OK. This is my second year at the university. I am local so I don't live at the campus which is kinda bad for my social life

The first year kinda sucked. I barely get to know the people in my class, didn't really talk to anyone else.

This year, I decided to change that.

Most people are not locals and live at dorms so they spend a lot of time together, going to parties together and stuff.

I am trying to talk to everyone I can and basically trying to become a better conversationalist and more of a social person (need to handle this before I can think of hooking up with some gals).

The problem is that people here are actually quite cold and don't seem to be interested in anything but fluff talk. I have to try really hard to keep the conversation going. I have no problems with aproaching strangers, though.

I guess I need to spend more time with them but it feels weird to ask them to invite me to a party or something

Any advice? (this has always been really hard for me cos I am a lazy bastard but hey in the few days I talked to more people than the last year)

Glad to hear you're making progress.

As for expanding your social circles: A suggestion might be to go sarge girls. You'll prolly net yourself a sociable party chick, and she'll drag you into her social circle naturally.

Don't think too big, take it one person at a time. Don't instantly try to talk to everyone and have everyone love you. Especially that you say people there walk around with their panties in a bunch.

Thanks. Today, I talked to almost every person I met and even got a couple of phone numbers from both girls and guys.

And the best thing is ... I enjoy talking to people (it may feel a little bit forced now but the conversation should flow smoothly once I get some experience)

BTW. When I asked about the upcoming party everyone is like "I dont know, I think I will stay at home" lol am I more sociable than I thought?

Originally posted by arlanda
OK. This is my second year at the university. I am local so I don't live at the campus which is kinda bad for my social life

The first year kinda sucked. I barely get to know the people in my class, didn't really talk to anyone else.

This year, I decided to change that.

Most people are not locals and live at dorms so they spend a lot of time together, going to parties together and stuff.

I am trying to talk to everyone I can and basically trying to become a better conversationalist and more of a social person (need to handle this before I can think of hooking up with some gals).

The problem is that people here are actually quite cold and don't seem to be interested in anything but fluff talk. I have to try really hard to keep the conversation going. I have no problems with aproaching strangers, though.

I guess I need to spend more time with them but it feels weird to ask them to invite me to a party or something

Any advice? (this has always been really hard for me cos I am a lazy bastard but hey in the few days I talked to more people than the last year) [/B]

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Ok. You mad 2 excuses.
they are highlighted in bald. But you are on the right track.

Basically, guys and girls go to parties. so you're making the right move approaching guys (does that sound weird to anyone else aswell!? ).

Be sure to become more then just a guy these people might wave to if they see you. You actually need to become there friend. You feel uncomfortable inviting yourself to party with them, they'll feel uncomfortable inviting you to party with them. UNLESS they are your friend. All you need is one guy or one girl to start inviting you out. So concentrate on someone you know goes to parties. while at the parties continue being sociable and make more friends there.

Throwing your own party would be a great start. Bring all the people you've been meeting together and you'll have a rocking party and you'll get plenty of invites.