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Hi all, This is less about asking for advice than my contribution of a report. Six months ago, I was blindsided by a breakup of a three-year relationship. I came to the forum frantically seeking explanation. While many great explanations given, they were too difficult for e to believe or...

Hi all, Short version: What have you used to center yourself under extreme breakup (or any other) stress? Long version: In the aftermath of the breakup of my three-year relationship, and despite holding no contact solidly afterward, the healing process after a month has not yielded much...

We are both from Western countries. Today I had a nice day of activities with friends, posting a few pics. They were vague however as to whom I was with. By the end of the day, she had unfriended and blocked me. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe the sight of me getting on with my life was...

I'd be up for it, and with the frame that it's just that, I'd be fine, and better to go out my own way. Unfortunately, I feel she's resolved this breakup, where I accurately sensed she wasn't before. Also, being an hour away likely prevents any house visits on a whim. You'd agree I'd have to...

Hi all, My girlfriend of three years cut it off a few weeks ago, via text message, which I found a bit cowardly. She exclaimed that she was still in love with me, but that her need to return to her home country and be close to her family outweighed her willingness to marry me and live as an...

A week to the day after the breakup, she shows up unannounced at my door, ostensibly to swap our things. Expecting she would be tossed out, she then came at me with a hug, and we ended up in bed together for some incredible makeup sex. However, it was during this lost week that she gave notice...

Thank you in advance for any advice you may offer. I'm in a dark place and am really in need of some straightening out. We met while we were both performers in China. We had immediate mutual high interest, and we found ourselves in a relationship fairly quickly, despite other opportunities I...

Some great tips here, thanks... . I'm already researching the dance moves. Her older sister, who has been advising me closely all along, assured me she can teach me enough dance with a week of effort. She has already fixed up my hair style, has been gradually helping me straighten out my...

It's not about changing who you are at the core, but if there are aspects about my personality that are universally unattractive, I feel they need improving. I am going through a hot-and-cold scenario with a girl I have felt deeply for. Even with other women on the side, this is one I hoped...

The expression "to be in the driver's seat" means to be in control. The man should always have control. A woman tries to get it, and it is the core of what makes you a challenge for a woman. It's a test...if you give up control, she won't see you as a man. By asking for a relationship, you...

This particular girl is about a two hour flight away. I can't build rapport unless it's on the phone, and currently she won't answer or return calls. The disappearance was extremely bizarre. On her last SMS four days ago, she said she had bought the things I asked her to send me (I was to pay...

It is her prerogative to choose, but it's obvious that by tempting her simply because she is taken, you're just out to validate your ego and prove you exist. It's ultimately a selfish act. I thought social proof was for the girls... I laughed at the posters who claimed this would "educate"...

I had Valentine's Day and her birthday in the same week, and perhaps laid on the affection and niceties a little to much. The next day after gift received, she flaked completely, so I have no option at this point but to withdraw. For argument's sake, once you've laid it on too thick and they...

I've gotten to the point where I can seduce most women if there's the slightest hint of interest at the outset. These girls are good for a bang, but most can't keep my interest intellectually, and I'm getting to the point in my life where I want a LTR with a quality girl. Problem is, I meet...

Doc Love is useful ONLY as beginner material for the recovering AFC who may be just getting started. Doc concentrates more on hard-and-fast rules such as "wait seven days to call, be a challenge, have confidence" etc, without getting into the deeper reasons why these rules are so. He just...

I'm out at an afterhours club with a girl and her friends, and this drunk guy just comes and sits at our table, looks at me, and for absolutely no reasonsays in a broken Russian accent "you f'ing doochebag." The girls saw what was going to escalate and we just all left, yet the guy still...

That's the problem. I can tell myself all day it doesn't matter. But inside I apparently don't believe it if I'm still having the gut reaction.

I get extremely angry by anything I can possibly view as a slight against me. Particularly from an individual in my band who has an unusually agressive and bad tempered. The one source of all his jokes is to put down anyone else around him, disguising criticism inside supposed humor. I...

Would be cool, but isn't possible. From a business perspective, the budget won't support it, and we already have an agent who has this circuit locked up. Road management issues are handled by the band or venue. I could just take them with me. Other members have had gfs with them before...

I'm pushing 30 and considering the future. I don't believe that we are supposed to spend our whole lives number closing, dating, etc. Eventually I wish to get married. But my job pretty much rules out marriage or any kind of LTR. I have the DJ dream job. I tour with a band full-time...