silverwex
Master Don Juan
Silverwex's Approach Guide: From Shy to Pro: ULTIMATE SHYNESS BREAKER
A lot of guys have read 100's of hours of tips & techniques on how to overcome your fear of approaching women. I myself, up until last week, was one of those guys that just couldn't 'get' or 'apply' these guidelines to the real world.
Now, thankfully, I think I've come up with the 'answer' to getting your butt off that seat and over to that hottie - it was all a big 'accident' but, thankfully, this procedure works for you guys that 'just can't do it!'... well, at least it did for me, a self proclaimed 'no-way-am-I-EVER-gonna-approach-as-it's-just-too-scary' type of guy.
The 'course' is approximately 6 weeks long.
The following are steps you MUST follow to feel the full effects of this guide. Enjoy!
NB: These tips are rather different than other tips you'll find in the Tips section - but please bare with me...
STEP 1: Get Interested... WEEKS 1 - 6
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
For the next few weeks (3+ weeks) I want you to get totally immersed in all things seduction. Really get into it! Realise that you must become boderline obsessed with the whole seduction community. Read as many articles as you can on approaching/opening and how
to read women. I really want you to read the following books also:
- The Game - Neil Strauss
- Mystery Method - Mystery
- Without Embarrassment - Michael Pilinski
- Double Your Dating - David DeAngelo
- A good NLP book
NB: When I say to get boderline obsessed with seduction, I don't mean neglect your studies, work, working out, family etc... Just read the above mentioned when you have a few free minutes/hours (evening time maybe?).
STEP 2: Imagine That... WEEKS 1 - 6+
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
You know when you go to bed and you're just lying there thinking about random silly things? This time is a massively important time in overcoming your fear of women.
For the next few weeks, everytime you go to bed, I want you to:
- IMAGINE being in your local pub/club/bookstore/cafe and seeing that HB you like
- SEE yourself walking up to her without ANY fear or embarrassment
- IMAGINE having a great conversation with her and that things are going great
- REMEMBER what you say to open up the conversation - what opener/line did you use? Or did you just say hi?
Do this EVERY night for approx. 3 weeks, or for as long as you feel - the longer the better! Keep thinking these pleasent thoughts until you fall asleep.
On a side note: Buy a hypnosis/NLP audio CD and use this to help visualise the above scenario.
STEP 3: Affirm It... WEEKS 1 - 6+
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
Affirmations are great to help us overcome fears/gain confidence/take on new views of the world change how we see ourselves.
For 10/15 minutes of every day, go somewhere quiet where you won't be disturbed and say your affirmations with conviction e.g.:
I (your name here) am confident in myself, every day I grow more confident in myself and my abilities. Girls love to be around me. I am a great conversationalist and always have something interesting to say. I approach girls easily, effectively and regularly. Approaching girls is easy to me. I like talking to girls and they like talking to me. I accept myself and am a worthy person. I am strong and powerful and can handle any situation I find myself in. I am funny, humurous and playful. I only look at the positive things in life.
Also, every free minute you get, use the above also. Even making up affirmation off the top of your head is a good idea!
STEP 4: Frame Yourself... WEEKS 1 - 6+
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
Every time you feel anxious or tense or uncomfortable - tell yourself that you're going to apply this situation to your frame! In other words, its YOUR WORLD! Take control!
I remember I was in a bar about to order a drink, I was quite anxious and sober (!), so I said:
SILVER: F this! This is MY FRAME, MY WORLD - all these other people are in MY WORLD and I rule it so there's no need to feel anxious! Im going to feel calm and relaxed now...
... suddenly I felt calm and relaxed and went about my business. Use this when you're feeling a bit 'off'.
Anchoring can also be used in this step, but it is not obligatory.
STEP 5: Go Out Alone... WEEK 4 **IMPORTANT STEP**
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
About 4 weeks into your training you HAVE to take this step. Go out to a bar/club on your own - for at least 20 minutes or 2 drinks - or the night if you can handle it.
