fail? Wanna improve? Get customer feedback!

[THIAGO BRAZIL II]

In NLP courses I learned some things about interaction with ppl.

If you wanna seduce, sell or get some one to do something for you, and the person doesnt give you type of reply you want - like giving you head :D - ..

NEVER ASK WHY she dont want to do it.

ASK HER MOTIVES.

example

What makes you think this? What leads you to act this way?

WHY is reason

Motives are Motivations, and motivations can be molded easily with questions and tricky conversation.

Example

If you set a date with a girl, and at the end you go for the kiss and she say no.

get feedback from your client to improve your product! She might be a next case, and you can give a last shot.

What makes you dont wanna kiss me?

ahh... we did not blabh blabh blah.. you this this and that - this is where you might wanna improve yourself. Lets call it customer feedback to improve your product - YOU!

The question is also good to aply to yourself.

ASk yourself

What makes me act this way?
What makes me be afraid of approaching this girl now? - get the answers from yourself - and dynamite its foundations!
Oh.. I dont know if she is interested.
How do you know that?
She doesnt look at me.
So make her look at you by approaching!

- ok, this is crazy, but talk to yourself can be a great way to improve your map and model of the world and your realities.

DONT ASK WHY
ASK THE MOTIVATIONS

Motivations are the power to action.

When you ask the girl

what makes you love your (book - hobbie - dog - car - dress - perfume - etc ) so much? - you are getting from her motivations that are deeply emotional things, unconsciouness thing - the thing you wanna play with - before her clitoris and tits :D

she will reply

I loooooove this (thing) because it makes me dream or it reminds me of a place I went, in Vermont... whatever.

You pay attention to the reply and now the best part...

Link yourself to her reply, her motivation!

HOW?

to the 1st reply... Make her dream!

later on the conversation tell her..

Can you imagine a place where you can be free.. (capisce? ;)) make her dream..

To the 2nd reply..

Remember a special place you went? Like Vermont... then you touch her arm and look deep in her eyes.

now there is an emotional bond being builted!!!!

Great.

When she gives negative - improve
when its positive use it to get her.

thats NLP used in the right way.

[SamePendo]

Well, yes, in a way. But you must manage inner AND outer locus to your advantage, be aware of it. That's my problem with seducing.

[itishe]

I'm sure English isn't your primary language, and no offense I had a little trouble fully understanding your post.

[Marlimus]

this tip is bull****. women are emotional, not logical, and will not give clear, objective reasons as to why they do what they do.

[THIAGO BRAZIL II]

sure Marlimus

what makes you think this way about the post?

[Marlimus]

Women will give the most politically correct answer most times. Ask a woman what she wants in a man, and she will rarely ever tell you that she wants to be put in her place, or that she wants an oedipal surrogate father figure. If you ask a woman why she doesn't want to kiss you, or why she doesn't return your calls, she will not be blunt. She will say she doesn't kiss on the first date, which is most likely a lie, or that she was going to call you but was just SO BUSY which is also probably a lie. Women avoid confrontation of this nature, which is why we say don't take advice from women about other women. The will give you politicaly correct advice, not advice to spike attraction levels.

Secondly, asking such questions show that you care too much, which suggests neediness. Did she give you the cheek turn? Just smile and say goodnight. Trying to get feedback is BAD. Its like saying

"Why don't you like me?" "What don't you like about me?" Thats what she really hears.

[THIAGO BRAZIL II]

so you have motives.... hmnnnnnnnnnnnn :rolleyes:

you must say it in between the lines. Marlimus your questions are too direct. You didnt understand the topic, dont ask

WHY YOU DIDNT CALL ME??

Ask her

What makes you didnt want to call me? - in portuguese it has a different meaning Im trying to translate in a proper manner so it can be related and have the similar substance in the question.

I received this message


"When I ask a woman what her reason for doing something is, I don't always get a straight answer. They tell me because it looks good, or the puppy is cute.

They never tell me their motives, how would I do that?

can you respond in your thread for me please?"

Ok, hardly you will receive a straight answer, people normally have barriers for their interior beliefs and values and.. motivations. They will try to defend it from showing it for you. You must learn to make the questions. Like a smart lawyer in court session heheh

so she tell you that the puppy is cute, you ask

What makes the puppy looks cute? - What in the pupe is cute for her?

ohhhh.. I dont know, it is cute!
try to explain it to me - you can say
she might try, and then you have motivations, or not heheh
or she can say no.
you must change the subject.
best reply?
I hate puppies... :trouble:


You must "dig her brain"for the answer, but dont go hard for it, you can become boring and annoying.

[THIAGO BRAZIL II]

WHY IS BAD

WHAT IS GOOD. :D

Ask her

What makes her feel attracted to you.

think about it. :up: