This is a topic that has always confused me. Please, if any of you may have experience in the medical field or have any immediate family members who may be doctors or nurses, I would sincerely appreciate the truth and your confident feedback on this issue. My question is, can a man contract HIV and eventually AIDS from having oral sex performed on him by different women over time? I think I do recall having watched a US talk show in my mid 20s where an HIV-positive woman stated that many people aren't aware that HIV can be obtained from oral sex (woman performing on a man). On the other hand, someone who supposedly has a bit of knowledge of the medical field said to me that the risk is a lot greater for a man when he performs oral sex on a woman because the "pores in his tongue" can contract the virus. It's not easy, folks. Due to the very high rate of HIV/AIDS here in my home country in Central Africa where I've been working so far for close to 3 years on a temporary contractual basis, I've been left with no choice but to abstain from sex for all these years in order to preserve my health and for a man, it's not an easy thing to do at all. I just don't want to take any risks because my health comes first. I don't even trust the effectiveness and quality of a lot of the condoms that are sold in pharmacies here. I just can't wait to get out of here eventually so that I can be intimate with more than one sexual partner without necessarily being as worried and scared. I was thinking that since I follow the abstinence route, maybe I could settle for the women performing oral sex on me but once again I find that very, very risky. I don't care if they think I'm there's something wrong or that I'm insulting them or don't have confidence in them by insisting on pursuing abstinence because once again...my health comes first. I just can't afford to do anything that would cause me to regret greatly later; this is one's whole life that is involved here. And the women are so sexy and beautiful. Lots of big curves, wide hips and big asses as I love...but I just can't fool around.