This is a major step! If you feel like you can't handle it, arrange to meet your friends at a certain time in a certain pub and arrive there 20 minutes before they do. Then you can relax knowing that they'll be there soon.
Look at the TV in the bar, read a menu, play with your phone... whatever! The main point is that you're there on your own, out of your comfort zone and the longer you remain there the EASIER it gets. Soon you'll want to be there by your own you're enjoying it so much - no lie.
This step is so important as it gets rid of some of your social inhibitions and you don't really have to DO anything - just walk into a bar and hang around!
My story in regard to this step: This was my turning point in getting over my fear - I did this one weekend on a Saturday night and I felt great! A lot of my friends weren't out for various reasons that night so I headed out anyway (thankfully, I met my friends a bit later on in the night). I just stood around with a drink in my hand watching a footie match on TV and sniping a peak at the HB's on the side! I actually start enjoying this and am going to do this again sometime soon...
Tip: You MAY have a few drinks to ease yourself into this step - it still works in getting rid of your inhibitions - just try not to be drunk while applying this.
STEP 6: Stand Near... *OPTIONAL STEP* WEEKS 4 - 6
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
If you see a HB at the bar, go up so that you're standing beside her - NOTE: you're there to order a drink, not to chat her up! Stay
beside her for as long as possible (NOT in a stalker-like way!) and just realise that you're standing beside a HB - not THAT bad is it?!
Just get used to being in their presence and realise it gets so much easier the more you do it. This will make you come out of yourself that little bit more.
STEP 7 - Retail Therapy... *OPTIONAL STEP*
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
I always feel so much better in myself when I buy some new clothes that really compliment my physique -they tend to give me a confidence boost. Buy a nice shirt, top, pair of jeans... whatever and notice how good they can make you feel!
***********************************************
By now you should automatically be able to approach a girl in a bar... Don't ask why, it just works. This is what I did and I can approach girls now...
Right that's about it - before I finish up I just want to tell you my story and how the above helped me no end...
A few weeks ago I was bored one Sunday afternoon and was reading the Lifestyle section of the Irish Independent Newspaper.
'What's this?!' I asked myself as I spotted an article on Neil Strauss and his new book. Reading the piece with all my interest I suddenly realised I wanted to start approaching girls and getting more K(iss)/N(umber) closes. The article inspired me and from that moment I was thrown into the whole world of the PUA's - a side to seduction I never really bothered with.
I read:
- fastseduction.com
- Neil Strauss' The Game
- Mystery Method
- Michael Pilinski - Without Embarrassment
- Double Your Dating
- and LOTS more ebooks...
I was, and am still, totally mad into the whole PUA world. I want to be the best and this is the start of my journey.
Everyday I try to think of new openers, interesting questions and topics to ask HB's - I intend to use them at the weekends when I go out with the guys.
Within a few weeks of imagining approaching girls, telling myself I CAN and going to a bar/club on my own I suddenly felt this sense of calm overcome my body when I thought of approaching a HB.
I am more open with girls when I go out now and I'm loving it - it's going to get better aswell...!
Last week, I was in a local club and I saw a girl sitting on her own - I immediately stood up from my table, walked over and used my ****tail opener approach (this may be posted soon) on her. They there was a 4 set of HB's to my right, I was about to go over to them and use the same opener but for some reason I didn't - NOT BECAUSE I WAS SCARED (100% truth) I think I just was realising I had DONE IT and was taking it all in. I WOULD NEVER HAVE DONE THIS a few weeks ago - but I did it on Saturday. All because I used all the above techniques - I didn't plan these techniques, they just 'happened' and I am now over my fear of approaching women.
Before anyone puts this 'course' down - I want some of you guys who are too scared to approach to try it and let me know your results! 6 weeks of fun and learning isn't bad is it!? My head is on the line but I, like YOU GUYS will be, am CONFIDENT that YOU GUYS WILL APPROACH HBS soon...
