kenpiffyjr
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AFC? Maybe. Oneitis? Definitely.I hooked up with my new plate last night.
But I woke up this morning and all I could do is think about my X. Its been 13 days since I last slept with her.
Today is day 1 of NC. I never reach out but its hard not to respond to her when I just want to hold her.
Am I an AFC? I have no problem gaming other women but this case of oneitis is unbelievable.
To me this never works. I might be able to temporarily put her in a coma for a certain amount of time. but eventually it will burst flames into your hurts causing you unbelievable pain.. the long the coma lasts for, the more painful it gets when you realize you haven't moved on and you're living in denial.This helped me, (because this is our first real breakup, and after 50 years of women, this hurt the most.)
Put her in a coma mentally in your mind, much like death but not fully dead and not a vegatable
she might wake up in:
a week
a month
a year
20 years
never
Handle that as you wish, perhaps find resources for coping with a partner who has been in an accident but in a coma. How long do you wait, how to move on...
This helped me, (because this is our first real breakup, and after 50 years of women, this hurt the most.)
Put her in a coma mentally in your mind, much like death but not fully dead and not a vegatable
she might wake up in:
a week
a month
a year
20 years
never
Handle that as you wish, perhaps find resources for coping with a partner who has been in an accident but in a coma. How long do you wait, how to move on...
This. The other day was the birthday of the girl that drove me here. I remembered ot at 11 pm, because the next day was the birthday of a bro, and I was like "oooh that's true".
CONCENTRATE FULLY ON YOUR OWN LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Get so involved in your in life, in your own work, in your own hobbies, in your own passions, making
new friends, making new memories, going on new trips, exploring new worlds, watching movies, reconnecting with literature......I mean have you read all of George Orwell? Have you read Charles Bukowski? Have you studied the history of cinema? Have you tasted Macallan? Get involved.....get your hands dirty......
Get so busy with YOU......that you think about her less and less.....until one day you wake up and you
realize that you have to make an effort to think about her.......now you want to think about her a little and in a weird perverse way you kind of miss that obsession that you USED TO HAVE....
The only way to steer yourself healthily away from a negative obsession or an afflictive emotion...............is to FOCUS FULLY ON THE OPPOSITE.......
.....WHAT YOU FOCUS ON BECOMES BIGGER AND BIGGER.....
.....so why not focus on you and your life. Everything that's not so important will naturally drop by the
wayside......
....almost with no effort.
It's a matter of pushing in the right effort. And patience.
Remember. Plant, cultivate, harvest.
.....remove the weeds with ease.
you did good bro, keep this up. You should block her so you can't read the messages. We all know how good that validation you get feels, but is all for the ego, you won't get any real advantage from reading them.Day 2 of NC.
ex called me twice yesterday and left a text saying that she knows that I had a good time with my plate (I hooked up but it made me feel worse) and that it hurts her even thought it shouldn't. I didn't respond.
She left me for another guy. She is just trying to keep me around as a back up.
Dont text her again, trust me, you should know that it just opens up a whole can of worms from your experience with her. She told you one time why was wrong for her, then she spoke about her bf to you. She knows youre getting stronger, and is now telling you shes sorry, but keep it up.I can get other women. I just can't over my ex. I started going out more and making myself busy but fuk. I've never been like this before.
BLOCK HER ON ALL FORMATS....BLOCK HER PHONE NUMBER.......BLOCK HER ON FB.....YOU GET THE IDEA.....then you will never know if she texts, calls or what everThe X texted again (just a meaningless text) to which I didn't reply to. Then she called and left a message saying that she is sorry for her weakness and that she will do her best not to contract me anymore.
This chit is fuking me up. Its like every 2 days she is breaking up with me again even though she already did. I don't have the will power to put her on ignore so I have 2 options.
- Tell her never to contact me again
- Just continue NC
What should I do.
Part of me is waiting for her to come crawling back even. I have a new plate that I'm already banging, a plate from out of town that is coming to see me in 3 weeks, plus a few plates that want to meet up with me that I met online.
I can get other women. I just can't over my ex. I started going out more and making myself busy but fuk. I've never been like this before.
