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I need you guys' help.

So I'm in a state of bankruptcy with my plates. The one I didn't want to keep anyway basically said "stop treating me like a mattress or I won't do this" and the one I wanted to keep fvcking turned out to be just a ONS which doesn't surprise me since she was a complete slut.

I need to find new girls, but I don't know of an efficient way that is also plausible. I don't have any acquaintance who is both suitable for and willing to go bar hopping with me searching for girls out for d!ck. I've pretty much fine-combed and now deleted my OLD accounts, which gave me pitiful results in the first place. I don't have a lively school or job to meet women through. I have some acquaintances but not a social circle. I don't live in a country where picking up girls you aren't already related to somehow is socially acceptable and understood as how people meet - I can't just go out on the streets or wherever and look for IOIs (because there will be none, and they are not receptive to being picked up anyway). It's winter, so I can't go around with light clothing, and even if I did the aforementioned problem would still apply.

The environment I'm looking for has this:

- More females than males (so no clubs)
- Free or cheap to do, or if it costs you, your life gets something from it (no wasting money paying for sh!t like cover fees and drinks)
- Can be done regularly (no trips to Ibiza)
- Promotes an inclusive, interactive social climate (no clubs again)

I could take up salsa or something I guess, being able to dance well would be useful, I don't have a genuine interest in it for its own sake but you can't have that for everything you do. I don't actually know how good of an environment it is though? What else is there, acting classes?
 
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It's not about the environment.. Your superficial ideologies that you made very clear in your posts on here are what's most likely hurting you. I didn't have to guess to know that your plates don't stick around too long.

You talk alot of game on here but your repertoire doesn't match. Time to set the false ego aside and really start learning about women. Trust me, alot of us have been the same way at one point or another, so don't feel insulted.

Very surprised at you wanting to take salsa lessons to meet girls....This is totally out of left field from the type of stuff you say.. Go for it. If you close on some girls in that setting, I will definitely applaud you.

I'm starting to realize your issue is that you had an American PUA type mentality.. Yet you live in a place that's probably not suited for it. Too much reading and acting out of someone else's playbooks.. and not your own.


Concerts, events, comedy clubs, shopping centers, wine tastings, food festivals, etc.. Not a god damn charity.. Picking up girls in an animal welfare charity? Now that's.. one I've never heard before.. and probably for good reason.
 

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It's not about the environment.. Your superficial ideologies that you made very clear in your posts on here are what's most likely hurting you. I didn't have to guess to know that your plates don't stick around too long.

You talk alot of game on here but your repertoire doesn't match. Time to set the false ego aside and really start learning about women. Trust me, alot of us have been the same way at one point or another, so don't feel insulted.

Very surprised at you wanting to take salsa lessons to meet girls....This is totally out of left field from the type of stuff you say.. Go for it. If you close on some girls in that setting, I will definitely applaud you.

I'm starting to realize your issue is that you had an American PUA type mentality.. Yet you live in a place that's probably not suited for it. Too much reading and acting out of someone else's playbooks.. and not your own.


Concerts, events, comedy clubs, shopping centers, wine tastings, food festivals, etc.. Not a god damn charity.. Picking up girls in an animal welfare charity? Now that's.. one I've never heard before.. and probably for good reason.
What the fvck are you saying? You keep making all these wild accusative assumptions and comments in different threads and PMs, what's your obsession with me? It just feels weird, not funny.

For example, you say I "want" to take salsa lessons and it's "totally out of left field" when I'm merely asking if it's a good place. Are you smoking crack? because that's honestly the impression I get reading the stuff you send me.
 
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What the fvck are you saying? You keep making all these wild accusative assumptions, what's your obsession with me? It just feels weird, not funny.

For example, you say I "want" to take salsa lessons and it's "totally out of left field" when I'm merely asking if it's a good place. Are you smoking crack? because that's honestly the impression I get reading the stuff you send me.
Straighten up your act.. Then you'll have no problem knowing how to find women, where to find women, and how to close , and how to KEEP plates.. Instead of going "bankrupt".

Your attitude right there says ALOT. Doesn't take much for an experienced person to see how you talk on this forum doesn't match your game.. That's all I'm saying. Take it how you will. The ego is a very debilitating thing. I'm just trying to help you get back to reality.. I gave you some good suggestions anyways based on what you were asking in this thread.
 

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Volunteer for any animal welfare charity. It will be 90% women, and all of them will think you are a great guy.
Very good idea.....I might try this myself. But you still have to spend money to get some women. Meet-ups and OLD have worked for me.
 

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I don't have any acquaintance who is both suitable for and willing to go bar hopping with me searching for girls
have no one to hit bars with.
Why does everyone need a wing to go bar hopping? I've NEVER had a wing. I have regular hangouts with identical activities. Even if I venture to a strange place with the same activity, It's likely that I'll run into someone I know. I also have a couple of social circles on the go.

