I am afraid this will be a rather long post, in order to fill you in.
I am currently in a relationship with a spanish girl, I myself is a northern European (cultural differences). We've been together and living together since December. This year I have been planning and preparing a 'great expedition' where I was to recreate one of histories great military marches, walking by foot through great parts of Europe. The last month of planning and research was April and May was supposed to be solely a training Camp in The mountains to peak my form before starting to walk in early June.
We were both expats and were leaving The country at The same time. So she insisted that we should spend as much time together during April saying goodbye to friends and The City. She would complain incessantly if I were to say that I had to do some Reading or working out etc. And eventually I gave in thinking this could very well be The Beginning of The end for us as well, and I could empathize her feeling of not wanting to let go etc. However, that I made this sacrifice for her, she seems completely unaware.
So there we have it - i lost one month of preparations.
At The end I got sentimental and I thought it would be nice experience introducing her to The mountains of The North. I invited her for one week, but then she invited herself for The entire month. I couldn't do any exercising with her,, she never skied before. And she refused blankly to be left alone at The cabin because she found The silence and white plains of snow 'so scary', and she would start to cry and tell me how inconsiderate I was etc when I would go out with my backpack and skies without her. After a few days i understood that this wouldnt be a training Camp after all. I consoled myself with that I at least could do some of The work here that I didn't get to do in April. But no. I had told her beforehand that at The cabin there isn't much to do, but being in Nature and read books. But after never more than half an hour she would lose interest and insist that I had worked enough.
The 2nd month that I lost, and again she doesn't seem to understand how I have bend over backwards trying to be accomodating and nice, trying to get to appreciate being outdoors, putting aside my own priorities.
My march was a race, and time was precious. I had to finish within 14 weeks. Her hometown happened to be along my route, so The plan was to stay for 4 days, meeting her family and all. When I got there after having Walked for a couple of weeks, I was tired and it was nice sleeping on a bed, meeting her family, seeing her again, eating good food etc. But after 7 days i said that I had to keep on going, she started to cry and claimed that I was ruthless and cruel and her whole family intervened on her side, insisting that I had to stay for a few more days. After 9 days I said that I couldn't stay for more than 2 more days. When The day came she started The whole opera all over again. When I finally left on The 13th day, she said she wanted to come with me for a few days. I tried to impress upon her that I had lost a lot of time, and that I would have to walk All day. Apparently that was no problem. Of course she started to complain and cry, complain and cry. And after two days it was another vacation and I lost 2 more days.
Three weeks later we agreed that she should meet me for The climb of The pyrenees. I had planned 4 cosy days (we agreed on 4 days, no more!), just a few hours of walking every day in pittoreske surroundings and two days at a beautiful little French village. Things were Going well. We were in a good mood, having a lot of sex in mountains, eating good food etc. When we got to The French village we were having dinner with a vagabond, he procured Wine - it was a little party. I thought it was awesome and I was glad to share all these experiences with her. While we were having dinner a posh brit came up to us and joined in. We were invited into his home and had to wonderful days with good food and wine and good conversations.
When we were leaving my girlfriend out of The blue started to complain and came with a whole tirade about how awful she has had it. That I preferred discussing politics with a stranger rather than having a romantic time with here etc etc. I was shocked. I thought we had experienced so much in so few days together. And if she hated being at our gracious host why hadn't she said anything. It all escalated into an all out dirty fight. Where She said i won't know you anymore, you are not The man that I fell in love with. I responded: I feel The same way towards you, you used to be calm and cool as a cat, and now you are this needy and manic little girl.
We ended up having make-up sex and of course she prolonged her stay with two more days. Now many weeks after, and I have finished my march and I am about to travel back to spain I have applied to finish my studies in Spain in order to be with her, she has all of a sudden started to bring up this fight, resulting in silent treating me now for 8 days. I am leaving for spain in 3 days, what do I do?
