There is no one man, and more importantly any one woman, that can tell you one thing that is the apex of all attraction. All preferences are simply part of a priority list. They are different for every person and for every person the order of these preferences change with time and experience. Although being a suitable person in all aspects is good practice, nailing the right mix to yield a maximum interest level can sometimes be a game of odds. But in this world of odds there is always one universal truth: In the right mold, something different will always be the instinctive focus of interest over the usual, whether we like it or not. What matters is one thing and one thing only: How we react to it.

When learning how to take advantage of this fact, the first mistake is the belief that whatever this element of difference is, that in the mold of attracting women it must be in the order of high attraction, whether it's being funnier, stronger or more intelligent than the norm of men in the meet market. The problem with this idea is that it usually requires an excessive effort that depends on one vital attractive trait, which as I discussed earlier may or may not be high on the list of any particular person's interest. Because interest by uniqueness is instinctual, we need not take strong measures to take advantage of it's potentials. We are called to attention naturally regardless of how impressive it may or may not be. Sometimes the most trivial things can be the most attractive, and simplistic measures can be taken to fire it up.

To begin understanding how to wield this advantage to our own best interests, we have to first recognize status quo. We have to tune into the norm in every social aspect, be that in conversation or other. To make it all easier, lets just define status quo as the expected and the usual. It is the normal response in conversation. It is the expected reaction in any given event. It is that thing we all know is coming and only serves the purpose of elaboration. What is your name? This is my name. Where are you from? This is where I am from.

By this definition, in the context of a conversation we can begin to develop examples of how to inject a uniqueness in almost effortless ways, which serve no other purpose than to violate the norm and create questions and challenges in the minds of our targets. Lets begin with some simple interaction:

LJC: Excuse me. What is your name?
HB: Alexis.
LJC: (pause. grin.) Alexis. Hmm. (walks away).

You're probably wondering what the outcome could possibly be. How a woman might react to such a situation. Will it be good? Will it be bad? Is it corny or cool? You weigh the pros and cons in your head. It's mystery on one the hand. Just plain odd & stupid behavior on the other. There isn't a person that could not respond with their own opinion on what may transpire. But whatever the sprockets in your head are churning out, there is one thing that is certain: It wasn't expected, and it doesn't matter what she is thinking. She is thinking of you none the less. Of course, greater guidance on how to turn these unusual interactions into successful outcomes rather than disaster is a matter of conversation and experience, but the effect is indisputable: people are forced to wonder, and when that happens, there is always an uneasiness that will often lead to seeking the answers to our questions. We may ask ourselves. We may ask a friend. But we always ask.

When we move on into the effort of yielding positive results from these sorts of actions, we have to learn to recognize the fine line between uniqueness and just plain abnormal behavior that leads to disinterest. Abnormalities arrive from the inability to ease concerns, and in the practice of highlighting uniqueness, you must possess an aggressive nature to deliver that ease. You must have the ability to re-inject yourself and counter-weigh your own uniqueness by embracing the status quo itself; you must deliver the expected. But look where you are now. You are engaging in the usual, hum drum, normal and expected conversation, and you're doing it with a lace of mystery attached at zero effort. As peculiar as you may have been 10 minutes ago, the perfectly normal man before her now will lure her into probing, if only to answer a burning question and nothing else. That's normal human behavior. It requires no attraction. It requires no skill. It is simple curiosity.

The conversational example above was a little extreme to serve a point, but it is always better the more subtle it is so long as the effect is the same. Extreme uniqueness is hard to counter and takes much more effort. To give an example of a more subtle form, lets take the former example down a different path:

LJC: Excuse me. What is your name?
HB: Alexis.
LJC: (pause....begins a short, interesting story and resumes normal, expected get to know you conversation from then on.)

Again, you're probably wondering what the outcome could possibly be. Why? It doesn't matter so long as the moment is interesting. So she probably expected another question or your own introduction, but you're not a typical person. What if she rejects you? Who cares? These things don't concern you. You're not worried about acceptance and approval. You do your own thing. After all, what kind of person doesn't like to have a simple conversation? That's all it is. Isn't it? If someone approached me with an interesting story, do you think I wouldn't listen? Even if I didn't know their name? Do you really believe I wouldn't want to get to know someone who can make me laugh or think or wonder? I don't know what you're thinking, but I'll tell you this much: canned lines and the same old same old give me the dry heaves.