The world works in mysterious ways.

Intuition would say that when you try to achieve something, your chances of accomplishing your goal are increased. Experience tells you otherwise.

Now I'm not telling you to give up on life here, really, I'm not!

Hear me out. In the realm of social dynamics, and in our case, pickup, when you approach something in an outcome-oriented fashion, you are shooting yourself in the foot.

Consider the following:

The guy who tries to make everyone laugh is going to end up laughing alone at his own jokes.
The guy who brags about his BMW is going to end up riding home alone. T
The guy that tries really hard to get rapport with a girl is going to get a polite "I have to use the bathroom".

The solution:

Lose your outcome orientation. Kill it. Kick it's ass. Seriously man.

The moment that you lose your need for a women in your life is the moment that one will enter.

Promise

Right, but your subconscious should be leading in the desired direction with ACTIONS completely out of your head.

You can't think about the outcome but your actions should lead to the outcome. Hence concentration on the process not the end result.

Don't you mean when you trying too hard? I think your thinking about disrespecting people subtly.

They pic up ont hese things because you are coming off too strong about things they don't give a crap about.

Bragging about your car? You can tell a story and get the same reaction.

Making people laugh? You can make people laugh if you aren't wasting peoples time and are congruent.

Tries to hard to create rapport? Create real rapport, don't ask questions and leave them hanging too often.

Everything in moderation, people respect you when you try, but when all your looking for is attention they notice and leave you to yourself. Excessive self love is harmful.

Lifetrainee gives a good take on the subject. Concentrate on the process, not the end result.

I still dont get how if you like a girl you have to not show it....

I understand it but its a silly concept....

exactly right guys.

I use hyperbole alot just to try and get across my point/spark discussion.Perhaps it should have been "conciously" try.

I read the other day that your subconcious mind operates 3 trillion times faster than your concious mind.

When you think about how easy the game is when you're "on" compared to out of state, this number seems about right..

you CAN let a girl know you like her. It just has to be at the right time. Many guys do it to early. Most guys who follow the ****y funny school of thought NEVER do it.

You tell her you like her after you two are vibing and she is showing you IOI's.

At this point, you can simply tell her she's sexy and then move the conversation along..

I see where you are trying to get backbreaker(I've backed up everything I wrote after this is unedited and speaking before I figured it out)

Read the book "achieving flow" just the first chapter should give you enough to describe where you are coming from. Getting in the zone is what happens when you are in a state of balance. When your skills meet the demand.

Originally posted by spitkicker
I read the other day that your subconcious mind operates 3 trillion times faster than your concious mind.

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Only a possibility friend. The messages can be transferred across several barriers, and the elctric signals in the brain can travel and gather old memory that much faster.

Only when the right nutrients are in place. When your blood is circing right, and that part of the subconcious mind has been anchored in reality. It's the reason why screwed up peopl are so hard to change. The myo lining in some parts of their brain distract them from learning new forms.
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Tomatoes, you can show it. You just don't show it ******dly, it becomes predictable.

Ever have a girl say to you "You don't want me to say it do you?"
I get it whenever I tease a girl so bad, and have her grabbing for my crotch. I pretend I have no idea what she is thinking, I egg her on that she is horny for me. I call her friends over and make her embarrassed.

There is an envelope of acceptance that every girl contends to. Some call it last minute resistance when you inch over the limits and than have to bring it back into play by calling her bluff to raise them. As backbreaker said in another thread, "girls are freakier than you can imagine" They've just got a problem with everything you do, the possibility of it not growing her emotions any further.

**Males are obsessed with suppressing their emotions. GIrls are obsessed about learning from them. I've taken it upon myself to learn about emotions, some day I may even read a book on emotional healing and intelligence, and take a few crash courses in experimental psychology. Until than I have to rely on active research and actually caring about peoples feelings.**