sharpshooter
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 3, 2004
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I haven't been on this site in a long time.
When I first came to this site about three years ago I was a confused, frusterated, and DESPERATE individual. I thought being successful with women all came down to tricks and being ****y and funny all the time. What I’ve learned is something I’ve always known. Being a "Don Juan" is this:
Be the greatest man that you can possibly be. You must continue to do so every minute, hour and day for the rest of your life. This does not mean you become complacent with what you've become. No, you must work your ass off every single day to climb up that Don Juan ladder.
All through high school, I had absolutely NO social life. I was extremely bony, had funny looking glasses and braces on top of that. I wasn’t into studying or school, so I wasn’t a nerd., just didn’t have a social life. Making friends wasn't hard for me and I got along with everyone (from the coolest people at school to the nerds). I just never felt comfortable in my skin, so I never partied etc. In fact, I never even kissed a girl all through high school. Yes, it was pretty damn sad and low! However, I knew what I was presenting to the world wasn't who I was inside.
It all changed when I started working out. My mentality did a complete 180. On came the muscle mass! Off came the braces! A few months later, goodbye glasses, hello contact lenses. My confidence went through the roof, and it was stable. I started turning heads, a lot of heads. I was finally becoming the person that I knew I always was physically. Then I ran head first into a brick wall.
That brick wall was in the form of WOMEN. Due to my total blockage of girls all throughout highschool, I was confused, confused and confused when it came to girls. I was able to attract them now, yes, but I couldn't do anything with it..not a god damn thing! I thought I needed some magic formula or some sort of complicated game plan to get a girlfriend. So I jumped on this site, started learning all the little tricks and tips. ****y/funny, eye contact, voice tone, how to have better conversations, when to call, when not to call etc etc. What did it lead to? It lead to a few dates here and there..but my true self would always show. It'll show you the gameplan..but if you rely on it directly, it's not gonna come to you naturally. Here I was with a ton of confidence, finally all muscled up, and I was treating women like some university calculus formula. It's like trying to chop down a gigantic tree with a blunted axe. You're going to be stuck there for a long time.
I stepped away from "the game". Started focusing more on working out, gained even more. Got away from women. I noticed one thing that stuck out. When you're at the level where you feel like you're firing on all cylinders, you don't need to hit on women. You don't need to practice silly patterns. You don't need to even practice ****y and funny. You know why? It all comes to you, naturally. Just become the man that you know you can be, and everything will fall in place.
Perception of women:
I used to think girls were angels that needed to be catered to. What I've found out first hand was the complete opposite. 80-90 percent of attractive girls are all about one thing. Materialism. You've got a nice body, fresh clothes, maybe a pimping ride? Good, she'll be onto you like glue. To most of them, your age won't even matter and you won't even need many "Don Juan" like skills at all, just be a good ass kisser with some wit. HOWEVER, that's not what we're striving for though because there are tons of old, rich geezers that kiss ass (because that's all they've been led to believe). Besides, most of us here are young, up and comers.
Women are not perfect. Even the most beautiful 10/10 women have their PHYSICAL flaws. Believe me, get her naked first hand and you'll see.
Like Pook the legend has said countless times, why are you putting these girls on pedestals? A girl will just as quickly cheat on you than you'll cheat on her, probably even quicker! She'll cheat on you with the most unlikely of partners too. If you're able to get a girl comfortable enough to start talking about sex., ask her this. What's the oldest dude you've ever ****ed? If she's honest and blunt, she'll tell you the truth. You're in for a shock. I know some really attractive young women (19-22, yes, really) that have slept with 50 year olds, even 65+ year olds! I always tease them about it jokingly and they'll never hear the end of it from me. What I found out was that these weren't the wine and dine type of old geezers either, these were the type that you'd see at a bar at 3 in the morning. Successful old men, but not the wine and dine type. More like the biker type. Here I was, working my ass off at the gym, attractive, striving for my life. Yet these girls are telling me stories about getting **** from old geezers?
This is just from the handful of girls that I know; imagine how many more are out there. So tell me this, why again are you putting these girls up on pedastals like they're goddesses? They're not! They're out getting laid by guys that are old enough to be your GRANDFATHER, and you're sitting there trying to figure out a pattern. If that's not a wakeup call/slap in the face. Then I don't know what is!!!
When I started realizing these things about women, I became very bitter. That's precisely when I threw away all my Don Juan material. It turned me into an absolute natural JERK with women. I stopped smiling, started sounding more harsh and abrupt in my talking. I'd make this deep evil eye contact with them like I wanted to kill them (yes i'm serious). Oh yea, it attracted them. It made THEM hit on me. They had to get my validation. But I was so into my jerk state that I didn't give a damn. It also created a lot of bad blood with a lot of women, and cut me off from many potential long-term girlfriends.
