So my g/f is pretty hot. She's also a bit superficial. It's hard to get a meaningful relationship outta her. Well, I managed to do this and I was real proud, right? I mean, this is something other guys couldn't do and I did it. So I'm thinkin I'm pretty slick.


Well I realized something. I may have made her care about me, but at the same time I'm using her. Not in a bad way tho. Like every time I need a ride she gives it to me, she always pay when we go out places. I don't really do anything. She has complained about it once to her friends, but the thing is she is still crazy about me (as far as I can tell). So, thats not bad right? I think that in the process of getting what I want I come across as more alpha, which in turn makes her want me more and do more for me. It's a pretty good cycle.


Any thoughts? I dunno, this just came to me 5 minutes ago and I thought I'd share.

Yeah, that sounds about right.

However - and this is something that a lot of people on this forum seem to ignore - it is not necessarily good for a serious relationship to be a ****head. it will eventually start to piss her off. You will get in fights over things - it will cause turmoil. You shouldn't take any shyt from her, but you should reward her when she does something that deserves it. Take her out to dinner sometime or bring her a favourite candy or item - but don't let her think she deserves it just because of who she is. Make sure she knows that it's because of a specific thing she did or how she acted. You don't want her to get totally comfortable but you do want her to feel good about the relationship. If all you do is mooch off of her, she will eventually start to question why she is even involved with you. And you will start to question why you are involved with her. Remember - the romance isn't just for her - it is for both of you.

~Sloopy

Relationships eventually become a give / take sorta' thing. So at some point your "take" is going to have to a bit of "give" or it will fail.