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  1. J

    Combating Neediness

    Wow. Very well-stated bro! It amazes me as well how often the masses seem to refuse to think for themselves. Then again, when you sit and think about it, it's easier to have others (media, preacher, government, etc.) lay out what you should think, feel, and value versus doing the hard work and...
  2. J

    Not Attracting the Women I am Attracted to

    I agree. Attraction isn't a choice. I definitely do not chase women. The whole Hollywood-driven idea of a man in hot pursuit rarely works. I ask them out once, and if they seem wishy washy or uninterested, I move on. No big deal. I just always wondered why it is somewhat rare that I get the...
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    Not Attracting the Women I am Attracted to

    I have no problem attracting women...just not the ones that I find desirable. I get told how attractive I am from 6's and 7's, but I get very lukewarm responses from 8's and above. Not that I am looking for a supermodel or anything. Just a woman that is physically appealing to me. Anyone else...
  4. J

    The Introvert vs The Extrovert: Who has it better?

    I am an extrovert and I have been told that I come across as trying too hard on more than one occasion. It is something that I am aware of now and I make an attempt to tone my energy level down and vibe more with people. I don't know if I "need the attention" as much as I am just a social guy...
  5. J

    65 things I learned from dating

    Curious question: What do you mean exactly by "dating up" as a man (#25)? I have read that people usually date those who have comparable looks to their own, but as we know, women are attracted to other things than solely looks, unlike men. So, do you mean dating up in the physical sense, or...
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    How to Win Friends and Influence People

    I feel that the principles in that book are truly timeless, and that they work even more now than back when the book was originally published. Today, we are FAR less interpersonal than we were in the 1930's, due to technology. Outside of talking on a phone, most people had to meet face-to-face...
  7. J

    Why is being a player seen as a good thing?

    You definitely have to be careful with the advice you read on here; I cringe when I read some of the sexist posts some guys create. You should keep in mind that many guys have been severely hurt by women, and they see them as nothing more than sex objects, hence the player mentality. Some people...
  8. J

    How to Win Friends and Influence People

    Do you guys think that this classic book would help with dating? Personally, I believe that it would definitely open a lot of legs if applied properly.....
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    She's already got the advantage

    Completely agree bro! I think that is one of the ways that the PUA community has deluded many men, having us believe that there is some formula for attracting women. Improving your dating life is relatively simple: work on your self-confidence, develop a sense of style, focus on other things...
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    The Natural Way to Meet Women

    Very true. The only way a male breaks the "men pursue, women choose" dynamic is by having VERY high value (i.e. celebrity, wealth, status, uncommonly good looks). That is why I have become somewhat jaded with the bar/nightclub scene. Personally, I think nightclubs as a SNL venue is largely...
  11. J

    The Natural Way to Meet Women

    I have heard this before as well. But I don't think there are that many SINGLE girls out at night, at least not as many as men tend to think. From my experience, women of all relationship status' go out to clubs; you really can't distinguish between a single chick and a married one just by...
  12. J

    Hardest city to get women ??

    I think it depends on what you want/expect. If you want a girl with traditional values, any mid-sized city below the Mason-Dixon line is sure to have an abundance of those types. Down South, people here are VERY cliquish (or perhaps that's everywhere). It is not as easy to pick girls up in bars...
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    The Natural Way to Meet Women

    I agree with you 100%. Building a great social circle definitely takes a great deal of time and effort, but it is worth it, especially when you consider how cliquish many people are. When I was in my mid-twenties I discovered the "community" like so many others on this site. But after a...
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    The Natural Way to Meet Women

    I agree. Guys who go to the so-called "target-rich" environments are there for the quick lay. What guys don't realize is that most women who're out in nightclubs dressed oh so provocatively actually have boyfriends/husbands at home. Like you said, if you want the "pump and dump" bars and...
  15. J

    The Natural Way to Meet Women

    It doesn't need to be this dichotomy of cold approach versus social circle. You can do both. Further, I'm not talking about dating women in your social circle. I'm talking about meeting women in more inviting environments. Has nothing to do with dating someone in your social circle.
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    The Natural Way to Meet Women

    I have heard this argument before. I always ask, "What do you mean by messing up with these women? Do you mean the possibility of getting caught f*&king a girl over, and the fallout that would ensue?" That is kinda what it sounds like when guys make that statement. The subtext seems to be "If I...
  17. J

    What do they have that most of us are lacking?

    Jariel, I have actually asked myself the same question over the years, especially in my mid to late 20's, when most people are settling down. And like others have said, looks can be deceiving; you never know what goes on behind closed doors. However, I feel that the two main reasons people "put...
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    The Natural Way to Meet Women

    Why is it that so much dating/PUA advice focuses almost exclusively on meeting women randomly (i.e. at the mall, in bookstores, bars, clubs, etc.)? Meeting women in these environments, as compared to meeting them through more "natural" means (i.e. through hobbies, mutual friends, organized...
  19. J

    Best Places to Get One-Night Stands

    I guess it depends on where you vacation. Places like Vegas, the beach, and singles cruises (from what I hear) are good places to land ONS. Anywhere where it becomes socially acceptable to let loose and be wild and crazy are good spots....
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    A NORMAL opener?

    Really, your opener can be as simple or as creative as you want it to be. The whole PUA scene has duped guys into believing that you need this perfect opener, something that will automatically hook a girl or all hope is lost. In reality, it's more about how you say it rather than the actual...
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