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Do you care to back that up with some evidence, or were you just in the mood to make idiotic assumptions when you posted that?

Well, like you say, there's a balance between bringing up every little thing that happens, and ensuring that you DO bring up those things that are important to you. Finding out what's brought on this reversion to religious conviction will help you understand her motives better. You're...

No need to question your life choices over one girl who's annoyed with you. If she's annoyed because you didn't respond when you could have taken two seconds to let her know that you were busy that night, then I can understand that. If she's annoyed ebcause you weren't available that night...

Truth is, any of us can come up with a story about this that either makes him or her look bad. Without information, it's just a story. StartingFresh, you've got two things going on here and they both involve you and she sitting down and talking about this. One is to find out what's led her...

Yes, and if I wanted to stay with her I'd talk to her about it to find out whether I was correct in my assumptions or whether we'd misunderstood each other. That way I could make an informed decison over whether to carry on seeing her or not. True, more information would be helpful.

I agree. As is communicating with your partner and ensuring that you're both involved in making important relationship decisions. With the way it's been presented to him, there are two obvious choices: 1. Agree to her decision 2. Leave I prefer the third choice - let her know that...

The reason to be upset is that she has made a unilateral decision on an important relationship topic that affects him as much as it affects her. This kind of thing can't be decided by one person and then foisted on the other as a done deal. Fair enough if she were single, made her...

She has every right to choose not to have sex until married. She does NOT have the right to impose that decision on you. This kind of decision can't be made by one person IN A RELATIONSHIP because it affects the two of you. It has to be discussed.

It was uncomfortable reading that conversation, because you said a lot of the things I use to think. One - It sounded like you were trying to convince her that she should be attracted to you because you like children etc. There a great post by DeepBlue in the archive about why that will...

Friv, sounds like the original situation is all over. You called her a moron, she cried, you apologised. Two things - 'co-dependency' is not a desirable feature in a relationship. You might have chosen the wrong word there. Co-dependency is two emotionally unhealthy people who...

Don't hold back because she's not IMing you. If you want to contact her, do so. I don't know what it's like at 18, but in the adult world it's ok for a guy to call a woman the day after he's first had sex with her. Just be aware, if you're holding back, that you're doing so because you...

There's no 'right' way to act. For a start, you have no control over how she is feeling over what happened. She may be excited, or she may be mortified. You don't know. So if you try and work out how to 'act' based on how you want her to react to you you're on a loser. The only advice I...

You seem determined to say sorry, even though you've done nothing wrong. Sounds like you both had bad sex. What's to apologise for? If I'm not mistaken the reason you went limp was because you were with some drunk girl who was unable to do anything except hold still. Plus you'd never met her...

The test is all in your head. You're the one pressuring yourself, so if you can lighten up a bit, please do so. The trouble with seeing experience as a test is that you get the test first, and the lesson afterwards. I think you'll be fine.

Don't pressure yourself like that. It's not inevitable that you two will break up - there's plenty of couples out there who stay together despite them never knowing what a healthy relationship looks like. You're right in one way though. If you don't learn not only how to talk about you...

You trying to change yourself all the time to be what you think she wants at any moment is exactly the kind of behaviour that will lead to you two splitting up. When she said she wants to know the real you that's what she meant - you're closed away inside, trying to guess what she might want...

And don't forget, just ebcause some stupid girls may or may not think something about you, doesn't make it true. Don't let their idiot b*llsh*t f*ck up your reality. You know you're not a stalker, or weird, so don't secondguess yourself so easily just because these girls are saying stuff...

Why do you keep saying that it's rude not to listen to her? How is it rude when you've not asked her to dump all this stuff on you? You don't have an obligation to listen just because she is talking. She's not your wife or your girlfriend so if you don't want to listen to her, don't...

Tell her that you trust her and know how mature and capable she is, and that you trust her to handle this problem herself. If she gets angry with you for not offering to sort it out for her when it doesn't sound like she's tried too hard yet, you know a) it's some kind of game on her...

If you want this thing to have any chance of surviving, tell her the truth. And while you're at it, try not to blurt out lies when you can't think of anything else to say, or you'll be back in a similar mess soon enough.