This is the single thing that i have learned, not only with women but just in life, that truly separates the people who get it from the people who don't get it. Failure is not an option. It's mandatory. You will fail. You will get shot down. You will get flaked on. You will get dissed. You will get stood up. Probably even some worse things that I have not posted, I'm quite sure will happen to you. And not becuase women are *****s/stupid/inferior, but beucase that's just fvcking life and nothing in life that is worth having is easy to get. But it is, a natural impossibility to have success without failure. they go hand and hand. When you fail, when you get shot down, see if there is anything you can learn from the situation and just try not to make that same mistake again. That's all you can do and that's all you are supposed to do. But that is not what the avg person, at least the avg people I know or that are here, does. They get shot down and get into their feelings or even worse, start to stereotype an entire gender or even worse than that, try to spot pick a woman (i don't talk to women in clubs seedcase all women in clubs are *****s). You only get better, truly get this with practice and crashing and burning. Enough of something will happen to where you will see a flaw in your game and be easily able to fix it instead of theorizing on what is what. And this is a problem that most smart people (like myself) have. Sometimes you can be too smart for your own damn good. What I mean is we will out think ourselves out of opportunities. You have to drill it into your mind that you have no idea who this woman is, what her taste are, what she does or does not like, if she is or is not single, unless you go find out and ask her. Some of the women who you probably would have talked yourself out of will be all over you. some that you thought will be into you won't. But you won't know until you try. You will not get to where you want to be with the opposites sex, until you learn how to embrace failure. It's not only okay it's mandatory. It points out what flaws you have, it gives you practice on how to read people and catch queues, Some things you don't know or won't know is wrong until enough women have soured out on you over it.