Since you were born, your life has been constantly changing and you do not even realize it. You learned to walk, talk, potty train, ect. All of these things were major changes in your life that you never even realized. Socially life has changed for you drastically and while it happend you never knew it. Think about it like, when you were in kindergarten, you and your peers used to sit in a circle and the teacher sat in the middle of it with you. Everyone was an equal then because you could see everyone in your class and that brought you all together as a unit. The teacher was even your equal then because that sat in that circle with you. After kindergarten, you ever the first grade where you no longer sit in the circle, you sit in rows. All of a sudden that unit is broken up because you can no longer see everyone's face. When someone behind you talks, you just hear a voice and do not see the expression in thier face when they talk. And if you want to see their face, then you have to turn around and look at them. And when you talk the person behind you cannot see your face period. You are no longer teamates you are now an individual who people must go out of their way to look at rather when you were in the circle you could see everyone. As you get older, this since of individualism increases because you are stuck in rows until you graduate. People are going to wanna see your face when you talk and when they look and you are their focal point, All eyes are on you as an individual and they pay on attention to anything else even though ther are 20+ more people in the room. And you do this to everyone else and do not realize it. Because of this, some people love being the focus while others do not. That helps shape you out socially and you are not even realizing it. A lot of kids in school are afraid to speak out in fear of what their peers may think about them. For the males that are like this this effects them a lot later in life. For this fear is the very reason why many guys are afraid to approach. Think about it, if you were afraid to speak out in class in school, then their is a good chance that you are afraid to approach because you have the same insecure feeling. As far as approaching goes I want you to look at it in this perspective. Go back to a time when you were afraid to answer a question even though you knew what the right answer was. Now why were you scared? If the answer was right then you really have nothing to be afraid of. Your fear stems from being scared of being focused on. Makes no sense when you had the right answer though, because it will help the rest of the class better understand the material. When someone else answers it with YOUR answer then you having a feeling of regret for letting them steal your spotlight that you were scared of to begin with. Now apply this same concept to approaching. You may have been an AFC before discovering this site, and did not have the nessesary knowledge to approach. But now that you have found this site which was another huge change in your life, you have all of the tools that you needed before. For some guys, even after aquiring all of this knowledge they still do not approach. They know the answer to the question but they are afraid to say it so to speak. Why would you waste this knowledge that you have heard from many, many people say that its effective. Doesn't make since does it. So the next time you are afraid to approach just remember that you have the knowledge that you need, you just need to apply it. If you can do this then guess what? You just made a huge change in your life. Before I shut up I would have one final note. Remember that life is constantly changing and the passed up opportunities of today are the regrets of tommorow.

Not reading that -- learn to use paragraphs.

Although this was tough to read, I have to admit it's an excellent post. i love the analogy you used. You've actually inspired me to approach more. Thanks a lot, Now I'm gonna go approach more women, if you'll excuse me :woo:

in school the guys that answered all the questions still couldnt approach in future, sometimes girls loved the silent type so i guess this theory dont really add up. if your an afc then your an afc regardless of how many questions you answered in scool. ppl usually change with time.
im just giving an example u made a good post i liked it.

"Knowing is not enough, we must apply"
-Bruce Lee

That pretty much sums up the thread for people who are lazy to read the post. Good analogy with the classrooms and stuff. I can relate...