mynameisntNigel
Don Juan
I haven't been on the forums here for four months. But I made an important realization that's too important not to share with you. This message is for guys of all ages, and I actually debated with myself whether or not to share on the Juan discussion or High school forum, because I've read posts by struggling guys there as well. But no matter: I chose High School because there's more of a need for it in this area.
I'm on the same struggle/walk as you are. Still single. Never had a first date. But! This is my year, and I learned a lesson (that didn't require painful experience, by the way) through observation that may make some of you never want to visit this site again.
Now, in the title for this thread, I wrote the end "Proceed with Caution." If YOU are having a GOOD STREAK with success in High school (or adulthood) and love Juanism and the DJ Bible, you will not like what I have to say and should leave this page immediately. You have been warned, but I can't control whether or not you'll ignore that, read this, and start ****ting salt at your computer because you ignored it.
On the other hand, if YOU are having PROBLEMS with girls, are following EVERY rule of the Juan Bible or Dr. Allen Thompson and are still getting no results, this might be the most pivotal article you read. Ever. Press Ctlr + S. Save this page now.
We've all had BAD experiences. Sometimes we term them our "AFC" days. I've described them to you on both here and on the Juan Discussion, but many of the old articles have since been deleted by the mods at my request because everyone harassed and made fun of me. Am I sad about that? Not really. I grew up being unwanted and bullied by everyone, so.... nothing new. Somewhere along the line I discovered this site and it seemed good. But of course, the tips and tricks didn't really work all the time.
By now, we (the group that should have stayed for this article and myself) understand the basic jist of attraction according to the internet. Don't slather with niceness, don't buy a bunch of gifts or act like a good friend. OK, so we implement that, and supposedly we should be getting at least month-long relationships with a girl and we, according to Juanism, girlschase, whatever sex-obsessed site you read on, sleep with her at least once by the time we're "done" with her. It...sounds great, right? But the fact is, it didn't work out like that. We implement the things, some of us are luck enough to get one or two dates, a kiss perhaps. But others? Nope. Instead, we get given a runaround, unnecessary mind-games, or even the same friend zone situation from before, in the worst cases, despite not conveying very much "Friend" behaviors to begin with. Eventually the girls end up hating us for....no good reason at all, really.
Pretty frustrating sit, huh?
This school year, I had a situation with the girl of my dreams that actually started out pretty well. We knew who we were, but until this year we didn't talk to one another extensively. For the sake of the people in the "Salt-****ting" group who did not heed my warning earlier, I'm not gonna explain the sit, but it went south, and then north, and then deep south, and then back up to somewhere lost in the middle, and she and I are both a little disgruntled sometimes with it.
Whenever I posted, the salt-****ters made assumptions that I was pedestaling and needy, mainly in 9th grade when I posted. And you know what? I overcame that roadblock. Even so when I asked about this sit, then people made the same judgments, and I actually had to post clarifying what was going on, and.... it sucks because I typed long chapters about my sits and then people misinterpret it, so I decided that I wasn't going to come here to get advice. Not anymore. I mean, if it's not working, then it's time to find another solution.
One day, entirely by accident, I discovered attractioninstitute.com. Generic name, I know, but this site was completely different from the juanist movement and the like. Its approach revealed something that the two guys, who had mastered seduction and getting girls the girlschase way, and they eventually learned that they were miserable because they couldn't have the kind of relationship that they wanted. So they wrote a free book, Seduction Community SUCKS. Go to the site, download the PDF, and keep reading this article (Your homework later is to read that book.) The basic message of the book is this:
Not everything in the Seduction Community works for everyone.
That's it. And that's the lesson that I had already observed from my observations. I haven't finished the book, but it so far agrees with the following observations.
I grew up in a Christian school with many of the same classmates. And I am a Christian. There were two guys in particular who were slightly more nerd-ish and childish than the rest of us. One of them loves baseball, and the other was a goody two-shoes who never talked to girls unless they needed classwork information from him.
These two guys were the first of my classmates to get into meaningful relationships. (I'm a junior.)
It's ironic AF, I know. One day, Baseball is sitting next to me in chapel before the service starts, texting his girlfriend, a college Freshman who gradded our school last May. I talked about how lucky he is, and they're always texting all day, mind you. He knew about my past struggles, and without hashing a bunch of "I-know-youu" stuff, he just says this: "Here's what chu gotta do: just be friends. I knew her for two years before she knew she liked me." On the inside, I laughed at how clueless he was. But later, as I thought about it, and as I discovered the Institute, I found that there are guys out there that are breaking every Internet rule and getting far better results than those who are keeping all 613-ish of the Juan commands.
So. That's the long and short of it, people. This is why you can't get a first date. Because you can't find your right Weapon of Choice. You've been using a longbow when your true calling is a steel katana. You have to find what works for you, pass it on to others, and if it doesn't work for them, then... direct them to this article. I'll come back later, as there are bigger things than This that I have to worry about at present.
