Discussion in 'The Mature Man' started by Luthor Rex, Jun 28, 2010.
I was trolling the interwebs and found this posted by a Christian wife. Seems reasonable enough.
So you have to be leader in HOME as well ?
most women lead in Interior design/furniture/choices
If you allow your
wife to be leader in the home, but want to be the leader in other
areas, you will frustrate your wife.
I am the Wife-Whisperer.
If you hired a decorator, you'd follow her advice mostly but you're still paying her to do what you want in the end, and she's still servicing your wants and needs.
LET her decorate your house and say no to what you don't like. Women "lead" in this stuff because guys don't lead themselves. It's just like the article says. She'll try to lead if you don't. I have women try this decorating crap on MY PLACE on me. "Let's go get so and so it'll look good here." 'No.' I sometimes go along with some of it, but nothing I don't want to happen happens in my own freakin house.
It is pretty much the same thing, word for word almost, isn't it?
Just substitute the word Dog for Wife.
"Women do not have guilt or pity in their mindsets/thinking..."
What does this mean exactly?
Rub her behind the ears. "There there. Good wife. Aren't you a good wife? aren't you a good wife? Here, suck my ****."
Even the ad tells you how to train dogs.
Hey, I'm a Cesar Millan fan like many people, but one can take that a bit too far. Cesar must have said humans and dog behavior don't work the same at least 100 times on the show.
You forgot to mention that your dog *ahem* I mean wife needs to be walked daily.
I think the article does make some key important points. All of these things are instinct driven. If husband can't control wife, it is more likely for the wife to go ballistic and hose the entire house with her emotional shotgun, just like a dog without a master tends to get very nervous.
The funny thing is, men take this emotional outburst personally, and do blame women personally for this. There are sometimes situations where the best cure is to hug her and say nothing, and forget it ever happened. The presence of a man can regulate female hormones. However, once a man loses that control, it is really hard to get that control back.
Women can be stupidly loyal, but also can be horribly heartless.
Oh I didn't mean "nevermind about the article", I posted a reply and see someone else said what I was going to say, so I removed my reply and said "nevermind instead".
And if she messes up or pisses you off , make her sleep in the garage ?
How about getting her microchipped - she might think twice before she steps out on you .
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If I felt like I had to "control" someone's behavior, I'd sure as hell not marry her.
When I was much younger I assumed such a thing too. Without knowing I bought into feminism I believed that women and men were equal and how you deal with one you can deal with the other. I also assumed that if you had a problem with a woman in your life you could talk to her rationally and discuss your problems. Basically I assumed that women were rational actors.
My experience since then has changed my beliefs about such things. I no longer assume that anyone is a rational actor.
If I felt like I had to "control" someone's behavior, I'd sure as hell not marry her. Amen brother I will add if and when they step out of line and refuse to do what is right in your mind its time to say "GET THE FVCK OUT OUT OF MY HOUSE!! Change the locks and never ever look back.If you marry a controlling woman expect to be controlled!!!!
Then you should expect to lose every relationship you are in.
"Control," no. Influence her with your own behavior and words? Certainly. People do this every day without thinking. Successful people learn how to do it to maximum effect - in all manner of situations.
Contrary to popular opinion, human behavior can be surprisingly predictable. Anyone who has spent time reading these boards should know that by now.