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Thanks trickynick, Since my little letdown last week I have been feeling less than confident, and couple that with the fact that I have been sick as hell all this week, I have been certainly feeling LESS than DJ! Thanks for the pickmeup TheDude

I agree with you, BClarke. I have often thought about something to say when asking for the number in order to let the woman know right away that I wasn't just "fishing" for numbers, I won't feel "less" by her not giving me the number, and I would rather everything be up front and in the open...

Okay, oh well. It just sucks that this girl is missing out on such a great guy, simply because she couldn't wait five days for him to call her. I don't have a problem dating people at work. I can be discreet and respectful. And I wasn't playing games with this girl by waiting five days. I...

Hey Wlyfire, you said: Okay...the first mistake was deciding to ask for her number to call later and ask her out. You see her every day so you should have just asked her for a date when you asked for her number. Secondly, since she sees you at work she KNOWS that you DID have plenty of...

As to your above post Wlydfire, maybe is grasping, but that sounds logical. Maybe she was pissed I took so long to call, and then came up with the "Im busy" excuse in order to get back at me (this "im busy" excuse was soooo lame, I mean, she KNEW there was no way in HELL I would buy it. The...

Wyldfire, I see your point, really I do. But I am not looking at this generally, I am looking at THIS particular situation, with THIS particular girl. So I ask this girl for her number, and five days later I call. Now, if what you are saying is true, in this five days she has been waiting...

Wyldfire, I see your point, really I do. But I am not looking at this generally, I am looking at THIS particular situation, with THIS particular girl. So I ask this girl for her number, and five days later I call. Now, if what you are saying is true, in this five days she has been waiting...

Oh, and Wyldfire you said: "Um, so interest level in a woman is everything and DJs must rely on it to decide whether or not a woman is "worthy" of his time. But women shouldn't care in the least about the interest level of a man in deciding whether or not he is worth her time? Of course self...

Well, don't forget Wyldfire, that this is a woman at work, not off the street. I have known her for at least six months before, and I have seen her everyday since I got the number. Although I have been pleasant and just a tad flirty, I have not been overbearing or talked to her much (just...

Yeah, I know this is fairly common. I've posted about this this whole situation, and thought I played it in a good DJ fashion. It was kinda my first DJ experiment so to speak. So I am not too bummed. Yeah- the Big Lebowski. The Dude was the ultimate DJ, he was a Nihilist- didn't give a...

Ho hum...Damn. Okay, got the number last Tues. waited till tonight to call. Small talk, nothing smoozy or "too nice guy", kept it short, and went in for the close. Asked her to lunch tomorrow, and this is what I got: "Oh, well I think I am going to be too busy tomorrow. I am so busy...

Would it be possible to have my post A Basic Question moved from Tip to Discussion? TheDude

I don't know wyldfire, I have a different take on it. Infatuation has nothing to do with love. Infatuation is a fantasy developed by the psyche. It is a one way ticked to co-dependency, an expression of co-dependency. It is a trick that the underdeveloped sense of self plays in order to feel...

It has nothing to do with love or infatuation. It has to do with CO-DEPENDENCY. A man or woman who latches on to another person whether the feeling is reciprocated or not and sheds his/her own identity, thinks the other makes them "complete" is doing so out of a weak sense of self. The...

I've know I was a nice guy for quite awhile. This site didn't alert me to it, just is helping me deal with it in so many ways. I have in my life always been a listener. I care about people, have had jobs that were about caring for people, and in the course of all of that I have learned that...

Damn right Clutch! See, thats what I shoulda done a week ago when I was going through that What the Hell post. I'm learning from your successes dude. BTW, thanks to all for your replies to that post. The Dude

Okay, this one hits home! Being a first time poster- had to jump in on this one. One time when I was about 20, I had this reallllly hot chick just straight out ask me to have sex with her- "I want you to make love to me". Right there in the back of the delivery van I was driving. You can guess...