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I was posting on a site today that is very Politically Correct. You can't advocate Nexting a woman for poor behavior, because that's unfair and manipulative. Bleh. I was going to re-post what I said there, about zero-drama relationships and what they have in common. And I will, at the...

Victory: interesting analysis, but once again you didn't actually answer any of the questions I posted in the original post.

Word.

PrettyboyAJ: Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions. I think we probably see eye-to-eye on most things, but I am curious: you say "when she's consistently disrespecting you". Does that mean that occasional disrespect would be okay? The responses I've gotten so far seem to imply...

Victory: Thank you for your input. What are your thoughts on the questions I raised in the original post?

Johnny: Oh, I see. No, I don't do drama, I just Next her for a week or more. That's what's seen by many people as selfish and callous.

Colossus: So you're saying that every relationship has drama. As stated in my original post, I'm in a 2+ year relationship that has had no drama whatsoever, and other people using this system report the same thing. Are you saying that we are somehow misguided or otherwise got lucky? Do you...

AlphaWhiskey: Yes, thank you. This is the exact sort of personal introspection I love seeing. Incidentally, is your nickname a Dollhouse reference? ilikecharlie: To summarize, you're saying I should stick it out unless it becomes too much to handle. Where do you, personally, draw that...

I've been getting some grief from others about how I handle relationships, so I thought I'd get some outside opinions. Where do you draw the line between staying with a partner and breaking up with him/her? If he/she attempted to stab you with a knife? If he/she drained your bank account...

You're worrying too much about it. If it's disrespect, tell her to knock it off and don't be afraid to walk if she won't. If it's just her being playful, don't let it bother you. A middle ground, a "It bugs me but it's not important enough to confront her about" is probably the worst mental...

You're still with her because you want to "work things out". It doesn't work like that. She knows she has you. She knows you won't walk. So there is no motivation for her to work to improve herself. Talking with her about it won't work, you have to show her that you're willing to walk away...

Oh, yeah. Hmm. Well, it was all pretty smooth. I was playful, talkative, and didn't worry too much about it because I knew that I was doing everything right. The trick is to treat her just like any other chick you've ever flirted with. Don't worry about how you originally met up. That...

I've always hated the concept of "sluts" or "hos". It's like, if a guy sleeps around a lot, he's some sort of hero. If a chick does the same thing, she's a slut. WTF, people? The truth is, women love sex just as much as men do, if not more so. On top of that, women process things in the...

Yeah. It sucks because, looking back on it, I can see everything I did wrong: verbally giving her an option, taking her emotional state seriously and not just continuing the escalation, trying to box her in, and asking that she'd stay the night. Also, possibly letting her do the phone thing...

I was at the mall hanging out with my brother (well, pushing him into sets, really), when a friend (acquaintance?) I've talked to several times at one of the kiosks pulls me aside and gives me the number of a chick he thinks I'd be interested in. Apparently there was a nasty breakup or...

"Are you a player?" "Yes; yes I am."

So I'm on one of the several forums I frequent. I see an avatar of a fairly attractive young woman. Some of her posts confirm that yes, she is female. So I decide to shoot her a PM. I'd been experimenting with going more direct, so I thought I'd give that a try. Subject: Hi. Message...

Is it possible you're not living in the moment? Instead of bringing all these "should" and expectations to the interactions, try just having fun with the situation and seeing where it goes. For example, the one you mentioned, she's leaving in 3 weeks. I wouldn't be surprised to hear that...

Nooooooo! Ultimatums BAD, in any situation. Verbalizing emotional problems within the relationship never helps. Ever. That goes double for ultimatums. Ask me how I know. Instead, what you want to do is this: Live your own life. Realize that while yes, she is a very attractive person, she...

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