Need urgent help, have one shot left!

[MrNiceGuy_loser]

Hello everyone,

Allow me to introduce myself, I’m mr. Fu-kup because I seem to have wussed out but I have one more day to get some sh-t straight so I am HOPING it’s still salvageable .

Long story so buckle up:
Went to a AirBNB place with my family, met the owner, a gorgeous 38 year old (I’m 36),
there was a spark between us and the next day she invited my family to go out with her for a drive, I suspected because of me (as did the rest of my family)
things went great and she then visited my city with her husband and kid…

again things were going great and I could feel there was something going on, there was a lot of hugging and kissing on the cheek.

She goes back and again invites me to her city, this time to stay for free at her airbnb place!
we start texting and flirting…
I finally buy a ticket to go see her in her city, but I booked a room for myself in a fancy hotel for the first day, she came over with her son, we have a nice chat then we all go to one of the local swimming pools, spend hours there then I go back to my room and she went home.

The next day I go to her airbnb place and she is alone, we hug and things get a bit heated up, I go to kiss her and she says no… I wuss out and like a “gentleman” respect her decision.

We then go out for lunch in the afternoon and again a lot of flirting etc, and she tells me she is in her marriage just for the kids, but she has a lover on the side, the marriage is over but she is friends and even her husband knows about her side fling but the arrangement works for him.

I tell her she is gorgeous and I am openly attracted to her and I want her, thinking its best to be just direct. She tells me she already has a lover that has her quite satisfied,… we then spend the next two days exploring the city and I even go to her home to meet her kids and teach them some **** (I’m a pianist and a specialist in some ****) she leaves and returns after 2 hours… then we have dinner with her husband and kids…
All along the two days I’m flirting with her and telling her I desire her and we laugh and joke for hours, I’ve been told I’m a funny guy (more than once)
So I come back home today and ask her whats the damn deal, I want her, I need to feel her and she tells me: (we are chatting via mobile message)
“you’re hot and sweet at the same time “

“actually, I’m really attracted to bad and naughty guys, but you’re so perfect”

So I reply:
Actually, I’ve been a gentleman so long because I thought you were attached, now that I know you are not, tomorrow when I see you, your lips are mine! Because I just +need+ more of you!

The conversation ended there as it was late and she had to sleep…


I'm meetng her again tomorrow morning and we are supposed to go to a few museums, I plan on just grabbing her and kissing her as it's my last day in this city and if she gets pissed and kicks me out of her place... so be it, but this is ****ing frustrating... but before I do that, I wanted to ask you guys for advice!

I hope I have not fu-ked up too badly and this is repairable, but I just don't f-cking know and need some advice from you more seasoned "gamers".


PLLLLLLEASE HELLLLP!

 

[Filter]

If she is only friends with her husband, and she already has a lover on the side, totally go for this kiss and fvck her brains out. Her marriage is over. Do not mention this lover, just keep doing what you've been doing and get physical with her.

 

[MrNiceGuy_loser]

The real take away here is stop being so easily manipulated.

I'm the classic "nice guy", been manipulated all my damn life by women

I always somehow convince myself that "this one is different" - we all know how true that is

--- Tips on how to proceed tomorrow when I meet her would be really appreciated, I have not had time to go through all the articles but I'm trying... there is a LOT to learn!!!!

 

[MrNiceGuy_loser]

Can you send me some links on becoming a student of the game? There is a lot of info, quite overwhelming for someone in my position right now...

 

[marmel75]

Pin her against the wall and put your hands in hers and pick her arms up over her head and pin them against he wall with your face a few inches from hers...if she is into you at all she will be so hot and bothered by your display of dominance/aggression she will be soaking wet...tease her...bring your lips closer to her and then pull them back away...sniff her all around her neck, her ears, her hair and then whisper in her ear how smells so good and let your lips brush against her earlobe as you pull them away...start whispering in her ear about all the naughty things you are thinking of doing to her...

Basically just be a man and stop BSing around with her.

 

[Big dog]

Your choice, up to you. Whatever happens happens and take this as a learning experience. By reading your situation, I will tell you however that you had many,many,many missed opportunities to seal the deal but didn't. You clearly have a lot of work to do and you can/will only improve from this point forward. My best advice for you, work on your confidence

 

[MrNiceGuy_loser]

Thanks guys, I see a lot of great stuff you have written and a lot of truth in there.

Whatever happens shall happen!

Hopefully, I can break out of wussland!

 

[MrNiceGuy_loser]

Ok, here's an update: (buckle up, long post again!)

Ok, here's an update: (buckle up, long post again!)

I invited her up when we were supposed to meet, I was going to follow marmel75's advice above, but she messaged me that there was no parking below so to come down instead

We went to a photo exhibition, there were a lot of pictures of jews and Nazis from WW2, not the most romantic damn situation.

After makin small talk for around an hour there I suggested we explore the place, she agreed, I found a small room and told her, "that looks interesting"
she looked in and couldnt find anything... so I told her, "Really? Take a closer look then" and pointed to a corner where something was stored, while she came forward trying to see what the hell I was talking about, I turned her around, put her against the wall and started kissing her neck and moving above, she was surprised as fcuk! But wouldnt let me kiss her lips, after around 2 minutes of this we came out of that room laughing... and I think everyone who were looking at the pictures knew what we were up to because there really isn't much to laugh about when you have WW2 sad crap all over the place!
We went out for lunch, a lot of talk, flirting etc and I reminded her I had found something strange in her airbnb apartment, she asked what and I told her I couldnt explain but she has to come back and see for herself. She did.

Once back in the apartment I took her to the couch and started again
she kept protesting but didn't try to push me off, I got her top off and... she was not wearing a bra! Everything was so damn firm that I thought she had a bra under her top!!!

But then she told me to stop, quite firmly, and I did... still wouldnt lip kiss but let me kiss her all over and wouldn't take off her bottoms.

We were both supposed to go meet her sons but she said it would be better if she went alone, I said that's cool with me, but I still want her and if she changes her mind... she knows where to find me.
She told me she would meet me tomorrow before I fly (to go aroud the city for around 2 hours)...

All this happened around 5:30pm, its now 10:40pm... not sure if I should message or say something.

Advice, guys?



TLDR; version:
Made some progress but didn't close the deal, she says she is "loyal to her lover" - not sure what to make of that.

 

[Glassguy]

No kissing on the mouth and no fvcking??

Next her.