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    Being a handy man not as attractive anymore?

    I no longer tell any women that I know my way around working on cars until I know them for a while. In the past, I had too many get friendly just to get work done on their cars. My last ex gf would get an attitude whenever I would bring up working on cars or anything else. She had a check engine...
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    Need Advice

    I went to the party mentioned above, which turned out to be a good time. I was at an event the night before which I had met a lady at. Not thinking anything, I had mentioned about the party to her, which she showed up at. We had a good time, probably could have tried to go a little further, but...
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    Need Advice

    Another update. I have been reinstated into the Meetup group that I was removed from and had signed up for several events that she was not signed up for. I told the orginizer that I would not sign up for any events that she was signed up for first, as I really do not want any contact with her...
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    Need Advice

    I ask because she told me that her sister was abused by their Dad. When I asked if she was, she said she did not know, which in my mind she probably was as well. As far as the BPD, she said that a few people in her family have it. I often wonder if many women just use that and/or other health...
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    Need Advice

    Another question that I have is there anyone there that has been with anyone that has been sexually abused as a child? I am wondering if there are any traits that show up later from that. Does this cause any kind of BPD?
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    Need Advice

    Well, I received an email from the ex GF this morning. She said that she does not want to break her no contact rule she made to herself, but wanted to share something about herself this morning to help me feel better, that she did not explain very well in the past. She has a social phobia. She...
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    Need Advice

    For now, I have been signing up for events on my own, ones that she has not signed up for as I really do not want to see or contact her. It seems like she is beginning to sign up for the events that I would also sign up for. I myself really do not think its a good idea but what are some opinions...
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    Need Advice

    About a year and a half ago, I joined a Meetup group, looking to have some fun and to maybe meet someone too. At the same time, I was also spending a lot of time on here and was in the early stages of trying to get a few plates spinning. About a year ago, I had the start of a plate spinning (not...
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    Smiling

    I had read one of the posts a while back about smiling and eye contact. Between Christmas and New Years, I began practicing it heavily on basically everyone I saw. Lock eyes, smile, and pull off eye contact a split second after she does. At first, I kept catching myself pulling my eyes off too...
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    NC or Not

    Believe me, If I could move, I would, but at this point it is just not an option. Anyway, it felt like such an accomplishment to finally pull something worthwhile. My plan is to improve pulling down there along with trying to pull the few closeer to home.
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    NC or Not

    I met a HB8 at a New Years Eve party. I had to venture out of my area a little for the party (1.5 hour drive) to get away from the skanks and fatties that are locally around by me. Anyway, we had a great time at the party and she was really into me. At the end of the night, she actually asks me...
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    Escalation Advice

    Thanks for the reply, I would still be lost if it was not for this site. Actually, I was just about to start typing a message to #1 to the effect of "It was cool to meet" when 1 new message pops up. She sends "I feel there is just no attraction on both of our parts, good luck in your search."...
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    Escalation Advice

    As I mentioned in earlier posts, I have been using online dating as part of my AFC recovery and to try to put together a game I can adapt into real time. Using the info I read and received on here, the responses have been getting much better (actually getting good responses!!). Of the last three...
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    Absurd online "laundry list"

    I had a good laugh reading one where she didn't want her man to have a porno mustache. I guess she will disqualify the c**k of a pornstar because of his mustache.
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    Has this happened to any of you?

    Reading the info in this thread, one thing came to mind that I never previously thought of, maybe I'm overthinking, but its the time of the first meet/date. For example, for those looking for a ONS, setting the date up for a Friday/Saturday night while for those looking for a LTR and wanting to...
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    Has this happened to any of you?

    Wow, that describes perfectly what I have been noticing lately also. I recently had one make initial contact on me (was cute but no HB10). The emails went fine, then got her number. After several phone calls where "she was busy," I went NC, not worth the time. About two weeks later I get an...
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    Online Dating Questions

    Thank you all for the advice! Those openers are the mindset I was looking for but just could not pinpoint. I would always be reading the profiles, then trying to tailor something to it. After losing count on how many times I have read "I've been to Italy and Belize and am just as comfortable in...
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    Online Dating Questions

    Thanks for the insight. That is a good way to put it. It really shed a light on the whole thing. I am not going to cave in and reply. I do not know if its the area where I am from or the feminist movement, but I have seemed to notice a pattern where the women will be all friendly, drop little...
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    Online Dating Questions

    I have been experimenting around on a couple of online dating websites as part of my AFC recovery. On one of the sites, I have rewritten my profile using tips that I have learned on here and other areas. The amount of looks I get and quality of the lookers has gone way up. I know I still have...
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