Confusedchef
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Hi,
I'm just starting to get out of the AFC position I am in and I met a gorgeous looking girl where I work. We talked briefly for a week before she started to flirt with me (constant touching, resting her head on my shoulder, etc). She came up to me, gave her business card and told me to give her a call.
I was going to wait but she called me that night asking if I wanted to hang out at her place. I agreed and went over. I was a wuss, I inititated no game whatsoever and we just ended up talking for about 3 hours, then I went home. She texts me the next day, as soon as she wakes up, asking me what I'm up to. She invites me out to the bar, but I told her I couldnt make it because I was busy helping my friend build a computer. She says I let her down in a jokingly manner, so I was pleased to hear that.
Next day I explain to her why I couldnt make it again (I know..stupid idea) and she said "Haha, I'll give you another chance." She drives me home that night with another guy, who turned out to be her ex boyfriend who she is still friends with. She told me he was crashing on her couch for the night. To me, she seemed to be telling the truth so I didn't really care.
She asked me out for coffee on Monday in the car when she dropped me off but she blew me off, so I told her I would make other plans, so I invited her over to my house for the next day and I made her lunch. Things seem to be going well, I can tell this girl is extremely shy, so I didn't want to rush into things.
On Friday night she calls me, asking me to go to this pub crawl with her and her two friends (one girl, one guy). I went out (didn't get drunk, wanted to keep my head in the game). I chatted it up with her friends, we got along GREAT, everything was going smooth.
At the bar she was constantly play slapping my face, she even put gum on my face and ran away (she was getting a little tipsy) and our legs were touching the entire time.
First cue that I ****ed up on. She said "I'm sleeping my bed with my teddy bear again tonight, I just can't seem to the find the right guy for me." I should of instantly took that as a chance to make my move, but I still held back.
She comes back out from the washroom and I thought I'd try the forehead trick with her, we pressed our foreheads against one another and I held the stare with her for 3 seconds but I didn't make a move again! ARGH!
So we're going from bar to bar (we grinded briefly at one bar) and we're now at the last place. Her best friend comes up to me and says "You really like her, don't you?" I stood there, trying to think of what to say and said "Well, yea, I like her. I'd love to get to know her better."
Her best friend, who was drunk at the time, said "Sorry, hate to break it to you but she's seeing another guy." I said "Oh well, least I know now." I was pretty choked and confused, so I was thinking she was a huge flirt but I was just in the friend zone.
The next day I text her asking her if my ID was around her place, I couldn't find it. She says no but offers me a drive to work, I accept. She drives me there, tried to talk to her but she in such a rush to get to her job she drove me there in literally 5 minutes.
I see her at work that day and she seemed really distant from me, I could tell something was up.
This is the kicker. I text her the next day and say "Hey "FRIEND", what's going on," cause I thought since she's seeing another guy I must of been looking at all the signs wrong, or she's just a natural flirt. She ALWAYS would text me back within 15 minutes, but she never texted me that night.
Now I'm sitting here dwelling and trying to figure out what the hell to do. Am I too late? I know I should of made a move and by me calling her "friend," which I don't want to be at all, she might be taking it as a rejection.
On the other hand, she could of just been a natural flirt, maybe she is like this with all of her guy friends? Do I approach her and talk to her about this, break the ice, or do I move on?
Thanks.
I'm just starting to get out of the AFC position I am in and I met a gorgeous looking girl where I work. We talked briefly for a week before she started to flirt with me (constant touching, resting her head on my shoulder, etc). She came up to me, gave her business card and told me to give her a call.
I was going to wait but she called me that night asking if I wanted to hang out at her place. I agreed and went over. I was a wuss, I inititated no game whatsoever and we just ended up talking for about 3 hours, then I went home. She texts me the next day, as soon as she wakes up, asking me what I'm up to. She invites me out to the bar, but I told her I couldnt make it because I was busy helping my friend build a computer. She says I let her down in a jokingly manner, so I was pleased to hear that.
Next day I explain to her why I couldnt make it again (I know..stupid idea) and she said "Haha, I'll give you another chance." She drives me home that night with another guy, who turned out to be her ex boyfriend who she is still friends with. She told me he was crashing on her couch for the night. To me, she seemed to be telling the truth so I didn't really care.
She asked me out for coffee on Monday in the car when she dropped me off but she blew me off, so I told her I would make other plans, so I invited her over to my house for the next day and I made her lunch. Things seem to be going well, I can tell this girl is extremely shy, so I didn't want to rush into things.
On Friday night she calls me, asking me to go to this pub crawl with her and her two friends (one girl, one guy). I went out (didn't get drunk, wanted to keep my head in the game). I chatted it up with her friends, we got along GREAT, everything was going smooth.
At the bar she was constantly play slapping my face, she even put gum on my face and ran away (she was getting a little tipsy) and our legs were touching the entire time.
First cue that I ****ed up on. She said "I'm sleeping my bed with my teddy bear again tonight, I just can't seem to the find the right guy for me." I should of instantly took that as a chance to make my move, but I still held back.
She comes back out from the washroom and I thought I'd try the forehead trick with her, we pressed our foreheads against one another and I held the stare with her for 3 seconds but I didn't make a move again! ARGH!
So we're going from bar to bar (we grinded briefly at one bar) and we're now at the last place. Her best friend comes up to me and says "You really like her, don't you?" I stood there, trying to think of what to say and said "Well, yea, I like her. I'd love to get to know her better."
Her best friend, who was drunk at the time, said "Sorry, hate to break it to you but she's seeing another guy." I said "Oh well, least I know now." I was pretty choked and confused, so I was thinking she was a huge flirt but I was just in the friend zone.
The next day I text her asking her if my ID was around her place, I couldn't find it. She says no but offers me a drive to work, I accept. She drives me there, tried to talk to her but she in such a rush to get to her job she drove me there in literally 5 minutes.
I see her at work that day and she seemed really distant from me, I could tell something was up.
This is the kicker. I text her the next day and say "Hey "FRIEND", what's going on," cause I thought since she's seeing another guy I must of been looking at all the signs wrong, or she's just a natural flirt. She ALWAYS would text me back within 15 minutes, but she never texted me that night.
Now I'm sitting here dwelling and trying to figure out what the hell to do. Am I too late? I know I should of made a move and by me calling her "friend," which I don't want to be at all, she might be taking it as a rejection.
On the other hand, she could of just been a natural flirt, maybe she is like this with all of her guy friends? Do I approach her and talk to her about this, break the ice, or do I move on?
Thanks.