Viper
Isn't 15 a little early to be having sex?
I'm 15 and I still haven't had my first kiss.
oh dont worry about it....i mean 15 is a good time to start reading these things so when the days youll be a ****ing master theoretically
 

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wow

lol

I used to think 15 was pretty young cause i first kissed girls back in kindergarden and when i was 12 i lost my virginity. I guess it was because i hung around with a older crowd. When i was around 11 or so i was hanging out with 15-16 year olds. So i was growing into girls pretty fast. Almost everyone i know has had sex at a real young age.
 

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So... Don't even think about oral the first time? And would that be the same if its only the first time for one of you, not both?
 

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Originally posted by arutha
So... Don't even think about oral the first time? And would that be the same if its only the first time for one of you, not both?
what? do you what you want to do...there is no specific rules or guidelines for your first time....after all the only one thats going to know is you, unless you tell her which i wouldnt. i remeber the first girl i banged thought i had ****ed like a 1000 times before
 

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Yeah good point.. Oh well.
 

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no, not that. its the ideas that are blending into this wonderful place :rolleyes:
 

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Is it good that I already knew about 90% of that post?
 

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Not bad, AC, but I got some more stuff new people should know about.

1. No amount of practice will prepare you for the first time, just like no amount of reading will make you awesome when you get your first kiss.

Instead, read theory and watch porn. Learn techniques, positions, anatomy. Make sure you know where her ****/gspot is. I have a friend who's been going down on his girl for over 2 months and still can't find her ****. :rolleyes:

You probably won't use any of that theory during your first time, though.

2. If this is your first time and she knows it, please, ditch the romantic bull****. She agreed to have sex with you, didn't she? No need to try to seduce her. If your girl knows you've been around, it's different - music can add to the mood, and candles are intimate. But if she knows it's your first time, you're gonna come across as cheesy and insecure, using movie-taught techniques that only work in the movies.

Only exception - have music way beforehand. For example, when you guys get to your place, crank up some tunes, but no sappy usher/u2 bull****. Then talk/eat/whatever: give it time so the music becomes transparent, sort of in the background, not distracting. Still, no candles during first time.

3. First time sucks. Period. Don't expect it to be otherwise, and make sure she doesn't either. Therefore, don't try to 'make it up to her' by going down on her after you came. If you sucked 5 minutes ago, nothing will change, so don't irritate her.

But if you wanna make it the best possible for her - there's only one answer. Lots of foreplay. LOTS. Eat that kitten for however long it takes. Don't rush to stick it in. Most girls see the foreplay as the main course. Sex is just the dessert. (That's why in the future you learn to combine sex and foreplay, mix it up, they dig it. But that's not for the first time.) Play with her tits, her belly, her back, kiss her thigs, love her body, she'll love you for it.

4. Most of the times a girl will excuse to the bathroom (to clean herself up) when she senses things are gonna escalate. This gives you time to ditch some clothing of your own. First - socks. That's a rule. If you're wearing a button-up shirt, loosen up the top buttons. If you got a sports jacket/sweater or any of that sort, lose it as well.

BUT: don't let her come back from the bathroom only to find you buttnaked with your hard salami in your fist. Don't get ahead of her in the undressing department. As in, make sure she's naked before you by 1-2 articles of clothing.

5. Once more, guys, don't just make out with her, strip her, and stick it in. That's a recipe for disaster. Not only may it hurt cause she's not wet enough, but it shows her you're after one thing. Give time to foreplay. Find tutorials on the net - there are plenty.

If you're asking how much time should you give to foreplay, I'd say about 20-30 mintues, but there are no rules when it comes to this. Sometimes when she wants it real bad, we skip it altogether, then have long afterplay, which usually becomes foreplay and we do it again.

6. This one's important - you have a much higher chance of being god in bed if you're strong and fit. Do you wanna be sweating after 10 minutes with your tongue flopping out? Sex is physically challenging, so get to the gym. Don't forget to do ****load of highintensity cardio (sprints and such). Also, as you all know, and please tell me you know this, girls love strong men with gorgeous bodies. Enough said? :D

7. Do try to make her come, but if she doesn't, don't kill yourself over it. Chicks are complex when it comes to orgasms. It's up to you to figure out your partner.

8. Afterplay is a touchy subject. Some girls want it, others don't. You be the judge. Most often in my experience she just wants to cuddle. Let her snuggle up beside you and rest her head on your pec/shoulder. Or if she wants it, go down on her, but gently, cause if she came, she's prolly very sensitive.

That's it. Give her body lots of attention, learn to be good with your tongue, learn to multitask, learn her sensitive spots (ask if you wanna, or you can just try and see what works :)), get fit, and have lots of sex. It gets better with every time as you get better.

In the end, don't worry about it. First time's grossly overrated. Just look forward to getting all the firsthand experience that will be ohso valuable later in life.
 
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Good advice. Thanks.
 

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No problem. Glad to share :).

Also, why not flush the condom down the toilet? I've done it for a long time, and it never came back up or anything like that. Doesn't seem to clog the toilet either.
 

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Some random things Ive noticed:

Sex is like dancing in a lot of ways. Its in the hips/rhythm and reading youre partner, sure. But more importantly - youre mood dictates the way youre partner will react to you. If you swagger up to a girl on the dance floor with a ****y smile, make eyecontact, and genuinely approach her - shes gonna ENJOY youre approach. Even if youre a terrible dancer, she'll just smile and laugh with/at you about it and have fun with you. Same goes for sex. Sure, sex is serious. But you have got to get the negative thoughts out of youre head - just htink "I am REALLy atracted to this girl and Im going to have a great time with her. Im going to be affectionate and fun." If you can look in youre girls eyes and smile, even laugh about the clumsyness of youre first time, itll be enjoyable.

**** THE ROMANTIC ****!!! If its youre first time you need to be COMPLETELY OPEN AND HONEST with the girl!!! Believe me, you will be totally stressed out if you lied about youre experiences - that will stress her out and it will be TERRIBLE for both of you. I have to be open with u guys, im not as experienced in bed as I would like, so I am open with girls before I sleep with them. It takes a TON of pressure off my shoulders and helps me to relax and enjoy myself - I got layed just last night and I had a lot of fun... and SHE called ME today, wanting to hang out again this weekend.

Sex takes time. Foreplay begins the moment you make youre kiss deeper and you put youre hands on clevage/private areas (cup her ass/tits or rub her inner thighs) and it should last at least one but preferably two hours untill penetration. She should be DRIPPING WET and BEGGING for you before you enter her. Find ways to enjoy foreplay... tease eachother, undress slowly, kiss her whole body, take time to rub areas that hold stress (shoulders, lower back, hands and feet). Undress her SLOWLY and change positions often! Lay with her in the sexul positions you will use later, and grind with youre clothes still on (this is amazing, it warms all ur muscles up for the act, and is extremely erotic).

Make sure to finger her with large circles, half penetration, and then small, focused circles on her ****. This is the best way to get her EXTREMELY wet. Remember - youre not trying to get hre to come, just trying to excite her.

Once shes naked and youre in youre underware, go down on her. Save the full finger penetration though, focus on her **** with youre mouth while holding her hands, rubbing her thighs and chest.

START OFF SLOW!!! Its a marathon, not a sprint. She doesnt expect to finish in 5 minutes... and she doesnt want you to finish in 5 minutes... so for the first few min just use small, slow strokes. Youll find a rhythme and shell spread her legs wider... youll know when to speed up and thrust deeper... just take youre time and enjoy yourself!

If you feel like youre getting close to finishing, stop, pull her to you, kiss her for a few seconds and tell her to climb ontop. Just the flexing of different muscles, and the different angle of penetration, will help you calm down and give you a few more mintues before you come.

Youre first time sux. Youre first FEW times suck. Ive been with 6 girls, and the only truely enjoyable sex ive had were with the 5th and 6th girl. So smile, enjoy yourself, help her enjoy herself, and be safe!
 

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Few people have said that now.. What is so bad about the first few times? What makes it suck?
 

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Well, for me it was always good from the first time - I mean how could sticking your c0ck into your girl's wet puss can be bad?

But it takes time to get the experience you need to properly push her buttons, just as it does for her. It took me about 10-20 times before I started to feel truly confident.

Today, I still get my share of lazy uninspired sex where we just need to get off, but more and more often, it's very passionate and pleasurable, where we do just the right things to each other.

Then, the more sex you have, the less chance there is of you busting the nut 2 minutes in.

Regarding that, I have a few tips. First, start doing kegels, like someone mentioned, and do them often and every day. Second, stop masturbating to porn. When you do, you try to come as fast as possible. There is no gratification, except getting off. That mentality later translates to sex, and that is bad.
 

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Yea guys, thanks for adding your own outlook to it... keep em comin please!
 

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Originally posted by undesputable


I just think that you can get away with having good sex if youve watched a couple of pornos and youre completly relaxed.
yea i followed what i knew too. I banged the **** out of her for 25 minutes. We were so ****ing tired afterwards we just lied in bed for another half an hour. Ahhh good ol high school memories...

SERIOUS WARNING: Do not follow what you see in pornos.

Serious respect to the men and women in that industry. OMG i have no idea how they do take after take.
 
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