Recent content by cremasta7

For me it would depend on when your pay cycle is and how much leave entitlements they have to pay you out. If you get paid on the last day of the pay period and have no entitlements owing to you, then I'd just take my last pay and not come back. Don't know, it depends how much you would...

So she thinks going for a training run for an event that is two months away is more important than spending a night with you at a friend's wedding? One night? Seriously? She's a real fanatic about running... and anyone who is a fanatic about anything is nothing but a pain in the arse.

Yeah, been there. Until you get your confidence up, don't start conversations for the purpose of 'getting digits' or setting up a date. Sure that's where you want to get to eventually, but for now just work on your conversation skills. Have one or two topics in your head ready to talk...

Now how good did that feel hey?!? Good skills! :yes:

I love that... 'We need a break'. It's possible she thinks this is just a temporary thing. I've got no time for that rubbish anymore. If your girl wants a break, make it permanent. You don't fix relationships by walking away from them. Ok, rant done. You're correct, this won't get you...

I wouldn't knock back a wedding invite... all that free food and booze. Just book yourself a hotel room. She can head back early by herself and you're free to chat up any single women at the reception afterwards.

Unless she's bringing some of your stuff back, don't be there. There's no advantage to you being in the same room with her right now. She broke up with you, she HAS lost you, you don't owe her answers for anything. If you want to give her a response (and I think by now you know what that...

Yeah, unless there's a damn good reason, number 2 is a dealbreaker. While she's talking on the phone I'd be seriously tempted to act like I got a message on my phone, then say to her "Sorry, I need to take this, I'll be back in a minute." Then just get up, walk out the door and not come back...

Think of it as like being 'in the zone' when you're playing sport. You feel comfortable with what you're doing and you're getting the results you want. The mistake is thinking that everyone has the same 'game'. That you should be doing the same as what someone else on this forum says they...

Next time she starts flirting with you, sort of half call her on it. Something like "Is this just practice, or are you actually flirting with me?" Just say it in a friendly manner with a smile, and not so the whole group with you can hear it. If it's 'just practice' then you can joke about...

Ok, first things first... Don't go for the kiss close, go for the kiss 'open'. Kiss her at the start of the date, just a peck on the cheek to break the ice and get it into her head that more kissing (at least for now) is on the books. Makes a proper kiss close less awkward. Second. Have...

Maybe her dog died. Maybe she failed an exam. Maybe she didn't get a job she was going for. You can be pretty sure that her being down has nothing to do with you. Go on the date with the intention of having a great time. If she turns out to be a fun sponge, just don't see her again.

Don't just say you're busy... be busy. If she asks you what's going on, and if you happen to be out seeing some other women, then tell her exactly that. Either her interest will pick up and you have another shot, or it will fade out and you keep seeing other girls. Win-win

Given that she couldn't see your face, your body language, and basically having very few clues that you were attempting humour... yes, it was a weird thing to write. Especially if you've had no contact with her before, she's got no context about the kind of person you are. You've sort of set...

Ok, you'll hopefully get lots of good advice, but here's one that worked for me... Stop trying to get your message across, or sending out your opinion on everything. When you meet people, focus on them. Treat it like a project that you want to find out as much as possible about them...