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samspade

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Gentlemen, I've gotten lazy. I'm letting three seconds pass without opening my mouth around babes. Last night in a fast food joint I had a perfect opportunity and I froze. And she wasn't even that attractive. It was almost awkward because I could tell she expected it and left thinking I was a spineless American beta. I find myself only talking to cashiers because it's easy. I'm not taking risks - really, there's nothing risky about it. I'm just opting to keep to myself and as a result, my life is less interesting. I have no one to blame but myself.

I have a regular girl, a girlfriend or whatever, but we're not serious. She knows that. I don't necessarily want another piece of a$$, but I should be practicing for my own sake. Having regular sex is not an excuse for regression. Going to record stuff here. Feel free to contribute your own if you like. I decided a private journal would not hold me to it, so here's a public one. Have a great weekend.
 

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10/9. Half-a$$ed approach at an intersection. Young-ish black chick. She said something off hand and I opened her and we chatted. She had nice lips, but wore sweatpants and was sorta ghetto but not too bad. Tried to escalate a bit but it didn't go anywhere. It's a start.
 

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So you are saying that you are scared to "approach" chicks? If that's the case, I think you have just became anti-social in general. One thing that might work is to join a business club, networking club or any type of social club. Go in there and personally talk to EVERY SINGLE PERSON (guy and girl). This would help to just bring you out of your shell and back into a generic social stance.

Approaching chicks shouldn't be a task or anything like that, just a social thing. You see somebody you want to talk to, and you just talk to them. If the convo goes well, then seek to "close", if she flat out ignores you then just blow it off, keep moving, and spark a conversation with someone else.

One thing I honestly think you guys should stop doing is labeling your actions or personalities as "alpha" or "beta". Nobody in the real world gives a damn about these insane labels and they honestly don't mean anything.

Fix your looks, fix your money, and fix your personality to the point where you can just walk up to any random person and spark a decent conversation. That would make you generically "attractive," from there, everything with chicks is a numbers game. You spark up convos with 20 chicks, get 8 numbers, and fvck 2 of them.
 

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If I ever find myself not wanting to socialise, I find that it means I am out of shape. The more I socialise, the more I feel at ease the next time. For me it's like excersize. The more you do it the easier it gets.
 
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I opened a chick today at the grocery store. She was nice enough, and maybe I should have sought the rejection, but I was getting zero vibes and ended it. Rollo would call that a buffer, but I've been around long enough to know when to chalk it up.

Later on, I met up with some friends who were in town for a big college football game. I was mostly concerned with catching up with my buddies, but one of the girls we were with had friends show up. They were good looking, so obviously I found myself trying to fvck them. After meeting them, though, and listening to them speak for a while, I had zero interest in having anything to do with them. Sure, they were hot, but even that wasn't enough for me to expend the energy.

When I was younger I wouldn't have hesitated. I would have been all over them like bees to honey. As I've gotten older, I've noticed that I'm less willing to waste my time on low-class females.

I think you have just became anti-social in general.
First of all, great post; everything you said is helpful.

I just wanted to say that I know I'm anti-social, and I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Most of the people I talk to on a daily basis do not challenge me intellectually. I'd rather sit alone and read by myself than talk to some dipsh1t about what's new on television or social media, which is what most people talk about.

Many times, I refuse to speak to hot women for the same reason I neglect conversation from anyone: I just don't want to hear their bullsh1t.
 
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As I've gotten older, I've noticed that I'm less willing to waste my time on low-class females.
I should have used an asterisk because I've also fvcked two prostitutes within the past year. First time was awkward, but the second chick was awesome and I actually ended up fvcking her a few more times. YMMV

Samspade, my respect for you is the only reason I logged in. I wouldn't bother, otherwise.
 
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samspade

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So you are saying that you are scared to "approach" chicks? If that's the case, I think you have just became anti-social in general. One thing that might work is to join a business club, networking club or any type of social club. Go in there and personally talk to EVERY SINGLE PERSON (guy and girl). This would help to just bring you out of your shell and back into a generic social stance.

Approaching chicks shouldn't be a task or anything like that, just a social thing. You see somebody you want to talk to, and you just talk to them. If the convo goes well, then seek to "close", if she flat out ignores you then just blow it off, keep moving, and spark a conversation with someone else.
Thanks - that's good advice. I don't think I've become anti-social, just lazy. I don't consider it a task, either. I enjoy being gregarious and talking to anyone, male or female. I have just found myself opting out more often lately. But you're spot on - it should be less about opening girls and more about talking to whomever.
Maybe I'll do some meetups to get the wheels turning again. Meanwhile I started this thread because I think keeping track can be a good reminder/motivator.
 

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I should have used an asterisk because I've also fvcked two prostitutes within the past year. First time was awkward, but the second chick was awesome and I actually ended up fvcking her a few more times. YMMV

Samspade, my respect for you is the only reason I logged in. I wouldn't bother, otherwise.
Thanks TyTe EyEz, right back atcha.
 

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Gentlemen, I've gotten lazy. I'm letting three seconds pass without opening my mouth around babes. Last night in a fast food joint I had a perfect opportunity and I froze. And she wasn't even that attractive. It was almost awkward because I could tell she expected it and left thinking I was a spineless American beta.
I don't want to discourage anyone from improving themselves, but let me offer a different perspective. What are you beating yourself up for? You said yourself you weren't interested in banging her. So why is it so all important that you open her? I can understand that maybe you want to keep in practice and all, but there's no end game here, so who cares? Are you required to give out attention to every chick that walks by in your vicinity? That's just feeding their endless sense of entitlement if you ask me.

Like I said, if you need the practice, great. But if you're not really interested in the chick, who cares and why bother?
 

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Dear Zecko,
Sam is probably feeling the way I do...I never let myself feel secure in any relationship..At the foot of the Tallest tree there sits a big Axe...I always have at least three auditioning or sitting in the wings,as well as a significant other...but it is more than security,it is ego...The feeling that you can still pull a Bird LOL...Also the thrill of the chase,the close and the kill...Tell a Hunter he should buy his Venison in Walmart.
 

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I never let myself feel secure in any relationship.
That is a very firm cornerstone of my relationship philosophy: I never let myself feel secure in any relationship either. However, Sam had no real interest in this girl, so who cares if he didn't give her some attention? Why kick himself over it?
 

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Zekko, Scaramouche said it all. Also - if you're not getting better, you're getting worse. It's not about them and their entitlement, I'm beyond all that. It's about me and staying sharp / not being too introverted. If I sounded like I was beating myself up, it was more about being "out of shape" - same as if I hadn't been to the gym in three weeks.

Today I opened a girl at a bar. She was very friendly and it went nowhere. I loved it all the same!
 

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Meh. I'm still not going to worry if I don't talk to some chick I have no interest in.
 
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