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Hey guys, I'm reading up on Ross Jeffrie's material, about anchoring feelings. Does this stuff really work? Here's an example I found: "So what would it be like if there was this person, who you felt so attracted to, and you could start to feel this warm flush starting to spread right...

Hi all, I'm looking for movie suggestions that have good conversations between a guy and girl that go well, not necessarily interested in movies that show a dj in action - there's enough of them listed on this site. More interested in individual conversations - I always have trouble with...

Well it was actually a sample of 'magic bullets' by savoy. I agree about that, but I find it hard to transition from comfort to attraction. An example: Me: Hey guys, hows your night going? Them: really good, and yours? - note they had large smiles and high-energy voices Me: Yeah same...

Interesting like what? That's where I am stumped, I don't know what to transition to. I did bring it around to karaoke at one point, one girl in particular asked what I sung.

er, where do you live? Girls around here have lots of personality, they usually just cover it up until they're comfortable around the guy. I've got female friends who are crazy and funny, in a good way. I think maybe you're judging them while they are still 'guarded'.

Hey guys, I read that an approach should last for a minimum of 20 mins in the attraction stage. And that I shouldn't ask personal questions during this time. So what the heck do you say if you can't ask personal questions?

I was waiting at the food service line, and opened a girl beside me. A 2 or 3 minute convo ensued which went really well. She was visiting a friend while she was in the area. I was thinking I would find out where she was sitting and go say hello later, but it was my turn to be served. So I...

Ok but the thing is my AA literally stops me dead in my tracks. I completely freeze up. Now, if I'm at the bar getting a drink and a girl rocks up next to me I can just pivot smile and ask how her nights going. I don't panic, don't think about it because it's a .5 second thought process...

Hi all, When a situation is perfect or an opportunity happens, I can usually say something. So this weekend I'm at the bar and I turn to my left, nice looking girl so I say 'hey hows your night going?'. Her response was short but at least I opened. Then a while later I'm talking to a female...

Hi all, I learn best by 'seeing' an interaction. Like today there was a girl on the train. Guy next to her was chatting away to her and she was laughing and smiling the whole time - and I really wanted to know what he was saying and obviously how he was saying it that was getting that...

Hi all, I have a few issues with the conversation unless the girl approaches me (and how often does that happen in a club). I'll see an attractive girl and say something like 'hey ladies, hows your night going?' I'm actually gonna try along the lines of 'hey ladies, whats happening?'...

Hey all, I'm curious. Those of you that have gone from shy and bad with women to confident and good (inner game though), what did you actually do to overcome your fear and end up where you are now? Just want to get some ideas on what to do to improve myself, especially when relating to...

I was at a nightclub/bar the other weekend for a guys bday party. I went with about 4 female friends - I'm quite shy when it comes to a bunch of people I don't know so spent some time goofing around with my friends, plus a few of the guys I met chatted to me every now and then. Then this girl...

Why would you ignore it if you liked her?? So you're saying that she didn't tell you she couldn't make it? Did she apologise and offer an explanation afterwards? In her defence she may have forgotten, or something urgent came up.

Usually when I go out, i got with a few female friends. We find a spot then when I fall out of state or whatever I find my friends and just have fun. Boosts my confidence plus we dance and they take photos - makes a good impression on other people.

Yah they do exist, but don't look in fun or social places for them. They generally don't go to them, plus most of them probably don't drink. I've got one or two friends like that who are just as happy to stay at home than go out and they don't drink. But the thing is, have you really...

Dude, you're 16. It's common and assumed that you will be immature especially in the eyes of older women. Have you tried toning down the jokes when you're out?

I agree. Don't ever blow your top. Just calmly let her know that she overstepped the mark. If it's a big thing, deal-breaker, calmly tell her again that she overstepped the mark then politely excuse yourself. An example I've seen recently. When a guy asks a girl for a coffee and she gives...

Thanks for the replies. Groovy, that was a great post but I disagree on one point. Not worrying about your body language, etc isn't a good idea. You see, if someone hasn't always been confident (AFC for example) then they will most likely have learnt 'negative' body language. By relaxing...

Hi all, Read a post about being in-state so basically everything is easy and smooth. What exactly is in-state and how do I achieve this, or at least what can I do to head towards being in-state? I actually find that I am usually in-state at things like music festivals. The last one I made...