Quick update, long story short, couldnt get into my old account had to create a new oneDay 2
My GF of 3 years admitted to cheating on me a couple weeks back. I cant describe the rage I felt at the time, it made me wonder if she ever cheated on me before that too. It should be two weeks without contact now but today is actually day 2 of no contact.
To be honest, it sounds like you kind of deserve all this. I must have read that you broke up with this girl at least 4/5 times, whenever you felt like doing so. And now you wonder why she flakes on you and doesn't give a crap anymore?Day 4 of NC.
Our relationship started around 18 months ago. I met her online and after talking on the phone for a week or so I took her to a pub. We went back to her place and I banged her. In the middle of banging her she x bf called and was asking her while she sounded out of breath. She continuing to jerk my off for 10 minutes while she talked to her x on the phone and then went back to banging after she reassured him that no one was over.
She was only decent.. maybe like 7. I left that patting myself on the back for another notch but didn't really have any plans to see her again. She ended up calling me and texting all the time but I was pretty busy and I blew her off most of the time. I started hanging out with her her like 5 times a month. Basically she would come over to my house and we would screw.
After a few months I was pretty much bored of her but she was a steady FWB and I didn't have any other plates so I hang out when I felt like it but blew her off at least 1/4 off the time. She ended up telling me she liked me more than Like after a few months and I was like WTF? I broke up with her and told her there are way better guys out there than me and you deserve someone better.
Then a few weeks later she just showed up at my house and one thing lead to another, we hooked up, and I was right back in the same situation. Then one night she called me at 2:30 in the morning and wanted to come over and hook up. I told her this isn't going to work if you don't respect that I wake up for work at 4:30 and broke up with her again.
I didn't hear from her for a few months and then she texted me one day, I texted back and sure enough I ended up in the same situation again.
Fast forward a few more months and I brake up with her again until she shows up at my house again and grabs my cawk as soon as she enters my place. Sure enough we start dating again and actually things go pretty good for us for a couple months but then I get anxiety about some other stuff and I brake up with her again. She tells me she loved me more than anyone she has ever met but I say its not going to work.
So this is when something switched in my head and I become ****kkkked up.
Once again she shows up at my house crying and I console her and make her feel better ect. Now I didn't know it at the time but she started dating a new guy when I broke up with her. We talk for awhile I decided we should go for a drink the next week. So we go for a drink and I take her home but she wouldn't screw me! I was like WTF and walked out. She called/texted non stop and told me how great our night was and we should do it again. During the next few weeks she flaked on me a couple times (obviously she was with her knew bf) and I started wondering WTF was up. This girl used to be in love with me.
Eventually I start sleeping with her again but she seems distant/not answering texts as soon as she used to/didn't seem as attracted to me as she used to. This drove me crazy. I told her that it felt like someone else was in the picture but she assured me nobody was and I feel for it.
A couple weeks later a day before we had planned to take a trip together I asked to see her phone and she said I wouldn't like what I would see and then she told me that she was seeing someone else. I told her we are done ect and then she sent me texts of her telling the other guy that it was done and she only wants to be with me.
I end up taking her back but at this time I develop insane anxiety about the situation and as it turns out she kept banging the other guy. I find out and she told me that she couldn't let him go ect and somehow manipulates me to staying with her. I walked away from this women so many times but for some reason I couldn't walk away any more once she lost interest and went with another guy.
So we are back together and she is telling me how much she loves me ect ect ect but find out that she is still talking to this guy so she breaks it off with him again..showed me all the texts saying they couldn't even be friends ect.
But then a few weeks later she tells me its over. And I find out a bit later that she is with the other guy. Basically she was leaving my house and going right to his house.
I have no idea why I care about this women at all. I walked soooo many times and it wasn't until the very end that I told her I loved her. Its like a bad energy came over me and I become addicted to the pain she put me through.
Basically the last 3 months our relationship has been beyond crazy.. she called/texted me as of 4 days ago (just random texts that mean nothing) but I didn't respond. I still don't know why I love her. It doesn't make sense. Anytime the phone rings I hope its her. I wake up in the morning wondering if she texted me. I've become obsessed.
Anyways.. today is day 4.
I would love some insight into WTF is wrong with me.