Man...I'm not gonna put my story up cus I don't feel like airing out my life on here...especially something hurtful like this. I'm just gonna say that this one girl...who I thought was practically perfect...she was really nice, smart, and to me she was really pretty...I got basically played by this girl. She didn't cheat on me but...I can't explain the story without alotta words and I'm feeling to down right now to do it.

I just wanted to get my feelings out a bit...and to ask you guys if there's anyway to make it easier on yourself. I wanna forget this girl so much right now but I spent so much time thinking about her for almost a year.....it's sad it had to end like this way. I feel like I wasted so much time just thinking about her....I found this site cus I was thinkin of her....I started so many things to improve myself (excercise, sociability,etc.) just to catch her interest. And she LIKED me...something just happened...Fuk man....I just need something positive or something right now....this feeling makes me wanna breakdown but I'm also tryna keep my dignity through it all....i dont know what to think right now.....

It's a profound phrase....



"NEXT!!!"




Sincerely, you have two options my friend.

1) Think about her, recover, wait for the next girl, feel pain

2) Start meeting new women and kino and C.F. and live life to the fullest....

Such hard questions. Good Luck

Get your life together man. A ***** isn't worth your emotion.

You were too optamistic. You can't just let her take control of your emotions just like that. Take a step back and look at the big picture...........
It's only one chick.

Live life and love it !

There are heaps of girls that are at your standards out there, all thats missing is you getting out there and getting 'in the game' !

To get your mind off her, just do things that you enjoy doing, ie. sport, movies, music, dinner with friends, a night out with the guys, golf, running, gym, school work, sleeping, tv shows .... anything that you want to do !

No use thinking what might have been, because it's not going to happen anymore; learn from these mistakes.

I've just had a simliar experience; I got to know this girl who lives near me and goes to my school, we catch the same bus, I got attracted to her, asked her out and she said "I need more time to get over my ex-bf". Fair enough I thought, then a week later she is going back out with him ! I was feeling pretty pissed, I can tell you! We still sit together on the bus, i've been over to her house 2 times in the last week, just to watch tv, nothing sexual has happened, however I truly dont belive I want anything to happen - she already burnt me once, most likely she'll do it again! Sometimes I think we should be together, because she lives 5min away from me, she is alittle academic like me, and has the same interests as me, however I think you get to a point where you realise, and i've just gone past this point! Not going to take any of her crap anyway!

eep! sorry to ramble in your thread! goodluck and I hope i've helped you somehow !

:cheer:

I know just how ya feel. Same thing happened to me. Fell in love with this chick, then she broke my heart and started dating someone else. I came on here looking for positive remarks. Only thing I got was people saying, "NEXT!" and "Forget her". That only made me feel worse.
But eventually I started to get over her. Hint: Instead of thinking of all the good things about her, think about all the negative. eg. how shes a player, how she thinks of no one but herself, enjoys fooling guys (these are just ideas). Then she came out of the relationship and are we are now closer than ever, and are now going to the prom.

I'm not sure exactly whats happened in your situation. But remember. Anything can happen. Chin up!
When lifes down, theres only one way to go.

Best of luck to ya mate.

Ca/\ something kinda similar happened to me. This girl had to take time to "get over her BF". So I thought she was worth it and waited...that was in March. We did things in between that can counted as semi-dating but only because she liked me but wasn't ready to commit to something. I found out now that she don't like me anymore. I feel so fukin stupid.........

But thanks yall (Redbyte, ca/\,gravstar, sammo, gatekeeper....just felt like givin u a shout haha). About "nexting" her and just kinoing and dating random girls: that's really not me. I'm not a wimp or a pu$$y, it's just not my style to start pimpin all these girls. I know that moping around ain't gonna help too so I'll move on to other girls asap...and get a date asap.

BTW, i notice yall use the "AFC" alot here to label people. This might seem like something that would make me a "AFC" but I'm just being real. I usually don't complain about my **** or get all emotional in front of people but....something like this isn't something that I can quickly get over. I'll try doing things to take my mind off her

That's why you try not to let people get too close to your emotions until after a good year or maybe even 2 years of dating. I'm sensing that she had your emotions quite instantly. Be careful, man, just remember, you're a DJ, you are confident, no woman can just put you in the ground like that. Heart breakers are tough, but "DJs" are much tougher.

