Recent content by tafakna

I'd partially agree. Obviously respect is lacking here and that's the reason she can't see him as relationship material. But the key to the issue is that he needs to command respect. Respect cannot be demanded. Simply nexting her will only postpone the issue that's bound to happen again and...

You were smart enough to mention cognitive dissonance, so you're probably smart enough to understand that romantic love, lust and attachment are 3 separate beasts, controlled by different hormones/neurotransmitters, and dealt different in real life. She values your friendship, she fells...

The issue here has nothing to do with taking too long to reply. She has cancelled a date, didn't take on your offer for the alternative date, and then ignored the offer for Saturday. She probably thinks you're a nice guy, but she's not interested. She avoided you on Saturday because it...

Go, have sex, make sure she has the time of her life, then mumble something about having to leave, and get up and leave. Don't spend the night, don't ask about the trip, don't tell about how your weekend was... Don't be the first one to break and ask where you are standing, etc... Keep her...

Sorry for the reality check mate, but you are way into AFC zone a very long time ago. Short-term you might even pull this one off and get into a relationship with her. Long-term no girl will respect you, and you will be facing the same issues you did before (cheating). Best case scenario, if...

You are feeling guilty, you had to apologize and you came across as being weak by bursting out and verbally abusing her. So who cares about being acceptable? The issue here is that if it was the right course of action you wouldn't be feeling this crappy. Next time, control your temper...

Just like everything he has ever posted here... starting from his nickname... lol

It's a long road. Millions of people have the same problem. Most of them end up convincing themselves that it's normal and don't live life to its full potential. Don't be one of them. If needed look for someone specialized in this issue to help you, it's a hard first step but well worth it...

I've read the whole thread. Bhudda-mind gave you solid advice. It took a lot of errors for this one to be over. You made her feel responsible for your emotional stability, and that's the kiss of death in any relationship. She backed off because of that. You come across as a nice person but...

Of course you're getting weaker. Anyone that blows-up when being tested will get weaker. It shows lack of confidence, lack of emotional stability and insecurity. The Polyanna technique of 'let's pretend all is well' will not help. The best tactic here is to employ the old 'an eye for an...

To make it really simple: she was good looking, you were overeager to be with her, you let it show, she lost interest. I'd say it's 99% your fault for not playing it right. You were already going to see her on Thu... Then the next day... and then you want to meet her even sooner before the...

Thedol, High levels of oxytocin (and low levels of serotonin can last as long as 2-3 years, but usually it lasts much less. They pretty much are the responsible hormone and neurotransmitter for obsessive thinking and the 'certainty' that the person was unique. It will get better with time...

Trolling seems to be at an all time high these days...

IMHO, her pulling back most probably has very little to do with her friend. Girls will work these things out when they are really interested. That's why see was seeing you for 4 months behind her 'best friend's' back. It probably would help what do you exactly mean by 'escalate'; but...

Sorry for the reality call, but sounds like it was perfect to you, not her. After date texting is a awful idea. I've used to do that but I've dropped the habit years ago. It sounds clingy in almost all circumstances. I don't even fall for the 'send me a text when you get home' anymore. As...