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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    I'm less obsessed with other women now that I understand. I see how it works. Not completely there, but can appreciate it now. If she dumped me right now it would be my out. I will not lie...it will hurt. I felt it this weekend. To see her so upset affects me, but be guaranteed that if...
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    The path I chose beyond my half assed stand made me secure. It put me at peace with myself. I wouldn't do it any other way if I had it to do over. I didn't wuss out. I just wasn't ready to break it off completely. This path put me in an amazingly resolved and excited state because it felt...
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    My theory changes everything! Knowledge changes everything! My understanding of commitment changes everything! I'm going to try this theory, no guarantees that it will work. At least I'll know it didn't work and I can move on. CobraGT
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    Correct! The gospel of dating! I know of people who have got burned. I'm trying exhaust all avenues before moving on. CobraGT
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    I know...I'm the man of her dreams. Just have to see if she is the woman of mine. CobraGT
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    Re: Cobra, you've got nads It seems like this is the only way we can move forward based on what I've said in my previous replies. She's to bitter to live with me. She hopes that subsides. CobraGT
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    I've already proved that! You tell a woman you want to change your wedding date 8 weeks before it happens and you'll see bitterness. Now that I can put a finger on why I was uneasy (commitment ignorance), I will forever have a rule to measure my relationship(s) against. I'm clear on my...
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    [/SIZE] Good points! There is a problem associated with her being the first. It has crippled me since we have been exclusive. It is possible though to beat that don't marry your first rule. In this case I have very few bad things to say about her. She has many qualities I admire. The...
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    what do you guys think about marriage?!

    I understand your concern dietzcoi. Just hard to accept such a term when I see your views as so extreme. I'm not a DJ either. I have DJ like qualities when I'm ambivalent. The TRUE DJ is always ambivalent to the women he dates. He is no longer TRUE when he begins to give himself up to...
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    My Soap Opera I have no more to say on this subject unless someone needs clarification. I just wanted to let everyone know how it went. I will conclude this discussion once I determine if it is possible to conciously decide to be commited. This could be one month or six months. Then I can...
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    The Next Day Now it is the following day and she has told her mom and dad that the wedding will be postponed. She says her mom and dad are dissapointed by the whole turn of events. They wish it wasn't so hard on there little girl. I'm at peace with the decision. Better to work it out now...
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    Chumpish Theory Revealed Here goes my big chumpish theory. Dating is a dance...the two partners are compatibilty and commitment. We seek compatibility first. Along the way we learn about commitment. When we find someone who is compatible we start determining how commited he or she seems...
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    Contemplating The End Against everyone's better judgement I've found a way to limit the hurt for both of us. I talked her into giving me another day to make sure that the split is what I wanted. She left for work and I had the whole day at my disposal. I began my day by talking to a...
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    The deed is done... and I feel horrible. Sick even. I've got to re-read this thread and remember why this seemed like a good idea. There are no words to describe her hurt. I feel worse because she doesn't deserve the pain I've caused her. I described my dilema to her so well that she...
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    what do you guys think about marriage?!

    Sorry Jay I take offense when called an AFC. I'll accept that term only if I fully deserve it. I would take less offense if I were described as AFC thoughts.
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    I'm in the Engineering field give me a little slack! Being thorough is just my nature. I agree though! CobraGT
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    what do you guys think about marriage?!

    Check out my response to Falcon Eye. Thank you for issuing the worst possible insult! If you were more open minded and less bitter about marriage that statement might hurt. If your idea of being a DJ means being closed minded and intensely bitter about marriage...then leave me out. While I...
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    what do you guys think about marriage?!

    I could use the above quote for an argument to get married. Check out my last sig... I understand your concerns though. Thanks! Cobra
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    what do you guys think about marriage?!

    I can see how this may cause trouble for some couples. I suppose I'm a special case in this area. A natural if you will. The first time I had sex was with my fiance who was not a virgin turned out to be awesome. I had waited a long time for this opportunity so I didn't half ass it the first...
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    My wedding is two months away and I'm still not sure she is the right one!

    Your responses are not in vain! I appreciate everyone's response more than they will know. I apologize if you fail to get the impression your words are not making a difference. Each response increase the clarity I need to decide. Respect that this is my biggest decision ever. When I make...
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