Anybody here play sports a lot? In particular combat sports like BJJ, boxing, wrestling?

Even for those who don't, try getting some sports psychology books. It's really helped me a lot. There are so many parallels between the psychology of sarging and the psychology of sports that for those of you who are scared, fearful of approaching, or inconsistent, getting some sports psychology books and doing the exercises inside will jump your game a lot.

In particular combat sports psychology (hard to find, but there's one called the Grappling Game Plan - buy it, don't download it) is closer because it deals with fear of the opponent (but we can apply it to the little 45kg girl we RAFCs are scared of ).

Seriously, there are so many parallels that it will really jump your game. For example - the section with dealing with fear of losing a match - is the same as dealing with fear of approaching/rejection!

Just a tip to help out my fellow RAFCs...

I'm doing sports psychology at university very good course, i studied it briefly when I was in college, in my first year, not so much in my second year. But now at university, its more in depth. I can't really relate it to the whole dj thing, it might just be me though.

At the end of the day read **** up on here, read pooks stories and all the threads till your heart is content.

but all you need is a decent appearence, social proof, and some confidence but not massive loads and you'll be able to date some girls without puttin much effort in.

most important thing is social proof if u ask me...

I have a book on sport psychology and recently did a subject on it. unfortunately i didnt learn much cos i was very hungover the week i took the subject for uni.

yes it has a lot of concepts that you can apply to real life especially girls ie goal setting, anxiety, arousal etc