Instead of the endless arguing going on in this thread, how about we just concede that different men have different preferences when it comes to relationships or just spinning plates. And these can all change based on a variety of factors.
I really think this is where the discussion goes off the rails. We discuss from our personal understanding, or interpretation of what OP posted, instead of stepping back and making sure we are objective. In a few other threads I have gotten the intended topic wrong - and some really sweet (sarcasm) members have corrected me. I like discussion.
Discussion promotes thought, thought promotes discovery. Some posters are very certain in the way they think it should be done, and they post instructions. If the instructions are questioned, calamity, on many levels, ensues. Calamity does not promote discussion, thought or discovery.
Here is my perspective on certain behaviors that seem to recur...
Step 1)
statements and instructions are
posted!!!!!
Step 2) a disagreeing viewpoint is posted
Step 3) there is no discussion, discovery or debate, step 2 poster gets railed up the a$$, immediately, in many colorful and demeaning ways.
What's going on is pretty self explanatory (to me). Once Step 2 has been posted, the Step 1 poster experiences certain feelings such as a loss of control and/or anxiety. Loss of control generally refers to lack of the ability to provide conscious limitation of impulses and behavior as a result of overwhelming emotion. States of agitation such as fighting, screaming, and uncontrollable weeping are most often thought of as behavior illustrative of loss of control.
That's pretty much what happens in Step 3. And it happens over and over again.
It's either this, or the Step 1 poster is
truly a
beta troll and gets off by purposefully derailing the discussion.
Either way, I think everyone knows there is no such thing as a healthy discussion or debate with the Step 1 poster. So why bother engaging?
