Sadies, just came by this Friday at my school. A week or two earlier, I got asked by three different girls, ranging from a hb 7-9 range. I politely turned all of them down. I found it would be easier to get more sets done if I wasn't committed to any one girl. Plus, if you turn down a girl, politely, of course, then you go anyway, the women's minds just light on fire trying to figure you out. "Wait a minute, he didn't want to go with me. Why is he even here? Who might he be with?!" This point I ran and exploited.

On the day of the dance, I made the decision to go anyway. When I got there, each of the three girls was dateless and it was easy to immerse myself in their sets. For those three hours, I ran four different sets almost simultaneously. Using a good dose of negs and humor, I grabbed the center of attention and used it to further my cause. I merged two sets, and I grabbed one of my friends and gave him one of the girls in my set.

One down, Two to go. On the last hour of the dance, I continued to crank up the negs and humor. I kiss-closed two of the girls easily, then got out of those two sets. I was on fire.

Three down, one for extra credit. This last one wasn't actually one of my targets during the night. She was one of those shy pretty asian girls. She had a smart mouth, but never bothered to confront me. I got into the set, ran some good C+F and negs on the whole set. When one of the slow-dances came along, I simply held her arm and we walked off to the middle of the floor and just swayed back and forth. It was a conditioning tactic I used because she was so timid. After that, I left her and the set and basically had a good time running around, instigating fun.

Results:

When the last slow-dance came, I saw a really nerdy AFC asking her to dance. I walked by, a good five yards away from where she was standing, and made eye contact, then I shook my head and rolled my eyes. (non-verbal neg) When she saw me, she turned down the AFC and walked up to me, using that wierd look and shrug as if silently asking me to dance. Well, I caught her on that and I tried one of my frame tests that I had been working on.

Me: What? Are you looking for me?
Her: Yea..
Me: Well, ask me to dance.
Her: Oh...uh...Will you come dance with me?
Me: Say please.
Her: Please?
Me: Twice.
Her: Please Please?

That was enough for me. Just in that interaction, I had gotten more than three IOIs. Try to spot them. Then I held out my hand, she put her hand in, and I led her off to the dance floor. She set her head down on my shoulder and tried to hold me closer, to which I obliged. After the song was over, she didn't let go, so I did. I backed off a few inches, and she just stood there, with her head in the exact same place, looking down at the floor. I put my forehead to hers, and tapped her on the chin to make her raise her head. After that, it was a matter of two inches. Easy. I had gotten more IOIs than I could even count. I kissed her, she reciprocated. After that, it was smooth sailing.

What I found so much more rewarding about this one girl was that I had to work the set HARD to get her attracted to me. Plus, I was just experimenting with the frame test that I quoted above. It seemed like she was giving me dozens of IOIs that she denied other guys. Another factor: She was one of those shy prudes. Instead of being an easy set, one of those girls that gets around. I liked how she was delicate and untouched. Well, hopefully you guys can learn what I did right, and what I did wrong. Help yourselves to some criticism. I'll be here waiting. Good times, good times.

-Damian

Thanks. I'll see if I can take it to the next step.

-Damian

How exactly did you politely say no to them when they asked you out?

And did you actually ahve to do much dancing? I kind of suck at it.

Good job mate

I simply said: "Sorry, I don't think I'm going."

Personally, I'm not so great at dancing either, but I've found an inherent capability to BS my own dancing skills by copying anybody who looks good doing it. Observe the ones who actually look cool when they're dancing. Not breakdancers, persay, but somebody who looks like they know what they're doing. If you think it looks cool, somebody else will. Mimic their style and see what works and what doesn't. Experiment and see what reactions you get.

One great peacocking tool I used were some color-changing rave light sticks. You can't find them anywhere in America and they'r so much better than plain glow-sticks because they change color. Because they're electronic, you can turn them off and use them forever. For some of the techno songs, I busted them out and did a little rave routine. This always grabs the center of attention while people are amazed by the flurry of lights.

-Damian