SORRY ABOUT THE LONGER POST - IT IS SPACED OUT THOUGH!!

I've been thinking about some "social" things at my school, basically from seeing and hearing about things.

First, where am I socially? Well, I've won Homecoming King two years in a row (for my grade), but I feel it doesn't really hold much value in the social sphere of our school? Why?

While I've impoved on this site and have tried repeatedly, I have never:
-Had a girlfriend (or a date)
-Had "first kiss"
-"Rounded the bases"

Chances are I'm the only HC King in history to accomplish this (I'm a Senior now - HC is in a little under a month). It seems weird at first, but I think there is some reason for it.

I feel a reason is because I don't go to a lot of parties and I'm not very "loud." I hardly drink (ever - in college, I'll drink a bit more), and at these parties, drinking is the norm. So somehow, people have a feeling I don't drink, smoke or any of that, and I think the more popular kids, especially the girls, may look down on that.

The other reason could be that I know the people in the main office well and teachers know me. I do present the morning announcements at my school, so that's how I really know the Principal, Vice Principals and the other people in hte main office (it has its benefits, but that takes some explaining). I also feel I present myself very professionally (demeanor-wise).

I don't really talk crap about anyone and have an open mind whenever I meet someone. I get along with all sorts of people, although I am close friends with just a few (that means LOTS of acquaintances, and most are good ones). Like I know the guys on the football team and all that, which is always good lol. Liek when I arrive somewhere, one of those guys shouts my nickname out (it's a good nickname) and is usually echoed by two or so other guys. So that's all good.

But again, there seems to be an apparent reason people know on why I don't even know about a lot of the parties (I've been to maybe a couple during high school). I hardly drink (in college, I will, but not really in high school), don't smoke and I seem to know a lot of people. I act "professionally" to teachers (at least a lot more so that most other students) and try to get along with most fellow students.

It seems like, especially with the girls, there's some word about me that I don't know about (maybe I'm wrong but it seems that way). Girls will approach my friends (some of them, and not counting football guys), but not me. I don't really hang out with them, but we'll talk once and then the bond is gone. Like at the HC Dance last year, girls came up to my friends and asked them to dance, while I got zero "asks" nor approaches.

Go figure. It's not a big deal to me, as I'm doing just fine. I was just curious if you guys had any ideas.

you seem way to uptight

Originally posted by The Master Disaster
you seem way to uptight

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I think it's more in the area of "self-consiousness".

I am actually very laid back and joke around a lot. I think a problem with me could be just that I am a little too concerned with the way people see me and I let it get into my head a little bit.

Like I know who a lot of people are when I pass them in the hall. Instantly, some mental notes pop into my head about them and I tend to remember it as well. I also am somehow aware with what goes on at school - when people ask me what/where/when something is, I seem to know, although I never tried to do this.

Who knows. I think it's more that I'm a bit self-consious than uptight. I'm not the loosest kid in school, but again, I am very laid bcak and joke around.

Relax. I'm sure most people in HS are self-consious anyway. It's just a mindset that you need to get over, you need a more confident approach. Think of all the stuff your good at. It sounds like your social skills are fine. Use them to your advantage and remember the mindset.

Originally posted by gravstar
Relax. I'm sure most people in HS are self-consious anyway. It's just a mindset that you need to get over, you need a more confident approach. Think of all the stuff your good at. It sounds like your social skills are fine. Use them to your advantage and remember the mindset.

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Sounds good. Thanks

I was able to do this the first week or two of school, but when things kicked in, I started thinking again. I'll try to maintain my laid-back approach and make the best of it.

Just keep tellling myself...
College is in a year
College is in a year
College is in a year
College is in a year... :woo:

ITS A SIMPLE EASY ANSWER! WAKE UP!!!!!!!! YOUR NICE! TOO NICE! PEOPLE LIKE BEING AROUND NICE PEOPLE! NICE PEOPLE ARE POPULAR! nice people aren't sexy though.


Got me Chaps? Take it easy.

Yeah man. You come off as a real nice guy.

You also seem to be a bit of a teacher's pet............ But I could be wrong!

One thing you don't want to do is have better realationships with the teachers than you have with the other kids at your school. I hated kids like that. They thought they were too good to be with immature teenagers. Thought they were more important than the other students. You may not think like that. But the other students may think of you like that.

I would personally drop the morning anouncment thingy, because that's probably adding to your nice guy rep. But you probably can't do that because you'll be letting the principle down. Ofcourse I wouldn't care what the principle thinks.

Try distancing yourself away from the principle and teachers at your school and start spending more time with other students.

Teacher's Pet?

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Maybe I worded that wrongly. What I meant in regard to teachers was that I don't act like a wise @$$ to them like a bunch of kids do. The VP and the Principal just know me. But I don't really talk to most of my teachers - I just do what I'm supposed to do. I spend almost all my team praying class ends and chilling w/ friends.

But no way in h*ll am I a teacher's pet.

yeah you seem too nice... and to tell you the truth... the last dance i went to, i didnt have anyone approach me either....

..but i approached them instead and still got 6-7 grinds in like 3-4 hours

Man u gotta start talking to girls.. u cant just expect them to walk up to u all the time.. stop standing around and do something about it.. See now this is my little theory if u wanna call it a theory.. but the more girls u talk to and mack on will give u the bigger chance of getting girls to grind with u at the school dances.. then the girls u mack on will come up to u and dance wit u.. haha seeeee..

I get your point.

It's not like I never talk to girls. I've asked several out during high school (7?). I do talk to them, but I just never become great friends with them. Also, yes, they did come up to my friends at that dance - no lie.

I will work on this though. Also, I went on a field trip today (something with "Peer Counseling" where only 63/350 Seniors are selected). 31 went on the tip today (they split us in half). So we have to say some good things about a certain person in front of everyone (one of the activities) and some girl said I seem to be a very confident person, I can do my own thing and I look like I'm having a lot of fun whenever I do stuff. She also said she was talking this over with her friend that was also there, so that's pretty good (they have bf's, but still - they're social and don't look too bad).

So, I think all I really need to do is just approach more often right now - I feel I do approach, but not often enough )or enough to maintain it). What do you think?

yeh man i think u basically understand ur problem.. see what i do is. i approach every girl i think is hot.. but i guess some guys kinda take the approaching thing literally. like they think its actually going up to a girl and approaching them. that doesnt have to be neccessarily an approach.. Just standing in the lunch line and there is a hot girl behind u in line is an approach haha. but just talk to girls every wheres.