Sincerely yours
Sucker in need of advice
I am currently in a relationship with a spanish girl, I myself is a northern European (cultural differences). We've been together and living together since December. This year I have been planning and preparing a 'great expedition' where I was to recreate one of histories great military marches, walking by foot through great parts of Europe. The last month of planning and research was April and May was supposed to be solely a training Camp in The mountains to peak my form before starting to walk in early June.
We were both expats and were leaving The country at The same time. So she insisted that we should spend as much time together during April saying goodbye to friends and The City. She would complain incessantly if I were to say that I had to do some Reading or working out etc. And eventually I gave in thinking this could very well be The Beginning of The end for us as well, and I could empathize her feeling of not wanting to let go etc. However, that I made this sacrifice for her, she seems completely unaware.
So there we have it - i lost one month of preparations.
At The end I got sentimental and I thought it would be nice experience introducing her to The mountains of The North. I invited her for one week, but then she invited herself for The entire month. I couldn't do any exercising with her,, she never skied before. And she refused blankly to be left alone at The cabin because she found The silence and white plains of snow 'so scary', and she would start to cry and tell me how inconsiderate I was etc when I would go out with my backpack and skies without her. After a few days i understood that this wouldnt be a training Camp after all. I consoled myself with that I at least could do some of The work here that I didn't get to do in April. But no. I had told her beforehand that at The cabin there isn't much to do, but being in Nature and read books. But after never more than half an hour she would lose interest and insist that I had worked enough.
The 2nd month that I lost, and again she doesn't seem to understand how I have bend over backwards trying to be accomodating and nice, trying to get to appreciate being outdoors, putting aside my own priorities.
My march was a race, and time was precious. I had to finish within 14 weeks. Her hometown happened to be along my route, so The plan was to stay for 4 days, meeting her family and all. When I got there after having Walked for a couple of weeks, I was tired and it was nice sleeping on a bed, meeting her family, seeing her again, eating good food etc. But after 7 days i said that I had to keep on going, she started to cry and claimed that I was ruthless and cruel and her whole family intervened on her side, insisting that I had to stay for a few more days. After 9 days I said that I couldn't stay for more than 2 more days. When The day came she started The whole opera all over again. When I finally left on The 13th day, she said she wanted to come with me for a few days. I tried to impress upon her that I had lost a lot of time, and that I would have to walk All day. Apparently that was no problem. Of course she started to complain and cry, complain and cry. And after two days it was another vacation and I lost 2 more days.
Three weeks later we agreed that she should meet me for The climb of The pyrenees. I had planned 4 cosy days (we agreed on 4 days, no more!), just a few hours of walking every day in pittoreske surroundings and two days at a beautiful little French village. Things were Going well. We were in a good mood, having a lot of sex in mountains, eating good food etc. When we got to The French village we were having dinner with a vagabond, he procured Wine - it was a little party. I thought it was awesome and I was glad to share all these experiences with her. While we were having dinner a posh brit came up to us and joined in. We were invited into his home and had to wonderful days with good food and wine and good conversations.
When we were leaving my girlfriend out of The blue started to complain and came with a whole tirade about how awful she has had it. That I preferred discussing politics with a stranger rather than having a romantic time with here etc etc. I was shocked. I thought we had experienced so much in so few days together. And if she hated being at our gracious host why hadn't she said anything. It all escalated into an all out dirty fight. Where She said i won't know you anymore, you are not The man that I fell in love with. I responded: I feel The same way towards you, you used to be calm and cool as a cat, and now you are this needy and manic little girl.
We ended up having make-up sex and of course she prolonged her stay with two more days. Now many weeks after, and I have finished my march and I am about to travel back to spain I have applied to finish my studies in Spain in order to be with her, she has all of a sudden started to bring up this fight, resulting in silent treating me now for 8 days. I am leaving for spain in 3 days, what do I do?
Sincerely yours
Sucker in need of advice