Good luck and PM me if you're taking the challenge...
A lot of guys have read 100's of hours of tips & techniques on how to overcome your fear of approaching women. I myself, up until last week, was one of those guys that just couldn't 'get' or 'apply' these guidelines to the real world.
Now, thankfully, I think I've come up with the 'answer' to getting your butt off that seat and over to that hottie - it was all a big 'accident' but, thankfully, this procedure works for you guys that 'just can't do it!'... well, at least it did for me, a self proclaimed 'no-way-am-I-EVER-gonna-approach-as-it's-just-too-scary' type of guy.
The 'course' is approximately 6 weeks long.
The following are steps you MUST follow to feel the full effects of this guide. Enjoy!
NB: These tips are rather different than other tips you'll find in the Tips section - but please bare with me...
STEP 1: Get Interested... WEEKS 1 - 6
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
For the next few weeks (3+ weeks) I want you to get totally immersed in all things seduction. Really get into it! Realise that you must become boderline obsessed with the whole seduction community. Read as many articles as you can on approaching/opening and how
to read women. I really want you to read the following books also:
- The Game - Neil Strauss
- Mystery Method - Mystery
- Without Embarrassment - Michael Pilinski
- Double Your Dating - David DeAngelo
- A good NLP book
NB: When I say to get boderline obsessed with seduction, I don't mean neglect your studies, work, working out, family etc... Just read the above mentioned when you have a few free minutes/hours (evening time maybe?).
STEP 2: Imagine That... WEEKS 1 - 6+
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
You know when you go to bed and you're just lying there thinking about random silly things? This time is a massively important time in overcoming your fear of women.
For the next few weeks, everytime you go to bed, I want you to:
- IMAGINE being in your local pub/club/bookstore/cafe and seeing that HB you like
- SEE yourself walking up to her without ANY fear or embarrassment
- IMAGINE having a great conversation with her and that things are going great
- REMEMBER what you say to open up the conversation - what opener/line did you use? Or did you just say hi?
Do this EVERY night for approx. 3 weeks, or for as long as you feel - the longer the better! Keep thinking these pleasent thoughts until you fall asleep.
On a side note: Buy a hypnosis/NLP audio CD and use this to help visualise the above scenario.
STEP 3: Affirm It... WEEKS 1 - 6+
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
Affirmations are great to help us overcome fears/gain confidence/take on new views of the world change how we see ourselves.
For 10/15 minutes of every day, go somewhere quiet where you won't be disturbed and say your affirmations with conviction e.g.:
I (your name here) am confident in myself, every day I grow more confident in myself and my abilities. Girls love to be around me. I am a great conversationalist and always have something interesting to say. I approach girls easily, effectively and regularly. Approaching girls is easy to me. I like talking to girls and they like talking to me. I accept myself and am a worthy person. I am strong and powerful and can handle any situation I find myself in. I am funny, humurous and playful. I only look at the positive things in life.
Also, every free minute you get, use the above also. Even making up affirmation off the top of your head is a good idea!
STEP 4: Frame Yourself... WEEKS 1 - 6+
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
Every time you feel anxious or tense or uncomfortable - tell yourself that you're going to apply this situation to your frame! In other words, its YOUR WORLD! Take control!
I remember I was in a bar about to order a drink, I was quite anxious and sober (!), so I said:
SILVER: F this! This is MY FRAME, MY WORLD - all these other people are in MY WORLD and I rule it so there's no need to feel anxious! Im going to feel calm and relaxed now...
... suddenly I felt calm and relaxed and went about my business. Use this when you're feeling a bit 'off'.
Anchoring can also be used in this step, but it is not obligatory.
STEP 5: Go Out Alone... WEEK 4 **IMPORTANT STEP**
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
About 4 weeks into your training you HAVE to take this step. Go out to a bar/club on your own - for at least 20 minutes or 2 drinks - or the night if you can handle it.
