Doctormad
Don Juan
With what has happened to me in the past week, (breaking up with my gf, leaving my job, having a bit of a fallout with my bestfriend/roommate), I have been thinking of packing up everything and moving to a completely new part of the country. In the area that I am living now, there is a fair number of jobs but also a lot of competition for them. The city I was thinking of moving to has companies that are begging for people to work for them, so finding a job will not be that difficult, even one in my field.
Since my belief is quality time over quantity time, if and when I do move I plan to do whatever I can to make extra money. However, I would also like to have a bit of a social life and build a circle of friends. However there are some considerations to take into account for.
1) Bars and nighclub are not really my thing anymore. I have never really felt comfortable in that setting, and although I occasionally do like to go to have a drink from time to time, I dont want to be doing the barhopping thing again.
2) I have a bit of social anxiety. Its not as bad as it used to be but from time to time it can flare up. I feel most at ease in a house party type enviroment, I feel most nervous in a nightclub or bar setting (hence my reasons for not wanting to do #1 anymore). I also do have a hard time opening up to people for friendships, not because I want to seem like a snob, but in the past I have been burned by people who pretended to be my friends.
3) While I am far from being over-the-hill. I am not young anymore, although I have no problems with hanging out with people younger than I (after all, people who meet me misguess my age by between 5 and 8 years).
With those considerations in mind, how would I go about meeting people in a brand new city with a potentially brand new job? I know this topic has been covered before but I wanted a fresh perspective. Oh, and if this helps I am a computer/network tech by trade, and an avid mountain biker/hiker
Since my belief is quality time over quantity time, if and when I do move I plan to do whatever I can to make extra money. However, I would also like to have a bit of a social life and build a circle of friends. However there are some considerations to take into account for.
1) Bars and nighclub are not really my thing anymore. I have never really felt comfortable in that setting, and although I occasionally do like to go to have a drink from time to time, I dont want to be doing the barhopping thing again.
2) I have a bit of social anxiety. Its not as bad as it used to be but from time to time it can flare up. I feel most at ease in a house party type enviroment, I feel most nervous in a nightclub or bar setting (hence my reasons for not wanting to do #1 anymore). I also do have a hard time opening up to people for friendships, not because I want to seem like a snob, but in the past I have been burned by people who pretended to be my friends.
3) While I am far from being over-the-hill. I am not young anymore, although I have no problems with hanging out with people younger than I (after all, people who meet me misguess my age by between 5 and 8 years).
With those considerations in mind, how would I go about meeting people in a brand new city with a potentially brand new job? I know this topic has been covered before but I wanted a fresh perspective. Oh, and if this helps I am a computer/network tech by trade, and an avid mountain biker/hiker