I always stack up on women on my Facebook account. When I declare that I'm single, it's not uncommon for them to contact me shortly thereafter. That's the sole reason why I'm going on a date tonight, just 6 days after I gave the last girlfriend the boot.
 

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I'm pretty much in the same boat you are in right now. I have no plates, I deleted my OLD accounts, and have no one to hit bars with. The only thing I can think of is to go to bars alone and/or start approaching girls in public places.
This thread should be useful for you too then.

Some background on me. I've worked on being PCF in person - Positive, Charismatic, Fun - for years. I knew I needed to improve socially as far back as 8th grade when I noticed my social skills had totally fallen apart after a school change made me have no one to socialise with. By now I think I'm not a comedian, but solid except that I haven't yet learned how to dance as a skill which imo is a huge part of game, and I have too much pride to be a good pick-up artist. By the latter, I mean that I have a very hard time getting myself to pander to women, which is not good when you need to swallow your ego and for example spend your weekends going out to clubs to "entertain" girls and get them to bite. It's not so much that I don't dare to talk to them (I've done too many cold approaches and talk too freely to women in my every day life for that to be the case), as much as it is that I don't want to give frame to a woman who is not interested. That means I don't like approaching without an IOI. I want to talk to girls who are already basically interested in meeting guys and having sex and don't want to spend my time "PUA'ing" girls. I'm not asking for girls to land in my lap, but I am asking for basic IOIs like a girl who makes eye contact with you at all.

Why does everyone need a wing to go bar hopping? I've NEVER had a wing. I have regular hangouts with identical activities. Even if I venture to a strange place with the same activity, It's likely that I'll run into someone I know. I also have a couple of social circles on the go.

I always stack up on women on my Facebook account. When I declare that I'm single, it's not uncommon for them to contact me shortly thereafter. That's the sole reason why I'm going on a date tonight, just 6 days after I gave the last girlfriend the boot.
When you say activities I take that as meaning you are doing something in the bar. I can't speak for OG, but me, I'm not interested in anything going on in any bar I've been to. I don't drink, I for the most part don't like the kind of club music played today, I don't smoke, I'm not a fan of any sport they show on their TVs, I don't gamble, and most significantly, situations that force you to do nothing but be still and talk make me very uneasy and I can't stand it. I'd rather open up my UFC fight pass and study technique etc. than go to a bar. If you have a friend you're going with it's cool because then you can fall back on socialising with someone who has the same plan for being there as you have. Some may think that's weak which I don't blame them for, I'm not afraid to say it like it is. If I was interested in going out for its own sake I would.

That's why I think the ideal for me would be to take up more activities with conditions like those I outlined in the OP where I would have no problem feeling good and flirting with girls, rather than going to clubs.
 
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It's not about the environment.. Your superficial ideologies that you made very clear in your posts on here are what's most likely hurting you. I didn't have to guess to know that your plates don't stick around too long.

You talk alot of game on here but your repertoire doesn't match. Time to set the false ego aside and really start learning about women. Trust me, alot of us have been the same way at one point or another, so don't feel insulted.

Very surprised at you wanting to take salsa lessons to meet girls....This is totally out of left field from the type of stuff you say.. Go for it. If you close on some girls in that setting, I will definitely applaud you.

I'm starting to realize your issue is that you had an American PUA type mentality.. Yet you live in a place that's probably not suited for it. Too much reading and acting out of someone else's playbooks.. and not your own.


Concerts, events, comedy clubs, shopping centers, wine tastings, food festivals, etc.. Not a god damn charity.. Picking up girls in an animal welfare charity? Now that's.. one I've never heard before.. and probably for good reason.
First of all you keep giving crappy advices as usual, you talk like a woman in 90% of your posts, it seems like you cant related to guys and feel annoyed when they talk about their problems, you are a half way between a flamer and a fat girl with glasses trying to "set boys straight".

Anyway he made it clear that in his nation he cant do cold approaches cause its not accepted culturally and girls are not responsive, how exactly he is supposed to meet girls going alone without cold approaching in festivals, shopping centers comedy clubs and concerts?

Maybe if "he was a woman" that would be easy of course, but apparently he is a man, he talks like a man and needs suggetions that work for a man, which is clearly the opposite of your attacks and psychological shaming crap.
 

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I need you guys' help.

So I'm in a state of bankruptcy with my plates. The one I didn't want to keep anyway basically said "stop treating me like a mattress or I won't do this" and the one I wanted to keep fvcking turned out to be just a ONS which doesn't surprise me since she was a complete slut.