Do your homework. Read SDS. After that, you can decide on whether or not Juanism is worth it.
I'm on the same struggle/walk as you are. Still single. Never had a first date. But! This is my year, and I learned a lesson (that didn't require painful experience, by the way) through observation that may make some of you never want to visit this site again.
Now, in the title for this thread, I wrote the end "Proceed with Caution." If YOU are having a GOOD STREAK with success in High school (or adulthood) and love Juanism and the DJ Bible, you will not like what I have to say and should leave this page immediately. You have been warned, but I can't control whether or not you'll ignore that, read this, and start ****ting salt at your computer because you ignored it.
On the other hand, if YOU are having PROBLEMS with girls, are following EVERY rule of the Juan Bible or Dr. Allen Thompson and are still getting no results, this might be the most pivotal article you read. Ever. Press Ctlr + S. Save this page now.
We've all had BAD experiences. Sometimes we term them our "AFC" days. I've described them to you on both here and on the Juan Discussion, but many of the old articles have since been deleted by the mods at my request because everyone harassed and made fun of me. Am I sad about that? Not really. I grew up being unwanted and bullied by everyone, so.... nothing new. Somewhere along the line I discovered this site and it seemed good. But of course, the tips and tricks didn't really work all the time.
By now, we (the group that should have stayed for this article and myself) understand the basic jist of attraction according to the internet. Don't slather with niceness, don't buy a bunch of gifts or act like a good friend. OK, so we implement that, and supposedly we should be getting at least month-long relationships with a girl and we, according to Juanism, girlschase, whatever sex-obsessed site you read on, sleep with her at least once by the time we're "done" with her. It...sounds great, right? But the fact is, it didn't work out like that. We implement the things, some of us are luck enough to get one or two dates, a kiss perhaps. But others? Nope. Instead, we get given a runaround, unnecessary mind-games, or even the same friend zone situation from before, in the worst cases, despite not conveying very much "Friend" behaviors to begin with. Eventually the girls end up hating us for....no good reason at all, really.
Pretty frustrating sit, huh?
This school year, I had a situation with the girl of my dreams that actually started out pretty well. We knew who we were, but until this year we didn't talk to one another extensively. For the sake of the people in the "Salt-****ting" group who did not heed my warning earlier, I'm not gonna explain the sit, but it went south, and then north, and then deep south, and then back up to somewhere lost in the middle, and she and I are both a little disgruntled sometimes with it.
Whenever I posted, the salt-****ters made assumptions that I was pedestaling and needy, mainly in 9th grade when I posted. And you know what? I overcame that roadblock. Even so when I asked about this sit, then people made the same judgments, and I actually had to post clarifying what was going on, and.... it sucks because I typed long chapters about my sits and then people misinterpret it, so I decided that I wasn't going to come here to get advice. Not anymore. I mean, if it's not working, then it's time to find another solution.
One day, entirely by accident, I discovered attractioninstitute.com. Generic name, I know, but this site was completely different from the juanist movement and the like. Its approach revealed something that the two guys, who had mastered seduction and getting girls the girlschase way, and they eventually learned that they were miserable because they couldn't have the kind of relationship that they wanted. So they wrote a free book, Seduction Community SUCKS. Go to the site, download the PDF, and keep reading this article (Your homework later is to read that book.) The basic message of the book is this:
Not everything in the Seduction Community works for everyone.
That's it. And that's the lesson that I had already observed from my observations. I haven't finished the book, but it so far agrees with the following observations.
I grew up in a Christian school with many of the same classmates. And I am a Christian. There were two guys in particular who were slightly more nerd-ish and childish than the rest of us. One of them loves baseball, and the other was a goody two-shoes who never talked to girls unless they needed classwork information from him.
These two guys were the first of my classmates to get into meaningful relationships. (I'm a junior.)
It's ironic AF, I know. One day, Baseball is sitting next to me in chapel before the service starts, texting his girlfriend, a college Freshman who gradded our school last May. I talked about how lucky he is, and they're always texting all day, mind you. He knew about my past struggles, and without hashing a bunch of "I-know-youu" stuff, he just says this: "Here's what chu gotta do: just be friends. I knew her for two years before she knew she liked me." On the inside, I laughed at how clueless he was. But later, as I thought about it, and as I discovered the Institute, I found that there are guys out there that are breaking every Internet rule and getting far better results than those who are keeping all 613-ish of the Juan commands.
So. That's the long and short of it, people. This is why you can't get a first date. Because you can't find your right Weapon of Choice. You've been using a longbow when your true calling is a steel katana. You have to find what works for you, pass it on to others, and if it doesn't work for them, then... direct them to this article. I'll come back later, as there are bigger things than This that I have to worry about at present.
Do your homework. Read SDS. After that, you can decide on whether or not Juanism is worth it.