Frankie12346
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32m - landed new managerial job a few months ago. Current boss is 47f married but we are on the same managerial level. Nobody above us. Small talk and little flirting within the first month but thought she was very reserved. Reputation is church going, family orientated, well respected in our business community. We work in our large metro city. 2 months in, we go out to grab a bite to eat and have a beer. Fun conversation but nothing crazy. Flirting continues through out the next month. Go out to a business function and we decide to go out for a drink afterwards. She gets pretty drunk and tells me that she's had an affair with the last time being 8 months ago. Pretty blown away, didn't see that coming. Ok the game has changed. Trust me, her condition that night was not the right time. Way too sloppy.
Have the Monday morning conversation - she's embarrassed, hope she still respects me, blah blah, blah.
Flirting continues for the next few weeks. Another business function comes up and we briefly talk about having drinks after. Ok, figure this is the night - right?
Drinks start, sexual talks start (history, etc), then she lays the typical - "you know I'm not going to have sex with you". Act like I didn't hear it and continue my game. She says it two more times. Trust me, I've been there a million times and know what it means. However, she's getting texts from her husband every 10 minutes and tells me that she has to leave soon. In hindsight, could I have pushed harder - maybe. But again, seemed like the wrong time. She switches over to water since she has a 30 minute drive. She also jokingly says something about being young and dumb - not sure in reference to this or some of my stories about partying with my boys.
Go to the bathroom and figured - I blew it. She's driving me back to my car about 10 minutes away. Again, figured it's over but she's says she gets nervous being around this area with me since she knows a lot of people and we need to find a new place to hang in the future.
Mixed messages - yes.
Since we work together, we've been texting through out weekend. 80% work, 20% other.
I asked if she got in trouble with her husband and she text - told him I was shopping
Went out last night with my boys and she texts me about work stuff again (this is not unusual - work is 24 hrs), replied back with "need to check when I get home, out drinking with friends". Get a response of "have fun and be a good boy"
Meeting early tomorrow with her for work related stuff.
Also have huge business event in 2 weeks in a hotel. Yes, possibilities are there.
Don't want to get in a conversation about her marriage or this being a coworker - I know all about it.
BUT did I blow it? Did I increase the interest?
Next step?
Have the Monday morning conversation - she's embarrassed, hope she still respects me, blah blah, blah.
Flirting continues for the next few weeks. Another business function comes up and we briefly talk about having drinks after. Ok, figure this is the night - right?
Drinks start, sexual talks start (history, etc), then she lays the typical - "you know I'm not going to have sex with you". Act like I didn't hear it and continue my game. She says it two more times. Trust me, I've been there a million times and know what it means. However, she's getting texts from her husband every 10 minutes and tells me that she has to leave soon. In hindsight, could I have pushed harder - maybe. But again, seemed like the wrong time. She switches over to water since she has a 30 minute drive. She also jokingly says something about being young and dumb - not sure in reference to this or some of my stories about partying with my boys.
Go to the bathroom and figured - I blew it. She's driving me back to my car about 10 minutes away. Again, figured it's over but she's says she gets nervous being around this area with me since she knows a lot of people and we need to find a new place to hang in the future.
Mixed messages - yes.
Since we work together, we've been texting through out weekend. 80% work, 20% other.
I asked if she got in trouble with her husband and she text - told him I was shopping
Went out last night with my boys and she texts me about work stuff again (this is not unusual - work is 24 hrs), replied back with "need to check when I get home, out drinking with friends". Get a response of "have fun and be a good boy"
Meeting early tomorrow with her for work related stuff.
Also have huge business event in 2 weeks in a hotel. Yes, possibilities are there.
Don't want to get in a conversation about her marriage or this being a coworker - I know all about it.
BUT did I blow it? Did I increase the interest?
Next step?
