Is it my imagination, or do the hopeless “Nice Guys” – those eunuch priests desperate for a goddess to worship and serve – actually have less difficulty getting and keeping women than does the DJ initiate? I understand that this has a lot to do with the woman’s desire for worship and service, but why is it that these apparent losers seem to have the same sense of worthiness – of entitlement to women – as do the guys who sleep with a brand new woman every night?
I hear them speaking in their brains to the woman in a confident, almost bragging voice: “I am a perfect gentleman. I am respectful, affectionate, attentive, and loyal. I will give you what you want. I will be there for you. All others are misogynistic scum compared to me.” With the obvious exception of the specific words, why does this sound so much like the attitude of the ultimate DJ, the idea of “I am what women want and they would be fools to reject me.” Against all logic, these guys are proud of who they are, and only complain about the woman refusing to sex them.
When I compare this with the attitude of the DJ initiate, furiously struggling to live up to a new standard that he falls far short of – “Gotta be sexual, gotta be masculine, gotta be ****y & funny, gotta be buff, gotta be rich. Oh God, oh God, she's going to reject me because I suck.” – the comparison seems all the more paradoxical.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but as messed up as the “Nice Guy” may be in his tactics, his underlying belief “I deserve ________” is as it should be, whereas the DJ initiate, as spot on as his behavior may be, motivates it from a profound feeling of being unworthy of hot women as he is.
This all started to make sense when I realized that what sabotages me personally is not flawed "Nice Guy" methods, but the moment of hesitation that arises from questioning "Am I man enough for her?" When I look over the qualifications of a real man in my head, I see that I fall just as far short of the standard as anyone else. This causes me to think that I do not deserve hot women, and this fall into the abyss of diminished self-esteem spreads elsewhere and create the sense of not deserving any random thing: average women, friends, muscles, money, even happiness.
Perhaps this is another part of what stops a lot of the rest of you, the doubt that's been placed in your head that you are not as a man should be, the belief that since you are sub-par as men go, there is no place for you in the world of real men, and that because of all this, you have no right to any of the things I mentioned above.
If this isn't the case, great, you're well on your way to achieving anything you could ever want. If it is, however, perhaps there's some way to deal with it.
I hear them speaking in their brains to the woman in a confident, almost bragging voice: “I am a perfect gentleman. I am respectful, affectionate, attentive, and loyal. I will give you what you want. I will be there for you. All others are misogynistic scum compared to me.” With the obvious exception of the specific words, why does this sound so much like the attitude of the ultimate DJ, the idea of “I am what women want and they would be fools to reject me.” Against all logic, these guys are proud of who they are, and only complain about the woman refusing to sex them.
When I compare this with the attitude of the DJ initiate, furiously struggling to live up to a new standard that he falls far short of – “Gotta be sexual, gotta be masculine, gotta be ****y & funny, gotta be buff, gotta be rich. Oh God, oh God, she's going to reject me because I suck.” – the comparison seems all the more paradoxical.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but as messed up as the “Nice Guy” may be in his tactics, his underlying belief “I deserve ________” is as it should be, whereas the DJ initiate, as spot on as his behavior may be, motivates it from a profound feeling of being unworthy of hot women as he is.
This all started to make sense when I realized that what sabotages me personally is not flawed "Nice Guy" methods, but the moment of hesitation that arises from questioning "Am I man enough for her?" When I look over the qualifications of a real man in my head, I see that I fall just as far short of the standard as anyone else. This causes me to think that I do not deserve hot women, and this fall into the abyss of diminished self-esteem spreads elsewhere and create the sense of not deserving any random thing: average women, friends, muscles, money, even happiness.
Perhaps this is another part of what stops a lot of the rest of you, the doubt that's been placed in your head that you are not as a man should be, the belief that since you are sub-par as men go, there is no place for you in the world of real men, and that because of all this, you have no right to any of the things I mentioned above.
If this isn't the case, great, you're well on your way to achieving anything you could ever want. If it is, however, perhaps there's some way to deal with it.