Good Luck

Hey man, i think basically like all the other guys here, I have had the same thing happen to me, real recently too. Fell for a girl and we were together for three months. I was a great guy, and yet she broke up with me. It really sucked (my summer sucked, i even got into a car accident like an hour after we broke up that day)and eventually a couple weeks ago I talked with her about what really happened between us cause the excuse she gave me was most likely bs, she didnt think the relationship would be fair to me because she wouldnt have enough time in the school year, and we broke up in July. I asked her if it was something else and stuff and eventually she got mad cause I was asking basically the same question a couple of times ( when we talked about it a couple of weeks ago) and she still said it was about time. Although its bs cause if she cared she would have made time, time management, and so she just didnt care basically. Then i talked to basically a confidant of mine that is also a confidante of my xs, that I can trust and she told me that my ex told her the same thing she told me, which was time. So cause of this i thought my x might have been telling the truth. Well guess what, just last night I learned that my ex has a new bf! Yea easily I was pissed but o well. I didnt find out till after the fact that she "has a history" of doing **** to guys and being a ho. But o well cause you know what, I was great to her and she'll regret it, and also there's no chance she'll find a guy better than me so o well! Yea i got my heartbroken but we learn from our mistakes (even though I made none cause my ex was a biatch) and going through hard times is how we learn to live. So find the serenity in the chaos, keep yourself busy, meet other girls, and just fuking have fun with your life man!

Thanks DJ4Real and other guy (can't spell your name haha). I'm feeling a lil better today about it. I'll be back to my old self soon enough...she didn't exactly have my emotions "quickly" tho. I actually went to school with her freshman year and she was in my classes (and had a crush on me then). I wasn't even interested in her really. Things just started building up and I started seeing her as a different person during the second year. It kinda makes it worse because I really thought she was a QUALITY girl and I was willing to overlook some of her not-so-attractive qualities. I think now she's getting a big head or something because she's getting all "popular" and she's a cheerleader with lots of friends or whatever....I could be wrong but that's what I'm thinkin happened...

Lil ***** will regret it...I ain't just saying

Man...I'm not gonna put my story up cus I don't feel like airing out my life on here...especially something hurtful like this. I'm just gonna say that this one girl...who I thought was practically perfect...she was really nice, smart, and to me she was really pretty...

Listen to yourself, blabbing on about her! If I saw her on the street, I'm sure I could find something I didn't like about her. No one's perfect. I'm sure she had funny feet, weird eyebrows, or a funky odor. If I knew she was your girlfriend, I'd slap her for being so stupid.

I got basically played by this girl. She didn't cheat on me but...I can't explain the story without alotta words and I'm feeling to down right now to do it.

Play back homie... it aint nothin.



I just wanted to get my feelings out a bit...and to ask you guys if there's anyway to make it easier on yourself. I wanna forget this girl so much right now but I spent so much time thinking about her for almost a year.....it's sad it had to end like this way. I feel like I wasted so much time just thinking about her....I found this site cus I was thinkin of her....I started so many things to improve myself (excercise, sociability,etc.) just to catch her interest. And she LIKED me...something just happened...Fuk man....I just need something positive or something right now....this feeling makes me wanna breakdown but I'm also tryna keep my dignity through it all....i dont know what to think right now.....

Dont EVER do something for her to like you. She has to like you 'as is'. If she don't like it, she can kiss your ass. Someone out there is a better fit for you. Obviously she wants to be with player-type guys, and you're obviously not that. You're a recovering AFC, and you need to work on your skills diligently.

Do your favorite hobbies, and concentrate on improving yourself, and making yourself feel good.

I went out with this one broad, my first love. I still wonder where she's at, that never leaves. Even tho I was an AFC, and I REALLY messed it up, I don't care where she's at, that she lost her virginity to someone else, cuz she's a nobody, she will always be a nobody, her boyfriend is a queer, and I'm a man who can get any girl he wants. I'm a pimp player and I refuse to go down to some dumb broad.

Forget that loser... you dont need her. I was just like that last year and I look back and call myself a ***** oh and another thing.. if she tries to make you her friend... dont be

Well, you know, when someone is really attracted to someone else. They tend to overlook the bad things about them.

Thanks again. I think I'm ok now in terms of getting over that "pain"...