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I've taken a few months break from posting, only recently starting again. This is the first major essay in a month and a half, and for good reason too. Everyone should take the time to read this.
~ [I also find the century font is excellent]
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I look at the threads and I collect information, I analyze other people's problems and study the interaction described by yourselves. I've come to the conclusion that while everyone is so intent on figuring out how they think they messed up with a girl, how they plan to do this and that, and how they are puzzled at the reaction. I've read so much off this forum, and I see the same mistakes again. I even have read things that should have worked, but the guy came back with rejection.
How is it that you've complicated your life so much, fine-tuned your methods of interaction, and let your natural analyzatical processes be overwritten by the "Was that a AFC/DJ/Jerk move?" "Did I apply enough of x, did I do too much y" "Why the hell didn't this plan work" and the personal favorite, "What did I do wrong?"
I never put much forethought into applying KINO, doing SS, being C&F, doing all of those things on purpose, because when you start thinking about "I'm going to touch her here,..maybe..", "I'm going to say this if she does this" you've already failed yourself in being unique. All too much have I read the failures everyone has posted about, to filter it down to only one thing. Every single person that has a failure failed to do the most important step. No matter if you are a PUA, a rAFC, a total newbie at dating or the happily married guy, the stuff I've read on this forums is all overlapping one thing in common that has made the failures.
I know I've caught your attention by now, and that's what proper personal essay writing is meant to achieve. By now, you won't stop reading until I feed you the answer to all of your failures. Ironically enough, it's been stapled on the forums so much, you've overlooked it as nothing but a idea, favouring your way of doing things. Today, I hope that you will think different.
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Take a step back from reality and lapse into a semi-awake state, something like nighttime drowsiness. Consider your dreams, your aspirations, your current situation and your past. Are you being your best self?
Let's take an example. Pick 5 ways you approach women. For each of those 5 ways, figure out if you feel uncomfortable using that way, like it feels false or just not right. You may have studied the styles used here, you may have used all of them at one point, but which ones do you feel good with. It's like when a girl asks you kindly if you could buy her a beer. She might not be the cutiest but you could..
a) Bust her balls on her calling you a bank
b) Refuse (angry)
c) Refuse (lightly)
d) Buy (reluctantly..)
e) Buy (because you want to)
f) Don't buy the drink, proceed onto something else pre-determined
g) Don't buy the drink, proceed onto something normal.
So, there should be one example in there that appeals to you and it'd be something you do, there are some that feel so-so, and some that you are just not comfortable in doing. This analogy applies to every single instance of life's events.
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The lesson this article has to tell you about every failure you've had is......being good at one or two methods will ensure more success then being weak at multiple methods, or chosing the wrong method for the wrong moment.
Develop a feel for your skills, experience multiple ways of doing things and create your own successful way of doing things based on it. Being comfortable and knowing what you are doing yields more potential for everything in life, and only experience and finding yourself will display the confidence and security this site aims to teach.
~ [I also find the century font is excellent]
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I look at the threads and I collect information, I analyze other people's problems and study the interaction described by yourselves. I've come to the conclusion that while everyone is so intent on figuring out how they think they messed up with a girl, how they plan to do this and that, and how they are puzzled at the reaction. I've read so much off this forum, and I see the same mistakes again. I even have read things that should have worked, but the guy came back with rejection.
How is it that you've complicated your life so much, fine-tuned your methods of interaction, and let your natural analyzatical processes be overwritten by the "Was that a AFC/DJ/Jerk move?" "Did I apply enough of x, did I do too much y" "Why the hell didn't this plan work" and the personal favorite, "What did I do wrong?"
I never put much forethought into applying KINO, doing SS, being C&F, doing all of those things on purpose, because when you start thinking about "I'm going to touch her here,..maybe..", "I'm going to say this if she does this" you've already failed yourself in being unique. All too much have I read the failures everyone has posted about, to filter it down to only one thing. Every single person that has a failure failed to do the most important step. No matter if you are a PUA, a rAFC, a total newbie at dating or the happily married guy, the stuff I've read on this forums is all overlapping one thing in common that has made the failures.
I know I've caught your attention by now, and that's what proper personal essay writing is meant to achieve. By now, you won't stop reading until I feed you the answer to all of your failures. Ironically enough, it's been stapled on the forums so much, you've overlooked it as nothing but a idea, favouring your way of doing things. Today, I hope that you will think different.
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Take a step back from reality and lapse into a semi-awake state, something like nighttime drowsiness. Consider your dreams, your aspirations, your current situation and your past. Are you being your best self?
Let's take an example. Pick 5 ways you approach women. For each of those 5 ways, figure out if you feel uncomfortable using that way, like it feels false or just not right. You may have studied the styles used here, you may have used all of them at one point, but which ones do you feel good with. It's like when a girl asks you kindly if you could buy her a beer. She might not be the cutiest but you could..
a) Bust her balls on her calling you a bank
b) Refuse (angry)
c) Refuse (lightly)
d) Buy (reluctantly..)
e) Buy (because you want to)
f) Don't buy the drink, proceed onto something else pre-determined
g) Don't buy the drink, proceed onto something normal.
So, there should be one example in there that appeals to you and it'd be something you do, there are some that feel so-so, and some that you are just not comfortable in doing. This analogy applies to every single instance of life's events.
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The lesson this article has to tell you about every failure you've had is......being good at one or two methods will ensure more success then being weak at multiple methods, or chosing the wrong method for the wrong moment.
Develop a feel for your skills, experience multiple ways of doing things and create your own successful way of doing things based on it. Being comfortable and knowing what you are doing yields more potential for everything in life, and only experience and finding yourself will display the confidence and security this site aims to teach.