Remember, not every girl is going to dig you. Even if she's a 7/10 girl and you're a 10/10 guy! She just might not think you'r her "style" or "type" of guy. I don't even go for girlfriends anymore. Once I get a girl's number or e-mail addy. I become sexual really quick. Obviously not right away, but fairly quickly (with hints of it before hand of course). This is when a girl is at her most comfortable yet most nervous, so if you can be naturally sexual towards her and not come off as desperate..she's yours for the taking.
I honestly believe that a jerk treats a woman like crap because HE KNOWS what a girl is all about. He's been through the b.s, and doesn't care to give it more. Right now i'm at a stage where i'm just me. I'm not a total jerk like I was once. But the natural man i me brings out that "jerk" once in a while because a lot of natural man's characteristics are jerk like.
Masturbation:
It has it's ups and downs. but ultimately it's self defeating. Unless you already have a steady flow of f buddies, just quit. Save it to once every week, or once every two weeks, which is better. I workout hard 3-4 times a week. I feel the effects of masturbation; it's DRAINING beyond belief. Not just physically, but emotionally as well. You ever hear the saying "get some balls, or grow some balls" or "he's got balls". Well it holds true. When you don't masturbate your balls are obviously gonna max out. Bigger balls = more success with women. This is from a guy who used to masturbate daily. Trust me on this one. If you don't believe me, quit for a week (that's if you can even do that). You'll notice a huge difference and girls will just "sense" it off of you. It's one of those natural things that we just CAN'T explain via science. I think this is a key reason for why our generation is having a lot of trouble with women. Porno is so easily available these days, via the net etc. Guys are jerking off more than ever before, it's not a secret. I'm guilty of it myself from time to time, but just lay off ot it and you'll see a huge difference. Embrace the aggression and horniness you're gonna get from not masturbating and you're gonna go FAR.
Concluding:
My advice is simple. Everything will come to you once you become the person that you know you were destined to be. Have an image in your head and strive for it, every single day..and you'll get there! These days I just treat Don Juan tips and tricks as REMINDERS of how I should be (if i'm ever slipping).
"Women ain't ****". Remember this, and you'll neve have a problem with a girl ever again. I can guarantee it.
When I first came to this site about three years ago I was a confused, frusterated, and DESPERATE individual. I thought being successful with women all came down to tricks and being ****y and funny all the time. What I’ve learned is something I’ve always known. Being a "Don Juan" is this:
Be the greatest man that you can possibly be. You must continue to do so every minute, hour and day for the rest of your life. This does not mean you become complacent with what you've become. No, you must work your ass off every single day to climb up that Don Juan ladder.
All through high school, I had absolutely NO social life. I was extremely bony, had funny looking glasses and braces on top of that. I wasn’t into studying or school, so I wasn’t a nerd., just didn’t have a social life. Making friends wasn't hard for me and I got along with everyone (from the coolest people at school to the nerds). I just never felt comfortable in my skin, so I never partied etc. In fact, I never even kissed a girl all through high school. Yes, it was pretty damn sad and low! However, I knew what I was presenting to the world wasn't who I was inside.
It all changed when I started working out. My mentality did a complete 180. On came the muscle mass! Off came the braces! A few months later, goodbye glasses, hello contact lenses. My confidence went through the roof, and it was stable. I started turning heads, a lot of heads. I was finally becoming the person that I knew I always was physically. Then I ran head first into a brick wall.
That brick wall was in the form of WOMEN. Due to my total blockage of girls all throughout highschool, I was confused, confused and confused when it came to girls. I was able to attract them now, yes, but I couldn't do anything with it..not a god damn thing! I thought I needed some magic formula or some sort of complicated game plan to get a girlfriend. So I jumped on this site, started learning all the little tricks and tips. ****y/funny, eye contact, voice tone, how to have better conversations, when to call, when not to call etc etc. What did it lead to? It lead to a few dates here and there..but my true self would always show. It'll show you the gameplan..but if you rely on it directly, it's not gonna come to you naturally. Here I was with a ton of confidence, finally all muscled up, and I was treating women like some university calculus formula. It's like trying to chop down a gigantic tree with a blunted axe. You're going to be stuck there for a long time.
I stepped away from "the game". Started focusing more on working out, gained even more. Got away from women. I noticed one thing that stuck out. When you're at the level where you feel like you're firing on all cylinders, you don't need to hit on women. You don't need to practice silly patterns. You don't need to even practice ****y and funny. You know why? It all comes to you, naturally. Just become the man that you know you can be, and everything will fall in place.
