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The degree to which you 'need' is key. Yep, and sadly, a greater degree of independence from the need to be loved and adored by others is the only way to actually get love or admiration. Ironically, the less you value something the more often you'll find it. Because with the beginning of...

Well to be more specific, I'm talking about the type of individual who in a social setting seems to consciously make an effort to present himself as your superior by invalidating you. If you can't picture any scenarios resembling the above, then perhaps the advice you can provide will not be...

Definitely the most adaptive response. It's the only thing that works every time, but it's less satisfying than directly putting them down in return.

Anyone have tips for dealing with smart ass douche's trying to undermine your social value and status?

Any tips and advice? Women typically have a need for men that they can look up to ... which creates a bit of a challenge for you, when you're trying to hook up with a very sharp girl

I agree for the most part ... but this was posted with womens innate genetic dispositions in mind. There is no need for ''conscious'' interest, it's already ingrained through evolution. Women are by default more selective and picky, because what they have is more limited than what we have...

And why not focus on meeting your own challenges with zeal? Must everyone advance with you?

This has already been well established here. We males (as individuals) will never be as important to females as they are to us. The human ovum is in limited supply, and they own it. We are cheap and in bulk. Women often find interest in us for the lifestyle we have to offer them ... and if you...

I think there should be a single thread on here devoted to mastering power games, that are pretty much unavoidable whenever other guys are around. When it's just women alone, the most basic social skills often suffice, but when you add a bunch of other guys into the equation, then it comes...

And beauty is only skin deep too? Skills can be developed (and they make a difference), but people reject you based on how they perceive your reproductive value ....after countless rejections, you can (and should) go on considering yourself valuable, but don't expect others to feel the same way...

She's an HB5? Assuming your looks arent too bad, she's probably just trying to give you the impression that you really don't effect her as much as you really do.

Actually, I think advice like ''you should only derive validation from yourself'' is well meaning, but a bit misleading. Humans naturally derive self worth and validation/esteem from how others think about them. People who do not, either have over come their natural social instincts, or they...

This is one of the best posts I've seen on here. People are so busy chasing socially constructed ideals of happiness and success, that we neglect the only thing that really matters ~ ourselves.

Has anyone ever noticed that your voice pitch seems to change along with your mood and temperment? I hit a low patch recently, my confidence was down ... and I was amused to notice my voice seemed slightly higher in pitch, and I couldn't really seem to change it. Anyone else ever experience...

I wouldn't expect most women to be very well acquainted with the type of social hierarchy most men contend with on a regular basis. It usually takes just a few experiences of losing girls to other men for a guy to realize that there is an ideal you have to live up to, if you want attractive women.

''75 % female and 25 % male'' ? :crackup:

Not to get too far off topic here, but I thought I'd mention our culture's tendency to assume that mothers are more caring and affectionate than fathers. A few studies seem to suggest that this assumption is complete bullsh!t...

I'll add a different take on this. A women will settle for someone, only when they think they have the best that their ''value'' can bait. The lower a women's estimate of her own value, the more likely she will settle for what she gets. I hate to say it .... but lowering a women's self esteem...

Friends are over rated. Like many myths (i.e. 'true love'/'altruism'/even 'god'), some things are too good to be true.

I think mothers have far more influence on the early (most important) years of psychological development ... that forms the base for every socially healthy person. The mother is very responsible for proper psychological development in infants and young children, because of this there are more...