Desdinova
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 15, 2004
- Messages
- 11,665
- Reaction score
- 4,835
If you're getting tired of the dating game and thinking about finding a woman for the long-haul, this is for you.
In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with being fussy about finding the person you want to settle down with. Just remember that she's not going to be 100% perfect.
Put yourself together a list of what specifics you want and DON'T want in a mate. Looks shouldn't become a priority, but don't settle for someone you can't stand looking at. Also, since you SHOULD have a good amount of dating experience to back you up, you should have a good idea of what you can and can't tolerate in a woman. There's nothing wrong with being picky, since a Don Juan deserves a high quality woman!
However, if you settle with a woman solely for her looks, what are you going to do when her looks go downhill from age? If you aim for a trophy wife, your relationship will become stale because you ignored her personality when qualifying her for a long term mate.
Now, when you come across this ideal woman, you'll have to be able to attract her to you. This is where all the dating practice you've learned is going to come in handy. If you're not at a point where you can get almost any woman you want, you should work more on your dating skills. When this woman comes along, poor game will allow her to slip through your fingers. You should be able to pick and choose the women you date, rather than taking whatever scraps fall from the table.
Looking for a woman to settle down with shouldn't consume you so much that it becomes a point of worry and stress. There are a lot of low quality women out there, and it's going to take some time to find your ideal mate. Just go out and have fun, but keep your eyes open. Screen the women you date. If she quickly raises a red flag, she should not be considered for a LTR. But, don't forget to have fun! After all, dating is a way of passing time until you find the ideal woman to settle down with.
When qualifying a woman for a long-term or life-long commitment, she should have similar future goals as you do. This will give the two of you a better chance at succeeding in life goals. If you both want children, want to live in a house, and want to live in the same city, the both of you will be able to achieve these goals together. If her future goals aren't identical to yours, each of you will prevent the other from achieving those goals and neither of you will succeed. Your life together will become a tug-of-war, and your lives will forever be at a standstill.
Also, if you settle with a woman solely for her looks, what are you going to do when her looks go downhill from age? If you aim for a trophy wife, your relationship will become stale because you ignored her personality when qualifying her for a long term mate. When all is said and done, it's going to be her personality that will keep you attracted to her.
Last, but not least, NEVER, EVER settle with a woman because it's "the right thing to do". If you happen to get a woman pregnant, don't settle with her solely for the benefit of the child. A child will fare better if raised in a happy home than an unhappy one. There are no benefits from being raised by parents who are unhappy with each other. Your parents may be expecting you to tie the knot because of their morals. However, this is YOUR life, and you should do what is in your best interests. If she doesn't add quality to your life, there is no reason to stay with her despite what others may say.
Good luck and happy hunting!
In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with being fussy about finding the person you want to settle down with. Just remember that she's not going to be 100% perfect.
Put yourself together a list of what specifics you want and DON'T want in a mate. Looks shouldn't become a priority, but don't settle for someone you can't stand looking at. Also, since you SHOULD have a good amount of dating experience to back you up, you should have a good idea of what you can and can't tolerate in a woman. There's nothing wrong with being picky, since a Don Juan deserves a high quality woman!
However, if you settle with a woman solely for her looks, what are you going to do when her looks go downhill from age? If you aim for a trophy wife, your relationship will become stale because you ignored her personality when qualifying her for a long term mate.
Now, when you come across this ideal woman, you'll have to be able to attract her to you. This is where all the dating practice you've learned is going to come in handy. If you're not at a point where you can get almost any woman you want, you should work more on your dating skills. When this woman comes along, poor game will allow her to slip through your fingers. You should be able to pick and choose the women you date, rather than taking whatever scraps fall from the table.
Looking for a woman to settle down with shouldn't consume you so much that it becomes a point of worry and stress. There are a lot of low quality women out there, and it's going to take some time to find your ideal mate. Just go out and have fun, but keep your eyes open. Screen the women you date. If she quickly raises a red flag, she should not be considered for a LTR. But, don't forget to have fun! After all, dating is a way of passing time until you find the ideal woman to settle down with.
When qualifying a woman for a long-term or life-long commitment, she should have similar future goals as you do. This will give the two of you a better chance at succeeding in life goals. If you both want children, want to live in a house, and want to live in the same city, the both of you will be able to achieve these goals together. If her future goals aren't identical to yours, each of you will prevent the other from achieving those goals and neither of you will succeed. Your life together will become a tug-of-war, and your lives will forever be at a standstill.
Also, if you settle with a woman solely for her looks, what are you going to do when her looks go downhill from age? If you aim for a trophy wife, your relationship will become stale because you ignored her personality when qualifying her for a long term mate. When all is said and done, it's going to be her personality that will keep you attracted to her.
Last, but not least, NEVER, EVER settle with a woman because it's "the right thing to do". If you happen to get a woman pregnant, don't settle with her solely for the benefit of the child. A child will fare better if raised in a happy home than an unhappy one. There are no benefits from being raised by parents who are unhappy with each other. Your parents may be expecting you to tie the knot because of their morals. However, this is YOUR life, and you should do what is in your best interests. If she doesn't add quality to your life, there is no reason to stay with her despite what others may say.
Good luck and happy hunting!