Perception of women:
I used to think girls were angels that needed to be catered to. What I've found out first hand was the complete opposite. 80-90 percent of attractive girls are all about one thing. Materialism. You've got a nice body, fresh clothes, maybe a pimping ride? Good, she'll be onto you like glue. To most of them, your age won't even matter and you won't even need many "Don Juan" like skills at all, just be a good ass kisser with some wit. HOWEVER, that's not what we're striving for though because there are tons of old, rich geezers that kiss ass (because that's all they've been led to believe). Besides, most of us here are young, up and comers.
Women are not perfect. Even the most beautiful 10/10 women have their PHYSICAL flaws. Believe me, get her naked first hand and you'll see.
Like Pook the legend has said countless times, why are you putting these girls on pedestals? A girl will just as quickly cheat on you than you'll cheat on her, probably even quicker! She'll cheat on you with the most unlikely of partners too. If you're able to get a girl comfortable enough to start talking about sex., ask her this. What's the oldest dude you've ever ****ed? If she's honest and blunt, she'll tell you the truth. You're in for a shock. I know some really attractive young women (19-22, yes, really) that have slept with 50 year olds, even 65+ year olds! I always tease them about it jokingly and they'll never hear the end of it from me. What I found out was that these weren't the wine and dine type of old geezers either, these were the type that you'd see at a bar at 3 in the morning. Successful old men, but not the wine and dine type. More like the biker type. Here I was, working my ass off at the gym, attractive, striving for my life. Yet these girls are telling me stories about getting **** from old geezers?
This is just from the handful of girls that I know; imagine how many more are out there. So tell me this, why again are you putting these girls up on pedastals like they're goddesses? They're not! They're out getting laid by guys that are old enough to be your GRANDFATHER, and you're sitting there trying to figure out a pattern. If that's not a wakeup call/slap in the face. Then I don't know what is!!!
When I started realizing these things about women, I became very bitter. That's precisely when I threw away all my Don Juan material. It turned me into an absolute natural JERK with women. I stopped smiling, started sounding more harsh and abrupt in my talking. I'd make this deep evil eye contact with them like I wanted to kill them (yes i'm serious). Oh yea, it attracted them. It made THEM hit on me. They had to get my validation. But I was so into my jerk state that I didn't give a damn. It also created a lot of bad blood with a lot of women, and cut me off from many potential long-term girlfriends.
Remember, not every girl is going to dig you. Even if she's a 7/10 girl and you're a 10/10 guy! She just might not think you'r her "style" or "type" of guy. I don't even go for girlfriends anymore. Once I get a girl's number or e-mail addy. I become sexual really quick. Obviously not right away, but fairly quickly (with hints of it before hand of course). This is when a girl is at her most comfortable yet most nervous, so if you can be naturally sexual towards her and not come off as desperate..she's yours for the taking.
I honestly believe that a jerk treats a woman like crap because HE KNOWS what a girl is all about. He's been through the b.s, and doesn't care to give it more. Right now i'm at a stage where i'm just me. I'm not a total jerk like I was once. But the natural man i me brings out that "jerk" once in a while because a lot of natural man's characteristics are jerk like.
Masturbation:
It has it's ups and downs. but ultimately it's self defeating. Unless you already have a steady flow of f buddies, just quit. Save it to once every week, or once every two weeks, which is better. I workout hard 3-4 times a week. I feel the effects of masturbation; it's DRAINING beyond belief. Not just physically, but emotionally as well. You ever hear the saying "get some balls, or grow some balls" or "he's got balls". Well it holds true. When you don't masturbate your balls are obviously gonna max out. Bigger balls = more success with women. This is from a guy who used to masturbate daily. Trust me on this one. If you don't believe me, quit for a week (that's if you can even do that). You'll notice a huge difference and girls will just "sense" it off of you. It's one of those natural things that we just CAN'T explain via science. I think this is a key reason for why our generation is having a lot of trouble with women. Porno is so easily available these days, via the net etc. Guys are jerking off more than ever before, it's not a secret. I'm guilty of it myself from time to time, but just lay off ot it and you'll see a huge difference. Embrace the aggression and horniness you're gonna get from not masturbating and you're gonna go FAR.
Concluding:
My advice is simple. Everything will come to you once you become the person that you know you were destined to be. Have an image in your head and strive for it, every single day..and you'll get there! These days I just treat Don Juan tips and tricks as REMINDERS of how I should be (if i'm ever slipping).
"Women ain't ****". Remember this, and you'll neve have a problem with a girl ever again. I can guarantee it.