This is a major step! If you feel like you can't handle it, arrange to meet your friends at a certain time in a certain pub and arrive there 20 minutes before they do. Then you can relax knowing that they'll be there soon.
Look at the TV in the bar, read a menu, play with your phone... whatever! The main point is that you're there on your own, out of your comfort zone and the longer you remain there the EASIER it gets. Soon you'll want to be there by your own you're enjoying it so much - no lie.
This step is so important as it gets rid of some of your social inhibitions and you don't really have to DO anything - just walk into a bar and hang around!
My story in regard to this step: This was my turning point in getting over my fear - I did this one weekend on a Saturday night and I felt great! A lot of my friends weren't out for various reasons that night so I headed out anyway (thankfully, I met my friends a bit later on in the night). I just stood around with a drink in my hand watching a footie match on TV and sniping a peak at the HB's on the side! I actually start enjoying this and am going to do this again sometime soon...
Tip: You MAY have a few drinks to ease yourself into this step - it still works in getting rid of your inhibitions - just try not to be drunk while applying this.
STEP 6: Stand Near... *OPTIONAL STEP* WEEKS 4 - 6
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
If you see a HB at the bar, go up so that you're standing beside her - NOTE: you're there to order a drink, not to chat her up! Stay
beside her for as long as possible (NOT in a stalker-like way!) and just realise that you're standing beside a HB - not THAT bad is it?!
Just get used to being in their presence and realise it gets so much easier the more you do it. This will make you come out of yourself that little bit more.
STEP 7 - Retail Therapy... *OPTIONAL STEP*
Approaching girls is easy for you, you can approach girls...
I always feel so much better in myself when I buy some new clothes that really compliment my physique -they tend to give me a confidence boost. Buy a nice shirt, top, pair of jeans... whatever and notice how good they can make you feel!
***********************************************
By now you should automatically be able to approach a girl in a bar... Don't ask why, it just works. This is what I did and I can approach girls now...
Right that's about it - before I finish up I just want to tell you my story and how the above helped me no end...
A few weeks ago I was bored one Sunday afternoon and was reading the Lifestyle section of the Irish Independent Newspaper.
'What's this?!' I asked myself as I spotted an article on Neil Strauss and his new book. Reading the piece with all my interest I suddenly realised I wanted to start approaching girls and getting more K(iss)/N(umber) closes. The article inspired me and from that moment I was thrown into the whole world of the PUA's - a side to seduction I never really bothered with.
I read:
- fastseduction.com
- Neil Strauss' The Game
- Mystery Method
- Michael Pilinski - Without Embarrassment
- Double Your Dating
- and LOTS more ebooks...
I was, and am still, totally mad into the whole PUA world. I want to be the best and this is the start of my journey.
Everyday I try to think of new openers, interesting questions and topics to ask HB's - I intend to use them at the weekends when I go out with the guys.
Within a few weeks of imagining approaching girls, telling myself I CAN and going to a bar/club on my own I suddenly felt this sense of calm overcome my body when I thought of approaching a HB.
I am more open with girls when I go out now and I'm loving it - it's going to get better aswell...!
Last week, I was in a local club and I saw a girl sitting on her own - I immediately stood up from my table, walked over and used my ****tail opener approach (this may be posted soon) on her. They there was a 4 set of HB's to my right, I was about to go over to them and use the same opener but for some reason I didn't - NOT BECAUSE I WAS SCARED (100% truth) I think I just was realising I had DONE IT and was taking it all in. I WOULD NEVER HAVE DONE THIS a few weeks ago - but I did it on Saturday. All because I used all the above techniques - I didn't plan these techniques, they just 'happened' and I am now over my fear of approaching women.
Before anyone puts this 'course' down - I want some of you guys who are too scared to approach to try it and let me know your results! 6 weeks of fun and learning isn't bad is it!? My head is on the line but I, like YOU GUYS will be, am CONFIDENT that YOU GUYS WILL APPROACH HBS soon...
Good luck and PM me if you're taking the challenge...
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