I need to find new girls, but I don't know of an efficient way that is also plausible. I don't have any acquaintance who is both suitable for and willing to go bar hopping with me searching for girls out for d!ck. I've pretty much fine-combed and now deleted my OLD accounts, which gave me pitiful results in the first place. I don't have a lively school or job to meet women through. I have some acquaintances but not a social circle. I don't live in a country where picking up girls you aren't already related to somehow is socially acceptable and understood as how people meet - I can't just go out on the streets or wherever and look for IOIs (because there will be none, and they are not receptive to being picked up anyway). It's winter, so I can't go around with light clothing, and even if I did the aforementioned problem would still apply.

The environment I'm looking for has this:

- More females than males (so no clubs)
- Free or cheap to do, or if it costs you, your life gets something from it (no wasting money paying for sh!t like cover fees and drinks)
- Can be done regularly (no trips to Ibiza)
- Promotes an inclusive, interactive social climate (no clubs again)

I could take up salsa or something I guess, being able to dance well would be useful, I don't have a genuine interest in it for its own sake but you can't have that for everything you do. I don't actually know how good of an environment it is though? What else is there, acting classes?
Come through the States let's take down Miami bro
 

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Yoga, cooking classes, not for profit organizations that you are interested in, dance classes are great art classes, anything like that.

For me, I meet most of the women I date at local chambers of Commerce and business development organizations. I also meet women at yoga class and my biking club.

I also meet a lot of women out and about, but I live in a very friendly city... if you are in a place where this isn't culturally acceptable then cold approach would be out.
 

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I need you guys' help.

So I'm in a state of bankruptcy with my plates. The one I didn't want to keep anyway basically said "stop treating me like a mattress or I won't do this" and the one I wanted to keep fvcking turned out to be just a ONS which doesn't surprise me since she was a complete slut.

I need to find new girls, but I don't know of an efficient way that is also plausible.

The environment I'm looking for has this:

- More females than males (so no clubs)
- Free or cheap to do, or if it costs you, your life gets something from it (no wasting money paying for sh!t like cover fees and drinks)
- Can be done regularly (no trips to Ibiza)
- Promotes an inclusive, interactive social climate (no clubs again)

I could take up salsa or something I guess, being able to dance well would be useful, I don't have a genuine interest in it for its own sake but you can't have that for everything you do. I don't actually know how good of an environment it is though? What else is there, acting classes?
Bro your mindset is wrong. Don't do something just to meet a girl. Do something you like so you have something in common with her. If you go salsa dancing and you meet the girl of your dreams who is sexy and hot and nice and beautiful and you are in love, but you absolutely HATE dancing, what are you going to do? You can only keep up the charade for so long before people start figuring it out.

What do you like? What do you do for fun? Don't do anything to meet a girl if you don't enjoy it. They are not worth it.
 

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Bro your mindset is wrong. Don't do something just to meet a girl. Do something you like so you have something in common with her. If you go salsa dancing and you meet the girl of your dreams who is sexy and hot and nice and beautiful and you are in love, but you absolutely HATE dancing, what are you going to do? You can only keep up the charade for so long before people start figuring it out.

What do you like? What do you do for fun? Don't do anything to meet a girl if you don't enjoy it. They are not worth it.
Yeah im already on that boat. Thats why i dont wanna go clubbing. But some things i dont "LOVE" yet could still see myself having fun with or my life benefitting from.
 

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That's why I think the ideal for me would be to take up more activities with conditions like those I outlined in the OP where I would have no problem feeling good and flirting with girls, rather than going to clubs.
There's lots of stuff out there that doesn't involve going to a bar. You could do improv, volunteer at an old folks home, board game groups, dancing classes, there's all kinds of stuff. You can use sites like meetup.com to find things. My city has a local free guide to courses that you can take. There's cooking classes, learning a new language, pottery classes, and the list keeps going on. Look into that stuff and make sure you pick activities that will appeal to women.
 

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For me, I meet most of the women I date at local chambers of Commerce and business development organizations. I also meet women at yoga class and my biking club.
I think this a great idea that I've never considered. It shiuld be a great way to meet single, childless and non-ratchet women.
 

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There's lots of stuff out there that doesn't involve going to a bar. You could do improv, volunteer at an old folks home, board game groups, dancing classes, there's all kinds of stuff. You can use sites like meetup.com to find things. My city has a local free guide to courses that you can take. There's cooking classes, learning a new language, pottery classes, and the list keeps going on. Look into that stuff and make sure you pick activities that will appeal to women.
I j oined an acting & improvisation group and two dance groups. Gonna start going to yoga at my dojo too. All of these things I've thought about before, especially dancing. Then when I have some skill at dancing I can start going to latina clubs... hoo boy. A few months from now I'm gonna be macking that @ss.
 
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